DH embarrassed by my sensitivity

[MarysLittleLamb]

I get very moved by certain types of art and music, so much so that I occasionally cry. Last year we went to the Louvre and I ended up silently weeping at a number of art works. When we got out of the gallery DH admitted that he finds it all a bit over the top and unnecessary - as if I do it on purpose!

Anyway we've just got back from Rome. I became a little overwhelmed in the coliseum when I thought about the violence and death that had taken place there. DH said I was the only one in the entire place crying and he was fed up with it. I explained that I don't do it on purpose, it just gets to me.

We went to the Sistine Chappell the day after and I ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo. A number of tourists tried to console me but DH just walked off muttering "for fucks sake". I felt so stupid. When we got out DH had a massive rant at me about how I spoil everything for him and he often wishes he was with someone normal who could visit places without making a scene. He also declared that he no longer enjoys travelling with me. I'm gutted because travel is the main thing we do together. AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

How were you on your wedding day OP?

I wish the op would come back

Best thread ever...trying to go to the gym but can't leave my car as keep giggling to myself every time I think about the OP in the Sistine Chapel...😂😂😂

a) The balloon
Someone flicked a balloon that had been on someone's desk for their birthday- and she screamed and then burst into tears, stating she had a phobia..

The Shetland Pony
Someone was outside raising money, and they had a Shetland pony with them. She burst back in the office and wailed 'Someone just shouted at their Shetland pony'.

The truly hilarious/ awful thing is that at the time we were all working in Child Protection....

How were you on your wedding day OP?

Oh crikey, I didn't even think of that! I was the opposite of emotional on mine - I zoned out a little during the officiant's speech at the start

Absolutely peeing myself at the idea of you screaming at public artworks

Based on the title of your post I was all set to be sympathetic OP, but you must see that your behaviour is ridiculous? Feeling moved and shedding a little tear is one thing - the worst that might happen is a passer by considers you a little pretentious. But actually screaming (or even wailing...) shows a lack of control that isn't really acceptable for an adult, not to mention you're likely ruining the experience for every other person in the place trying to enjoy the art without having to witness your histrionics alongside it.

Regardless of how involuntary you think your behaviour is, you can control yourself and you must, for the sake of your poor husband and anyone unlucky enough to be in a gallery at the same time as you. You aren't sensitive - you're inconsiderate. If I were your DH I'd be mortified to be seen anywhere near you.

Shedding a quiet tear is one thing, makeing old ladies jump is quite another!

Have you got worse OP or were you always like this?

You may need some counselling or just to rethink what sort of places you visit. I am not surprised you DH is embarassed but do wonder if you have become worse or just that you are visiting more of these things lately.

When watching Marley and Me, DD was hurling abuse at the vet who put Marley to sleep because she "killed him" and was hysterically crying. In all fairness, she was 5.

I am a crier, I cry at confrontation, I cry at RSPCA adverts (those little kittens that just want a home 😭) but never with noise, it’s so OTT. I’m going to hell because this is the funniest thread I’ve ever read!!

At least you didn’t bleet at the Michaelangelo...but yeah, I’d recommend past life regression to find out what the hell is going on with your lacrimal glands in the presence of art.

Infact you sound a lot like my sister.

She on hearing about the death of a much loved family member to us both collapsed in the middle of a shop, she now very proudly shares that story you get the feeling by the way she describes it that it somehow proves just how much the death affected her, and how that must mean she loved that person more than anyone else. Even though the person that died was the "same" to all of the siblings.

Yes you can and should change OP. How embarrassing to be escorted out of the Sistine Chapel by security guards, did that not make you think that your reaction was inappropriate? I'd die of shame if I were you or your husband.

Get a grip and behave like a grown up, fully functional adult.

So she did MrDilkinson I missed that post!
I can well believe that some people might struggle to contain their emotions when overwhelmed but can’t quite get on board with the op having to be escorted out. Surely you would be mortified and remove yourself until you’d calmed down?

I'm astonished you are still married, tbh- I suggest separate holidays in future, OP.

'Screaming in the Sistine Chappell'

Elvis missed a trick there.

I don’t do screaming. I rarely cry unnecessarily.

I do however get nosebleeds in important places.

So far i have bled in.....

Buck Palace
The Louvre
Tutankhamens tomb
The Knossos
The national gallery
Royal Opera House
My bed
During job interviews
Assorted other places.

It is inconvenient but i don’t performance bleed.

I wish TAATs weren't frowned upon, because "what landmarks (etc) have you screamed at" could be an interesting thread.

I've been to the Pyramids, the Sistine Chapel, the Coliseum, the Parthenon, the Empire State Building to name a few, and did not scream at any of them.

Noooo! You need to sort this out. I've been a tad overwhelmed at various things, but your reaction is ridiculous. How embarrassing!

Don't you have any wish to change yourself OP? Or are you completely fine with this?

@Finola

I just popped back to ask that Any pics OP, how were the speeches, were you subtly removed from the room before they started to maybe 'fix your makeup', 'check out the art in the venue' only to arrive back to the crowds applause to the last speaker?

I came on this thread all prepared to be sympathetic as I think I'm really sensitive too but CRYING at a PAINTING?! What in god's name?!

...Like funerals and bullied Shetland ponies.

😂😂😂

I am usually the sort of person who tries to see both sides, in difficult situations, especially interpersonal relationships, but on this one I am totally on the side of @MarysLittleLamb’s dp.

@Marys - your behaviour is wholly inappropriate, and you need to learn to control yourself, and stop being emotionally incontinent all over the place. You are an adult, and you are capable of controlling yourself, you simply choose not to.

‘ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo.‘

What?! Sorry OP but this is absolutely hilarious.
I’m not surprised your DH is embarrased wth 😂😂😂

I cried when I saw the donkeys on Blackpool beach. Didn't scream at them though.