DH embarrassed by my sensitivity

[MarysLittleLamb]

I get very moved by certain types of art and music, so much so that I occasionally cry. Last year we went to the Louvre and I ended up silently weeping at a number of art works. When we got out of the gallery DH admitted that he finds it all a bit over the top and unnecessary - as if I do it on purpose!

Anyway we've just got back from Rome. I became a little overwhelmed in the coliseum when I thought about the violence and death that had taken place there. DH said I was the only one in the entire place crying and he was fed up with it. I explained that I don't do it on purpose, it just gets to me.

We went to the Sistine Chappell the day after and I ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo. A number of tourists tried to console me but DH just walked off muttering "for fucks sake". I felt so stupid. When we got out DH had a massive rant at me about how I spoil everything for him and he often wishes he was with someone normal who could visit places without making a scene. He also declared that he no longer enjoys travelling with me. I'm gutted because travel is the main thing we do together. AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

I think if this is who you are, and this is what youre compelled to do, then it would be better to find a partner who was also very sensitive or who at least wasnt embarrassed by you.
You do sound a little bit mad and weird, but who cares. Go to these places by yourself maybe?

I sobbed sad tears at the scene in Jungle Book (the live one in 2016) where Mowgli is sailing down the river on the Bear's tummy singing. But I sobbed silently so only the guy next to me knew and he was with his partner so he sensibly kept quiet. You need to learn the art of silent sobbing OP

You do sound a little bit mad and weird, but who cares.

Everyone who went there to enjoy it in contemplative silence.

This thread has made my day 😂

It might be genuine. I have ADHD and a radio jingle can set me off emotionally although not to the same level as the OP Just my eyes well up!

You're the type of person who eats stuff to be close to it aren't you?
When I went to roam there was a woman on our tour who swallowed a pebble from the Colosseum so she could connect with history.

I had a cry in the Van Goch museum in Amsterdam. It was very moving reading about his mental anguish but I think a full on scream is a bit OTT.

When I went to roam there was a woman on our tour who swallowed a pebble from the Colosseum so she could connect with history.

What now?

I think this is op:

MNHQ you're only allowed to take the thread down if you can think of a deletion message that rivals the original OP.

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WTH?

Who screams in the Sistine chapel?! I tried to hold my breath in there! Security were fierce about enforcing the silence when l visited. Would a scream be seen as vandalism?

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I just laughed so much I woke my son up. Oh my god. 😂

@Jesusinthecabbagevan We're between a rock and a hard place here! If we delete it with a rubbish message you'll all be disappointed but frankly, if we try too hard we're concerned it might move the OP to tears again! (Some of our deletion messages are PRETTY phenomenal, to be honest...) We might leave it to run for a bit. Wouldn't want to detract from the roof of the Sistine Chapel.

@HebeMumsnet omg 😂😂😂

Ooh. Ooh. I've just remembered. I fell down the stairs at the Louvre. But I didn't scream.

When I saw 'the sixth sense' I was still crying when I got home from the cinema.

I'm welling up a bit now.

Yanbu. But I understand why your dh feels a bit embarrassed!!

YABU.

I came to on the grassy bit in front of the Festspielhaus

Almost weed myself giggling at that.

Look op, some places are very emotional. I visited Kanchanburi and the small exhibition there - moving enough but seeing an elderly gent with medals quietly contemplating it too (he had survived the death railway) brought me to shed a few tears. But quietly, because it would have been grossly disrespectful to detract from his quiet presence.

I’ve shed a tear at adverts when I was pregnant- emotional feelings are natural. Screaming and wailing and making it all about yourself is pretty awful.

Your poor DH.

This is one of the best threads ever. It really made me giggle! Yay for mumsnet not taking it down!!!

👍. That’s ok Hebe. Don’t worry about any witty deletion message. Just let the nightwatch take over, shut your eyes and dream. It’ll be all over by the morning and you can forget all about this thread taking up a weeny space of sunshine in AIBU.

MNHQ you could commission TalcNTurnips (gifted poster from Ye Old Days) to do a deletion message in the shape of the Mona Lisa.

OP: I think you should go to Centerparcs in future.

, , and for MNHQ rocking out with us on this one. Would a scream of joy be inappropriate here?