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Clean School Uniform

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CreekyOldKnee · 26/02/2018 07:54

DD is 8 and in Y4.

She gets herself dressed, I now have pretty much nothing to do with this process.

Yesterday, I asked her if she had everything she needed for school the next day. Reply was yes but could do with some more pants and vests in a couple of days. So, I think that I can put a white wash on on Monday.

This morning it transpires that the only pants she has are too big and she's walking round the house like John Wayne pulling them away from her every 2 minutes whining loudly. They are a completely different pattern to the ones that do fit her so if she'd checked properly she would have known!

Me: well I asked you yesterday so you'll just have to put up with it today.

DH is getting stroppy about it bemoaning that it is our responsibility (by which he means mine as I'm the one who does the washing - not an issue, he does much more house work than me in general) to make sure she has a clean uniform.

AIBU to think that at 8 she's perfectly capable of working out whether she has pants for school? Surely this isn't too much to ask is it?

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Steeley113 · 26/02/2018 07:57

TBH I think it is your responsibility at age 8. Sure, she can put it all on by herself but ensuring she has clean clothes that fit, that’s on you.

BarbarianMum · 26/02/2018 07:58

If she has "pants that fit" and "pants that are too big" I think YAB a bit U. At 8 I can see that you just think "I've got pants".

Cockmagic · 26/02/2018 08:01

I think you're expecting too much.

My DD is 9 and can get herself sorted for school also and put a load of washing on.

But you're her mam you should make sure all her knickers fit and in one place.

You're expecting too much.

Helsingborg · 26/02/2018 08:01

I don't trust my dc to answer truthfully so I make them check their drawers in front of me. bitter experience of ds shrieking about wearing dd's knickers to nursery Grin He doesn't challenge me now because he knows what will happen if he doesn't have clean pants.

Invisimamma · 26/02/2018 08:01

Hmm getting herself dressed is one thing - great! But making sure she has enough clean clothes is another, maybe a bit much to expect of an 8yr old.

I see it as my/DH responsibility’s t make sure the dc have enough clean clothes.

Trampire · 26/02/2018 08:01

My dd got herself dressed from a young age but there's no way she could of predicted her pant stock.

Even at 13, she can't 'see' her sports bra, hockey socks in her drawer. She reaches for pants and has no real idea if she's grown out of them etc until she's tried them on.

I think you're expecting a bit much. Just buy loads of pants!

MumGoneMild · 26/02/2018 08:02

I think at 8 you should still be checking she has appropriate clothes in the drawer to get herself ready.

cygnet12 · 26/02/2018 08:04

Yeah def one think getting herself dressed but you need to make sure her drawers are stocked with pants , socks etc that fit.

Backscratchesforever · 26/02/2018 08:04

I think yabu. In Future I would ask her to do it and bring it to you/you go to her, so you can check it’s done

GummyGoddess · 26/02/2018 08:07

I have no idea if you're right or not, but my opinion would be that she does have clean pants and can put up with them for a few hours. If she wanted to wear others she should have said.

CecilyP · 26/02/2018 08:07

While an 8 year old is perfectly capable of dressing themself, I think it is your responsibility to ensure she has sufficient clean clothes with which to dress. It is also a good thing not to mix up things that fit with things that are too big: no wonder she got confused. And what’s it got to do with uniform - even kids at non-uniform schools wear pants! I think you messed up and are blaming your DD YABU!

coalwife · 26/02/2018 08:08

I think yabu. Is she so short on underwear that you can't keep up with the washi g cycle? She's only 8. Getting dressed is one thing but monitoring the washing cycle is another. Surely you could have taken a few seconds to sort the child's uniform last night.

saoirse31 · 26/02/2018 08:08

Think yabvu.

halcyondays · 26/02/2018 08:10

You're expecting too much.

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CreekyOldKnee · 26/02/2018 08:11

Ok

Thanks everyone. Maybe I'm asking too much of her.

Obviously she does have pants to wear - they're just not the ones that she wants.

I agree, I should separate out the ones that are too big (they're not falling off her, just a bit baggy).

IABU - accepted!

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Faze84 · 26/02/2018 08:11

Sorry yabu.. Maybe at a glance an 8 yo thought she did have uniform or 'something' like it in her wardrobe. I think kids can't always tell if something looks a little out of shape or too big on them.

birdlover1977 · 26/02/2018 08:12

YABU, she is 8.

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CreekyOldKnee · 26/02/2018 08:15

By the way, I've in no way had a go at her. I've told her she'll just have to put up with those pants today and she'll have the ones she wants for tomorrow.

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CreekyOldKnee · 26/02/2018 08:17

I suppose I wondered whether, at this age, anybody else expected their DC to do this. Obviously not, and I'm completely happy to accept that.

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gussyfinknottle · 26/02/2018 08:19

Pants matters really still need your oversight.

Backscratchesforever · 26/02/2018 08:19

“Not the ones she wants”

She just wants ones that fit and won’t fall down. Let’s hope it isn’t PE day

Bowerbird5 · 26/02/2018 08:20

Sounds like an ad!

Gatehouse77 · 26/02/2018 08:21

I have to say that if I asked mine about uniform they, and I, would be meaning all but underwear. I would hope they'd let me know if their underwear didn't fit, etc. but it's the kind of thing I would do spot checks on throughout the year.

gussyfinknottle · 26/02/2018 08:24

Can't you do a couple of temporary stitches to keep her pants up?

Garmadonsmum · 26/02/2018 08:24

I'm pretty sure 8 year old boys aren't expected to be this organised.

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