DH embarrassed by my sensitivity

[MarysLittleLamb]

I get very moved by certain types of art and music, so much so that I occasionally cry. Last year we went to the Louvre and I ended up silently weeping at a number of art works. When we got out of the gallery DH admitted that he finds it all a bit over the top and unnecessary - as if I do it on purpose!

Anyway we've just got back from Rome. I became a little overwhelmed in the coliseum when I thought about the violence and death that had taken place there. DH said I was the only one in the entire place crying and he was fed up with it. I explained that I don't do it on purpose, it just gets to me.

We went to the Sistine Chappell the day after and I ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo. A number of tourists tried to console me but DH just walked off muttering "for fucks sake". I felt so stupid. When we got out DH had a massive rant at me about how I spoil everything for him and he often wishes he was with someone normal who could visit places without making a scene. He also declared that he no longer enjoys travelling with me. I'm gutted because travel is the main thing we do together. AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

Ah I thought this was real until the levitation and then security escorting parts.

5/10 for effort

People who are always snivelling and blubbering and collapsing with their own intense intensity are absolute hell to live with.

^^
That with bells on

YANBU, OP - I'm sensitive too.

The first time I went to Bayreuth, I was overcome by a sense of uncontrollable grief and fury during the last act of Götterdämmerung. I vaulted over the people sitting in the seats next to me and raced down the aisle, tears streaming down my cheeks and swatting ushers left and right with my programme. Upon reaching the front of the hall, I let out a cry of "Valhalla, I am coming!" and launched myself head first into the orchestra pit. I came to on the grassy bit in front of the Festspielhaus to find Calixto Bieito standing over me. We are now firm friends and I have a standing invitation to attend all his premières.

There have been some monuments or places that completely overwhelm me for either their beauty or historical significance (some of the places in Pompeii, some of the temples in Egypt etc).

In those cases I sit quietly where I can absorb them and truly enjoy them. Then when I am ready, I just move on. No drama and I have enjoyed it on my level.

I actually wouldnt go anywhere with you ever. I'm surprised your DH does!

Have you ever suffered any sort of tragedy?

How are you at funerals? Please don't tell me you are weeping and wailing when it's only someone you vaguely know like the shop owner up the road, his wife who you barely know, and you just go to pay your respects.

Let's be clear - that isn't sensitivity.

It's attention-seeking, childish, selfish and utterly ridiculous.

I'm never going to hear the words Sistine Chapel again without thinking of this. It has made my lunch hour.

Just this image to add....

To say he's ashamed to be seen with you acting the way you do, he seems to take you to all the wrong places! I'd be taking you on holiday to bloody benidorm, you'll not be emotionally moved there by anything. Safe.

Op

I read your post and it gave me the giggles - especially when you said you screamed at Michelangelo

I mean who does that

If I ever visit the sistene chapel, I really hope I see someone collapsing, wailing, screaming, trying to levitate and the. Being escorted from the premises. I’ll be disappointed if it’s just your standard crowd of people starting upwards quietly.

You think your emotions are more important than anyone else's and therefore behave however you like and everyone else has to lump it

and

We don’t always have a choice about how we feel. We always have a choice about how we behave

^^ this OP is what you should be taking away from this. Combined with a massive apology to your clearly long suffering DH and a determination to be a bit more considerate and a bit less of a dick next time you see something that moves you & bear in mind we all have emotions we just decide not to behave like a toddler when we have them.

OP are there other things that affect you emotionally?

tbf, @uglyswan most of us have done that at some point.

Did you have a bit of a fangirl moment OP?

I have been known to gasp at a piece of art, especially when it is something I have only seen reproduced before, but going from that the a scream is quite something else. Some breathing techniques are needed, at the very least methinks.

@uglyswan - Bravo!!!

You sound unhinged I'm afraid.

You do sound like an embarrassment.
I'm cringing for him just reading it.

Either control yourself or stay in the house.

actually, I revise what I previously said.

I think I'd actually sit down opposite you and quietly contemplate your display of performance art.

This cannot be real funny nvertheless

Astonishing how swiftly some threads or individual comments on some threads get pulled. Around a fifth of this thread is now basically troll hunting and it's all still here.

uglyswan

Does sound a bit OTT to be honest. I am an emotional person. I get a lump in my throat and a tear in my eye at applause for school plays etc and when I went to The Colosseum I did stand and soak up the atmosphere and tried to imagine what had gone on there but no tears or sobs.I can understand your DH finding it a bit much. A watery eye is one thing but screaming is in a whole other league. Perhaps you could try to prepare when visiting this type pf thing, don't think too deeply.

Funniest thing I've read all day! This has to be a wind up