DH embarrassed by my sensitivity

[MarysLittleLamb]

I get very moved by certain types of art and music, so much so that I occasionally cry. Last year we went to the Louvre and I ended up silently weeping at a number of art works. When we got out of the gallery DH admitted that he finds it all a bit over the top and unnecessary - as if I do it on purpose!

Anyway we've just got back from Rome. I became a little overwhelmed in the coliseum when I thought about the violence and death that had taken place there. DH said I was the only one in the entire place crying and he was fed up with it. I explained that I don't do it on purpose, it just gets to me.

We went to the Sistine Chappell the day after and I ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo. A number of tourists tried to console me but DH just walked off muttering "for fucks sake". I felt so stupid. When we got out DH had a massive rant at me about how I spoil everything for him and he often wishes he was with someone normal who could visit places without making a scene. He also declared that he no longer enjoys travelling with me. I'm gutted because travel is the main thing we do together. AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

Amazing. Well done OP you have made many people scream with laughter today.

I saw watership down when i was 6 and I still feel terror when I think of it

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I’m too ill for the outing. But please keep me posted

I feel so sorry for your poor DH. You sound like an attention seeker. And you encroach on others who like enjoy those sights.

Nobody else is reminded of Catherine Tate?

If your being escorted out of somewhere, I think you have a major problem.
You need to go and see the Doctor and find out what they can do to help you, as I can see where your DH is having trouble with how your acting.

Omg why would you scream to the point of having to be comforted by strangers😂😂😂 thats so over the top, i'd probably have the same reaction as your DH🤨😂🤦🏽‍♀️

I have cried at films, books and the odd moving moment.

But this… This has made my day. I was having a downer and this has me crying with laughter in the office. No way can this be real?

I am more amazed that your dh still comes with you, tbh.
'Screamed at a Micheal Angelo' ?

I mean, I'd totally understand someone crying after visiting Auschwitz, and can understand someone being moved and wiping a subtle tear at a moving film or piece of music, but you are OTT.

Omg OP....check this out, he has NO LEGS and uses a little trolly to walk 😭😭😭😭
Awaits wailing sounds

To be fair, listening to children who have just started learning the violin is so awful that I could imagine being reduced to tears.

This is hilarious! If I were your DH I would just be laughing at you. He shouldn't get so annoyed by it, he married you!

Im suprised nobody came up and slapped you to bring you out of your hysterical state.
Iv had a real laugh with this thread but seriously i feel sorry for your DH..
You need see someone ...really

If this is real then clearly the op didn’t actually scream in the chapel since as a pp has already pointed out she’d have been removed. So that is an overreaction on the part of her dh. And he was also being u to rant at you publicly if he doesn’t like public scene-making.
BUT is there a part of you that likes the attention op? If it really is involuntary surely it’s embarassing for you and you would take yourself somewhere private and regain your composure rather than have tourists fussing over you?

Would you like a miniature Michelangelo statue, that you can touch? I'll send you one in return for more of your holiday stories..

blue she did get removed...

If I was your DH I wouldn't be seen anywhere in public with you, lest you start screaming like a fishwife over nothing.

The way you describe it to me makes out like you feel everyone should understand but actually that is probably part of the reason you behave like this.

You think your emotions are more important than anyone else's and therefore behave however you like and everyone else has to lump it.

Your descriptions are of very selfish behaviour you have ruined others experiences some probably had just as a big reaction as you but were respectful of you and others around them. Some of those people may have saved for years and have patiently waited to finally experience seeing it in real life and then you screamed and ruined it forever for them.

I screamed laughing at the OP 😂

This oddly reminds me of the kind of person who would wipe away an emotional tear at the beauty of a piece of classical music, like a high-ranking officer reacting to a perfomance by the orchestra at Auschwitz….

Oh my op I think you need to get a grip.

I got a little teary at Auchwitz but I was over whelmed by the gravity of what had taken place but I shed a few quiet tears discreetly I did not wail.

Wailing to the point where an old lady jumps out of her skin (whilst hilarious to picture) is incredibly inappropriate and I'm not surprised your dh won't go any where with you

Mind you I have felt like screaming at some art usually something along the lines of "Someone paid how much for this????"

I particularly get this when viewing Damian Hirst artworks...

OP, I feel your sensitivity. I have been moved to tears by brass bands, guide dogs, sniffer dogs, search & rescue dogs, actual rescue dogs, police horses, shire horses, that stupid Lloyds bank advert with the black horse riding through all the scenes of service-based horsedom, an RAF fly-past, every Armistice Day service I've ever seen, every wedding, the Segrada Familia, etc, etc, etc, as well as all the other stuff you're supposed to cry at. Like funerals and bullied Shetland ponies.

BUT I've always tried to keep my sensitive reaction to a silent howl, for everyone else's sake. It's a bit like breaking wind - a natural reaction, but not to the point where people are actively backing away from you and muttering.

Why did your husband marry you? He knew exactly what you were like!

He really ought to do something about it.