To think you don’t beep your horn at pedestrians with sleeping children in prams?

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Just had a total arsehole do this to me, when we were crossing the road. Apparently I wasn’t moving fast enough and I got a mouthful of abuse too.

You don’t do that, do you? I have joint pain, severe pain and depression and DS is ASD and I’d just got him to sleep.

Why do some people enjoy being such knobs to others?

well then don't walk him down the road when he is sleeping...

You are aware kids go to sleep in pushchairs right!

OP is one of those parents, who will happily and apparently frequently put her kids life in danger and then when something almost happens take no responsibility and blame someone else.

Even going so far as to say her DP would harm them (he wouldn’t and if he tried he’d thankfully be in prison) and that she’ll find a way to harm someone who had the audacity to point out how careless she is with a child’s life.

I also think it's shitty to beep yur horn at people generally, men used to do it loads when I was young and it makes you jump out of your skin. I do think it's shit to be beeping around babies and small kids as well, it's a loud noise and it makes you jump. Luckily around here people are not very heavy on using their horns, probably as it's quite busy and just obviously it's not good to be making noise like that and startling all and sundry just to wave at dave or whatever.

Even going so far as to say her DP would harm them

Did I say harm? I said he is in a position to ruin their lives with a legal case. Learn to read.

If a junction or crossroads (going by the + sign ^^ there) is controllled by traffic lights it usually means it’s quite busy. You were daft to cross there and you should know that really.

Instead of your DP being all Billy Big Bollocks about ruining people’s lives if you get hurt crossing the road he should be taking you out and teaching you some road sense.

I also think it's shitty to beep yur horn at people generally, men used to do it loads when I was young and it makes you jump out of your skin.

So do I.

" You are aware kids go to sleep in pushchairs right! "

no shit!
but if your child is going to be upset if he is woken by a noise, don't take him out in the pram when he is likely to fall asleep...
either that or start being realistic.

Did I say harm? I said he is in a position to ruin their lives with a legal case. Learn to read.

Oh right, he’d “ruin their lives” because you’re not fit to safely look after your child?

I know their plate Francis

Has someone really just told OP to never be out with a toddler sleeping in a pushchair?

Bloody hell this place gets better all the time. Loads of kids fall asleep in pushchairs

In fact many parents TAKE their children out in prams / pushchairs in order to get them to sleep. This is completely normal behaviour.

Wow.

The only time he falls asleep is in a pram...

Ah yes mumsnet where crossing the road is child abuse.

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Apparently I’m an unhinged wanker for taking my DS out and crossing a road 😂

So you managed to memorise their plate in the short time you had, bearing in mind you were getting your buggy on the pavement. Bollocks did you.

And you are vastly over estimating your husbands legal capabilities.

upabitlate, I am quite aware of the ridiculousness of what I said, I was merely trying to equal the Op for ridiculousness, in the probably vain hope that she might see sense.
Doubt it though.

Being right isn't zero-sum. From OP's description it sounds totally fine to cross as described. I'd stop, have a quick breath and then get the best march on I could while crossing because of the risk.

Suppose the motorist wasn't speeding, approached green lights and saw a pedestrian and buggy in the road and the pedestrian hadn't yet acknowledged the car. In that case a cheery "I'm here" on the horn as the car approaches is, I think, reasonable to alert the pedestrian.

Not all beeps of the horn are cheery and the mouthful of abuse doesn't make it sound like this one was, but I don't think OP should immediately take offence at a motorist using their horn.

Round here motorists often stop for pram and pushchairs waiting to cross at just dropped kerbs, which is lovely but confusing when they hold up traffic and there's a big gap coming up anyway.

So you managed to memorise their plate in the short time you had, bearing in mind you were getting your buggy on the pavement. Bollocks did you.

I’ve actually always been gifted in that area. My memory isn’t quite photographic but it’s close.

It helps me greatly for memorising strings of information, sadly doesn’t help when I misplace my keys or shoes...

OP you are starting to sound unhinged. Sorry.

upabit that's in response to the op saying her precious child can't possibly be woken. The world can't be silent for her.

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Early on and throught the thread many of us have said that the driver shouldn't have been abusive or aggressively beeped their horn.
If the driver felt that the pedestrian was in the middle of the road and hadn't seen them then a short pip would be reasonable, even if it's not something people might to themselves.

What people have also said is that OP should consider their actions and choices, as well as potential consequences. She igbored all advise, argued she's right anyway, everyone offline agrees with her, if something bad did happen her DH would 'ruin their fucking lives', has called people cunts, and claims that anyone pointing out the responsibilities of pedestrians are just more drivers 'shitting on pedestrians'.

Oh and now she has the reg plate.
And then she's going to make them pay.
And then the child has ASD.

It's bizarre.

I would've beeped at you
I'm tired of people crossing the road wherever they feel like it
Ditto people using a crossing when the lights aren't green for them

It generally seems like only car drivers have to be pleasant and patient whilst pedestrians and cyclists can do as they please

Ah yes mumsnet where crossing the road is child abuse.

Oh look, you’re deliberately missing the point again.

You are putting your child’s life at risk if you cross the road not at a crossing. You are happy to continually do this, and therefore continually put your child at risk. You are not fit to look after a child because you can’t look after them safely.

You are putting your child’s life at risk if you cross the road not at a crossing.

Not every road has a crossing. Where do you live that makes this unbelievable to you?

Have you considered the thought that people 'in real life' may just be agreeing with you to keep the peace. If you get this argumentative and threatening in real life then i'd probably just agree with you to avoid an argument. Wouldn't be worth the hassle.

If you get this argumentative and threatening in real life then i'd probably just agree with you to avoid an argument

My partner for one is perfectly happy to tell me when he thinks I’m in the wrong. He agrees wholeheartedly with me. And thinks this thread is bonkers.