...to be so upset by DPs actions yesterday?

[MsHippo]

Just wanting some perspective here. Sorry, it's turned out a bit long!

Yesterday morning DP and I had a pathetic argument whilst I was getting ready to for a run. He had left my makeup wipes open overnight (after bringing me one) so they had dried up, I had pointed it out in a slightly irritated way (I know IABU about this part!) and it escalated into a tiff. After a while of cross back-and-forths, he told me just to go for my run, so I did.

I was out for about an hour, and when I got back he wasn't there. I looked in every room several times, and noticed he hadn't taken keys, wallet, shoes, coat etc, and didn't appear to have got dressed. At this point I was really worried about him, he would never go out without those things, and I genuinely couldn't find him, so I rang/texted several times and waited for a few minutes to hear back. When I heard nothing, I grabbed his coat and headed out to look for him and give it to him if he was cold. I checked the garden, walked round the block etc but no sign of him. I was really concerned about him as this seemed very out of character and I had no idea where he might have gone with new shoes, coat, money.

I headed back home to regroup and which point he appeared. It turned out he had been sat behind the spare room door, his phone was silenced and he had sat (and not come out when it was clear I was looking for him) there because he didn't want to talk to me when I got home. I was slightly beside myself and got quite upset with him. I was upset both that he had been hiding from me, and also because I had been so worried about him when he was "missing". We've since kissed and made up, but he doesn't seem to understand why I was so upset.

So (got there in the end!), was hiding from me like that a normal this to do, and WIBU to be so upset?

MsHippo I could see me nipping out and not letting DH know eg if I thought I'd be back before him. I've also popped out in the past, thinking I'd text him to let him know, but then realised I'd left my phone at home. That's why I wouldn't automatically jump to going out to look for him if the situation was reversed. To me, going out to look for someone is quite an extreme reaction.
imo there's something wrong in a relationship when you jump to major crisis mode rather than considering something more mundane.The more I think about it, the more I agree with the PPs who mentioned red flags.

What have I just read?

He was in the wrong for leaving your wipes open. Yet he has punished you. That’s the start of a unhealthy relationship. Beware, if he continues you must LTB, They never improve or change and finally everything will be your fault.

Oh for the love of God. You should charge for your psychic abilities!

I'd tell someone to get their own bloody wipe next time if I accidentally left the pack open and they turned it into a drama. What a mountain out of a molehill.

The arguments, the wipes etc all normal day to day stuff. But him hiding behind the spare room door actually made me Lol. You frantically searching for him & him chuckling behind the door. If he wasn't doing it for a joke it's really odd. Maybe it was meant to be a joke & when he seen how upset you were because you thought he was lost he decided it was inappropriate. Bit weird otherwise?

He wasn't doing it for a joke, though. He was annoyed with her because he'd done something wrong and she'd pulled him up on it.

Quite honestly, I think he's shown himself to be childish and spiteful. He could tell you were worried about him and sat there like a burglar in silence. I would lose all respect for him after that.

He was watching porn! There really isn’t a better explanation - also why his phone was on silent.

So how's things now op? Have you stopped laughing at him?