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To think that posters who do this are creepy?

255 replies

malificent7 · 26/02/2018 17:48

Those who research your previous threads on mumsnet so that they can have ammunition to slag you off? Weird and stalkerish.

OP posts:
Katedotness1963 · 26/02/2018 18:04

Someone searched my previous posts and pointed out my problem was I was a menopausal old bag. Charming!

EggysMom · 26/02/2018 18:10

I think it can be justified, for example to add context to a new thread or to ask why certain recommendations from posters hadn't been followed up resulting in the new situation.

If it's done just to bully, then no.

Zintox · 26/02/2018 18:10

Someone did it to me once so I name changed and stopped posting on my thread. They dragged up irrelevant stuff and were so damn pleased with themselves.

GnotherGnu · 26/02/2018 18:10

If you don't want this to happen, name change. Easy.

If it were regarded as eeeevil to do an advanced search, MN wouldn't provide the facility.

Catinthebath · 26/02/2018 18:11

I’ve posted a variety of comments and threads. Some mundane, some controversial. I name change depending on the content, keeps things on topic that way

NotAgainYoda · 26/02/2018 18:12

I do it

If I think someone's a troll

Or if they keep starting threads about the same stuff

I don't want to be hoodwinked. I want to be helpful

NotAgainYoda · 26/02/2018 18:12

... and I think they are a troll, I report, BTW Wink

CavoliRiscaldati · 26/02/2018 18:14

I think quoting every single detail is ridiculous. most posters change a few things to avoid being recognised too easily, so of course 2 threads wont add up.

NS someone who come up with something utterly ridiculous or very nasty rude post... I've done it, because they didn't seem genuine.

user1490607838 · 26/02/2018 18:16

I dunno about 'weird' but it's chuffing annoying, and yeah, it's snide and nasty and is tantamount to bullying.

Trills · 26/02/2018 18:16

If I think someone is just completely making things up in order to cause trouble I'll report them.

If I think they're omitting relevant information, which they mentioned in a past thread, I'll bring it up. Why wouldn't I?

user1490607838 · 26/02/2018 18:17

I find posters do it when they are losing the argument.........

extinctspecies · 26/02/2018 18:17

I do it to check if I think they are a troll, before I report them.

CavoliRiscaldati · 26/02/2018 18:17

Anyone remembers a poster who was horribly bitchy against SAHM? Really vile individual.
Until someone NS her, and found out several threads where the nasty bully was complaining about being in a job she hated, where everybody hated her and so on. It made so much more sense.

Catinthebath · 26/02/2018 18:17

I’ve been reported as a troll but HQ mailed me and ultimately reinstated my thread. Some users can’t seem to accept that women talk about women’s genitals.

LondonHereICome · 26/02/2018 18:18

It takes 2 seconds

Makes it easier to answer a thread when you have the full facts to hand as well....

Battleax · 26/02/2018 18:18

I think quoting every single detail is ridiculous. most posters change a few things to avoid being recognised too easily, so of course 2 threads wont add up.

Confused Wrong thread?
user1490607838 · 26/02/2018 18:20

@Trills

If I think they're omitting relevant information, which they mentioned in a past thread, I'll bring it up. Why wouldn't I?

Who made you the forum police?! Who do you think you are?! Hmm

As a pp said

I think quoting every single detail is ridiculous. most posters change a few things to avoid being recognised too easily, so of course 2 threads wont add up.

Many people change details to avoid being recognised...

Dragging up old threads and trying to 'out someone' or get the better of them, so you can sit there all smug, is pathetic and nasty.

And yeah, it is usually done when someone is losing the argument!

HotCrossBunFight · 26/02/2018 18:22

It is creepy and unnecessary.

When I see someone's done it I think they're a bit of a bully to be honest

mustnotlooktohave · 26/02/2018 18:22

"Some users can’t seem to accept that women talk about women’s genitals."

You can rather see their point.

NotAgainYoda · 26/02/2018 18:22

What argument?

I am not taking about arguments. I'm talking about people purporting to seek help, who are perhaps not what they seem, or who are leaving out stuff that's important to know about to get the full picture. Stuff that they've mentioned before,

Laiste · 26/02/2018 18:23

Well - i don't know - a poster was called out recently about her ... fluid personal details.

Someone pointed out that her history showed ranty threads about a disabled DC who came and went depending on the subject matter, a partner who stuck with her through thick and thin while she had struggled through life alone and school age kids who were old enough to leave home Grin

You can't honestly say you wouldn't be a bit Hmm about that poster.

There are occasions where posters will try to point score by going back over another posters history, and that is a bit shitty. By the same token though, if you don't make up massive porkys about yourself or talk a lot of bollocks then no one will be able to catch you out.

Catinthebath · 26/02/2018 18:25

mustnotlook. No, I can’t. Because women do

Buck3t · 26/02/2018 18:27

Well since this happened to me today, and it wasn't even my thread, just a response to a thread.

I think it's f'cked up. I remember some things too. Do you know what I do if I think it's someone attention seeking?

Walk the f*ck away. I don't try to embarass people so I can say a big "gotcha". I mean how meaningless must your life actually be?
Additionally, when someone is asking for help and all you are trying to do is catch them out, it doesn't make it very inviting for them. Hardly a safe space. Is that really the ethos of MN.

paxillin · 26/02/2018 18:28
Goldenbug · 26/02/2018 18:28

Not everybody likes being lied to.

Why should I give my opinion/advice to somebody who's just made a situation up?

Liars are wasting my time. If they can be exposed as liars, good.