To think that posters who do this are creepy?

[malificent7]

Those who research your previous threads on mumsnet so that they can have ammunition to slag you off? Weird and stalkerish.

love AS
it saves me a lot of time as i hate drama queens.
people should take good advice and move on to a life now sorted by the lovely online help.
moaning month after month after month...easily picked up with AS means i won't bother giving my opinion.

If AS didn't exist, people could google a poster's name and would get the same information. MN is not a secret niche of the internet. Worse, deleted posts still appear on a google search, unlike on AS; as was recently discussed on Site Stuff.

Doing the amoeba sounds more promising than AFBOMASF, @thecatfromjapan.

When people do this and make assumptions about your life when you have changed little details to not “out” yourself.

Very zen, Cavoli. Detach, detach, detach.

I'm still very committed to the materiality of things - even the materiality of Mumsnet.

Sometimes I advance search posters just because they're lovely. Maybe that is a bit creepy.

@pax

I'm thinking that "Doing the Amoeba" might be quite zen: swelling in the moment and concentrating on the being, rather than the having and the losing.

It sounds quite attractive but I think I'd find it quite challenging.

Seriously, though. It takes all of 3 seconds to AS. I’ll do it if somebody seems a bit trolly, if a poster is being unnecessarily dickish, or sometimes just if I’ve liked how someone posts and am curious. I don’t give a single fuck if that’s stalkerish...as none of you would even know I’ve dome it anyway.

Costume for your anti-AS campaign, which I will strongly oppose, @thecatfromjapan. I am a nosy parker.

It’s is a bit creepy, I honestly wouldn’t be bothered, the only way I’d mention it is if I remember. But with so many posts that quite hard.

One man's "change little details" is another's "lies"

Very few people are describing situations so unique that they would be outed simply by referencing them.

A lot more people get caught out telling porkies though.

Some people just have a good memory, if Ive been on a few threads with you I will remember stuff that has been said.
If the search shows you up to be a massive liar that’s nobody’s fault but your own - everyone knows the search is there

Exactly this.

Fantastic costume @pax. How on earth did you find that? Perfect for the Amoeba Disco Nights.

Op you’re not mailificent from years back who had been with her husband for 4000 years and they still shagged like rabbits are you??

Very few people are describing situations so unique that they would be outed simply by referencing them

My OH has quite an unusual job (AS me I am name changing after this anyway ) that with other details I have written out me and I have a friend who knows I post here and searches for me

Ay ay... I sort of did this today with a poster. I didn’t AS the thread, I remembered it well and felt it had relevance, then I just googled and put the link in. Previous thread was ‘should I do this illegal and morally reprehensible thing for (basically no rational reason) ‘ and he current thread was ‘I’m being disadvantaged by being unable to do x and everyone is awful (but actually I’ve lied my way into a right spot and no one is being unreasonable I just have terrible judgement)

Clearly I’m an arse. Never mind.

Hateloggin I was wondering that. I'm glad you put it out there, so that I didn't have to.

(The observant will notice we have refrained from AS-ing, or doing linguistic analysis on OP, hence the question. It's just the functioning of non-creepy memory. Unless memory is creepy, too.)

I'm new and being dense but what does AS mean in the context of this thread?

I'm wondering if the sense that AS-ing is 'creepy' is based on a cultural suspicion of signs of intelligence? There's a long history of it. To be without memory, to dwell in a perpetual present, uninflected by the intelligent roaming of a mind back into the past, forwards into the future, is often constructed as being a sinless innocence. You know, like the animals in Genesis, who are 'not nocent yet' and blameless of the marks of having developed culture and technology.

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@Pegggwn - you’ve been stalked because of mumsnet postings?

It’s handy for spotting perverts. One thread about how long you wear tights before they get smelly might be legit - an entire posting history entirely full of underwear needs reporting, and probably a heads up given on the thread.

One memorably incompetent MRA troll posted that as a lady “she” simply loved catcalls from random builders and in fact had met her lovely husband when he shouted “don’t get many of those to the pound!” or something equally chivalrous from a ladder. I can’t think what possessed me to AS and discover to my utter shock that a month earlier she’d been advising posters’ DH’s on the best menswear shops, from personal experience.

On relationships there are a lot of posters with very good memories. I only read casually but I often see threads where an OP says for example “would it be OK to have another baby when I’m a bit short of money and my other DC would have to share a bedroom?” Cue hordes of “all they need is love hun!” Until a more overinvested poster comes in with “I remember your earlier threads OP, are you sure this is a brilliant idea?” and a quick AS reveals a truly disastrous relationship to which the OP absolutely does not need to add a new baby.

Yes very odd. Bordering on a bit sick.

I can’t be bothered to AS unless I’m reporting to MNHQ as suspected troll.

But I don’t think it is sick.

I once had someone follow me around threads to snipe at me so i namechanged to spoil their fun.

Thank you - mystery solved . I was wondering what Asperger's Syndrome had to do with the thread ........ been a long day.

My penny's worth is that even if the person posting is fibbing surely the advice being given might be of use to another poster who is too frightened/wary to post so the advice is not wasted so to speak.

I tell them. The “stalker” label is just used by people who get caught out to try and blame the person who found their crap!