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His mum teaching me to cook

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user1490465531 · 28/02/2018 14:59

If you were dating someone who said they would get their mum to teach you how to cook would you take offence at this or see it as a jokey comment.
Know it's a random comment just don't know how to take it.

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gamerchick · 28/02/2018 15:01

Well I wouldn’t be cooking for them again that’s for sure Grin cheeky git.

Was he joking or does he really love mummy’s cooking?

milkmoustache · 28/02/2018 15:04

How about his mum teaching her son to cook first?

user1493413286 · 28/02/2018 15:05

I’d suggest their mum teaches them to cook instead

BertrandRussell · 28/02/2018 15:05

Depends. Is she Mary Berry?

TheQueenOfWands · 28/02/2018 15:05

Once is a jokey comment.

Any more than that and he has isshoos.

Does he live at home with mummy?

Mymouthgetsmeintrouble · 28/02/2018 15:06

What i would say would start with f and end with f

littlemisscomper · 28/02/2018 15:06

That depends. Were you moaning about our lack of cooking skill?

TheQueenOfWands · 28/02/2018 15:06

If she's Mary Berry ditch him and ask her out instead.

That woman is a goddess.

tinkywinky2018 · 28/02/2018 15:06

Depends. Can you cook?

Original poster
user1490465531 · 28/02/2018 15:07

He's not English parentage although born here so it kind of made me think is he a bit of a mummy's boy.
Had that before and don't want it again.

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user1490465531 · 28/02/2018 15:08

He lives in same road as mum and is always round there

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TopShagger · 28/02/2018 15:08

As previous posters have pointed out, it depends. If you knew it was obviously a joke then take it as one rather than choosing to be offended.

Can you add a bit more info? Was he suggesting his mum teach you to cook some specific dish or cook in general? How did it come about?

breakfastBus · 28/02/2018 15:08

Is she a good cook and a good teacher?

What's offensive about it?

Do we now need to refuse to be good cooks 'cuz feminism'?

Original poster
user1490465531 · 28/02/2018 15:11

maybe I took it the wrong way just I had simular before with someone so maybe getting a little over the top with the comment.

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Original poster
user1490465531 · 28/02/2018 15:12

In his nationality mums do everything for their sons but he was born here

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Birdsgottafly · 28/02/2018 15:13

If he's from a different Culture and it's national dishes, then I wouldn't be offended.

It depends on if he wants you to do all the cooking and you aren't up for that.

My girls are close to me and I was to my Mum and Nan, but I was still independent, so all that's an indicator of is that he's got a good relationship with his Mum.

It doesn't sound as though you are compatible, tbh.

Graphista · 28/02/2018 15:13

"He lives in same road as mum and is always round there" run like the fucking wind!

He wants to eat food "like mummy makes" she can teach HIM to cook it. But the post I quoted would have me running for the hills.

You say you've had a similar experience before - time to explore why you're attracted to boys not men?

Birdsgottafly · 28/02/2018 15:15

It doesn't matter that he was born here. His Mum has followed her Culture and he is going with it.

You may not find it suits you. You need to work out each others expectations and if they will work together.

DrunkUnicorn · 28/02/2018 15:18

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PlanNumber · 28/02/2018 15:19

It was intended as a jokey comment but would question the kind of man he is to think it was funny. As we know, many a true word spoken in jest. I think jokes are rarely entirely unmeant.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 28/02/2018 15:21

To be honest, I'd smack him in the face with a frying pan!!!

In his nationality mums do everything for their sons but he was born here

Be very wary that he doesn't expect YOU to do the same. I'd run for the hills...

BertrandRussell · 28/02/2018 15:23

I suppose it depends on the conversation. "I absolutely love X!" "Oh, my mum makes amazing X- I'll ask her to show you" or "Hmm- is this what we're having for dinner? I'll have to get my mum to teach you how to cook" One is OK- the other isn't.

Married3Children · 28/02/2018 15:28

Also please remembervthat it’s not because he is born in this country that he will automatically think in a certain way.
First there is a huge variation in what is considered normal within the british society.
But also his parents culture will have influenced him a lot too (even if he was born here).

I have to say, my first answer would have been along the lines of ‘what about your mum is teaching you how to cook’.
And then having a think about what sort of re.atuonhsip is actually expecting (eg being waited on hands and foot by his partner the same way his mum has been before)

Shoxfordian · 28/02/2018 15:30

Ha
Get his Mum to teach him how to cook

crackerjacket · 28/02/2018 15:31

Depends who his mum is really