Stalked online for my house value by new love interest

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Met on the face of it a good guy IRL ,shared interest and outlook.Taken aback as this evening had a telephone call usual stuff discussed then randomly they said the houses where you live are worth £xx when I checked on Zoopla.Taken aback I said are they ? and tried to laugh it off by saying hmm cyber stalk ,he kept pushing the point on what the value of my home may be ! .Is it me or this is odd behaviour not to mention the gold digger element ? .For background this follows on from a conversation a few days prior that they randomly said you must earn £xx and the payments on this place must be at least £ xx PCM .I know I have been out of the dating scence for what seems and age but is thIs the new norm for a potential suitor to bring into a conversation?

Have to agree with @Gumby. Definitely sounds dodgy. Probably up to his eyes in debt.

Definitely odd, even if only because he doesn't realise that you don't admit to doing that!!

Like another poster said, he sounds like he'd be one of those controlling types. Run as fast as you can but be VERY tactful about it because, and I know I'm super suspicious, he sounds like the type that could turn nasty if he thinks he's being rejected. Especially if he thinks that you think you're superior to him (not because you do, but because he obviously sees you that way). I'd meet again and say things that you think might put HIM off YOU lol.

But however you do it, do it asap OP.

Sounds like the car is on credit and he's faking it until he can make it. Tell him it's your ex's place but you're sitting while he's overseas and you're hoping to get a HA tenancy.

Run.

That's super creepy. By commenting on your salary and now your house price he's shown way, way too close an interest in your finances.

And the sports car means absolutely nothing. There's an electricity company office near us and they do a really good rate for leasing cars. The car park is full of BMW's and sports cars and they are mostly driven by people with good, but average (I mean that in a 'not earning mega bucks' way rather than anything derogatory) jobs.

It won't be the only thing he has looked up about you on line. Back away with caution and speed and no need to tell him why.

Run.

How quaint. People in social housing cant own nice things. Why not?

To OP

Change your number. Some providers will not charge you if you are receiving suspicious calls

Shes not receiving suspicious calls

I’ve been out of the dating scene for a long time so my opinion won’t count but this does sounds like a Red flag to me, especially as he kept pushing the point. Are you going to block him?

Weird. It’s not a normal topic of conversation really.

Sounds a bit materialistic to me. I'd run, it will only get worse if you continue.

No, no, no!

I'd be worried he's after your money - at the very least, he's nosey and rude. Imagine you carry on seeing him and let him meet your friends. He might start telling them he's looked up their house prices too! How embarrassing would that be!

Well weird and actually very rude. None of his business, and if he's trying to make it his business then there must be some kind of ulterior motive.
You just don't ask people in conversation how much they earn and how much their assets are worth!

Another one who would get rid. Pushing for that kind of information is rude and a bit suspicious. It's way too early to be sounding you out financially and it comes across as controlling.

My friend dated a man obsessed with money. He had a real chip on his shoulder. Our friendship group was pretty mixed. He was very snippy with a one girl 'who'd had everything handed on a plate' - she inherited at a very young age (mid teens) due to the death of her parents. Was really obnoxious to a guy who had returned to study 'with comments like, 'its out of your price range mate'. He needed to know the cost or worth of everything and judged accordingly. It was embarrassing. Friend got rid, I hope it's not the same bloke.

I have a family member like this. Creepy. They are a competitive misogynist. I can’t believe this man has been so upfront. If he’s telling you certain things he’s searched about you, you’ve got to be wondering what else he’s looked at. I wouldn’t want to be anywhere near them.

This is actually creepy AF - if you ignore your intuition, it's at the very least completely inappropriate.

I wouldnt see him again
Not because he looked up your house value. Anyone could do that to get a feel for who you are.
Because he has the emotional intelligence of a slug

Still could be worse. My dd had a date with an idiot who said " if we had a fight, i would definitely win". Unsuprisingly she simply got up mid meal and said goodbye.
Does your idiot have your actual address?

It is weird. Maybe he is just very nosy? (Clutching at straws!)

Does he work for the Daily Mail?

Weird behaviour, OP. Get rid.

He sounds like one of those 'con man' fantasists, OP. Run for the hills!

Unless like me he works in property and thus has a very good idea of what everything around the place is worth (In which case he need not look at Zoopla) then it sounds like he is on the make.

Why the hell have you told him your address within a week of knowing him?!

Run a mile. Partners who chose based on monetary value are shallow and selfish.

Whilst I suspect many women eye up a mans worth before proceeding to date they don't usually tell the man so at least he's been honest nad shown his true colours rather than trying to disguise them.