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To think this is weird

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Laurenmclovely · 25/02/2018 11:34

Basically my mum sent a video to the family WhatsApp of them both in the bath. I just think that it's highly inappropriate for them to still be bathed together! I mean surely there's an age where it just becomes creepy? I wouldn't bathe my 8 month old with a sibling at that age. I might just be over reacting but it's just really creeped me out !

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QueenOfGaviscon · 25/02/2018 12:30

@FissionChips to the tune of "sticky sticky stick stick"

prideofaberdeen · 25/02/2018 12:30

Op you are drip feeding here. If that was your experience then I can understand where your issue with this comes from but it's YOUR issue, which is for you to get through, not project those concerns into your DN's. As a poster has said, if the 8yp is showing signs of genuine sexualised behaviour, you need to report it. Nothing you have said so far suggests that he is, though.

Laurenmclovely · 25/02/2018 12:30

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Mybrows · 25/02/2018 12:31

Ah ok, so you do have issues, as a previous poster anticipated. I'm really sorry for what happened to you OP but please recognise that your reaction is not normal as a result.

upsideup · 25/02/2018 12:32

he may accidentally grab her or something.

Grab her what? She is 2. My 8 year old DS has helped bath his 3 year old sister. Both him and I are not peadophiles or dont veiw children sexually so there is no worry.

QueenOfGaviscon · 25/02/2018 12:32

To be completely annoyed with my family?http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/2946354-To-be-completely-annoyed-with-my-family

Are you talking about the same child OP?

sallyandherarmy · 25/02/2018 12:35

Ahh, so I was right then.....I knew it.

These topics always end up with a bleeding heart story, usually a load of bollocks, and seemingly justifying their own perverted feelings.

OP - you need help.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 25/02/2018 12:35

Your history is clouding your judgement. There is nothing wrong with siblings going in the bath together until one of them doesn’t want to.

Blackteadrinker77 · 25/02/2018 12:39

Is your brother right?

Do you bully his son?

MycatsaPirate · 25/02/2018 12:43

There is nothing wrong with siblings sharing a bath. Firstly it's easier to put the kids in together and secondly it's a fun time. They get to play with their bath toys together and bubbles etc.

Our neighbours kids are 7 and 3 (boy and girl) and they go in the bath together, I hear them shrieking and laughing through the wall. Sounds like they have a wonderful time.

Putting your own sexual ideas onto a small child is wrong on many levels.

WizardOfToss · 25/02/2018 12:46

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Celebelly · 25/02/2018 12:54

This is getting steadily more bizarre. It reminds of that hoohah about David Beckham kissing his daughter on the lips and all the weirdos who came out saying that it was inappropriate. I used to share a bath with my cousin when I was around 7/8 and he was a couple of years younger. As far as I'm aware, neither of us have turned out to be sexual deviants,

thecatsarecrazy · 25/02/2018 12:56

my 11 year old or 8 year old bath with a 1 year old sometimes? whats the problem

Thunderthunderthundercatshooo · 25/02/2018 12:58

I was very relieved to read it wasn't your parent's bathing together! 8 and 2, not weird at all. My parent's put my brother and I in the same bath until I was 5 and he was 10. I think 10 is the correct cut off, he would have been next to last year of primary school.

The only thing weird in your case is the videoing in the bath, maybe just have a quiet word about being careful about recording and sharing such things. You've got to be very careful today, things can easily end up in the wrong hands.

Nanny0gg · 25/02/2018 12:59

Are you actually worried because he's adopted and not 'blood related'?

Sarahjconnor · 25/02/2018 13:04

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Nelly1727 · 25/02/2018 13:11

Not weird at all to bath together at those ages.

shetookshelter · 25/02/2018 13:12

I asked because I have anxiety and things that seem like a big issue to me might not be to anyone else

I think the clear answer is that no, it's not a big issue to most people. I see no problem with it.

AutumnalTed · 25/02/2018 13:24

If I have a bath at my mums I genuinely can’t get in without my whole fam joining in, 6 and 4 year old sisters, 1 year old son, my 16 year old sister will pop in for a chat and so will my mum. It’s a family bloody party but not once has it been weird

karategirl · 25/02/2018 13:31

@AutumnalTed sounds just like this! www.amazon.co.uk/Five-Minutes-Peace-Jill-Murphy/dp/0399257071?tag=mumsnetforum-21

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 25/02/2018 13:33

Ooh great let’s share lots of bathing stories with a randomer on the internet Hmm

Celebelly · 25/02/2018 13:57

I mean, 'my two kids bathe together' is hardly titillating material, is it? It's just a simple statement of fact. I think expecting there to be some grubby old man getting his rocks off because someone said their children share a bath is a bit of a stretch. It's not exactly the same as sharing intimate details or photos, and actually I think perpetuating this idea that you can't talk about things in a very brief and non-detailed way because there are bad men out there is part of the thinking that leads to bizarre threads like this in the first place. Just use common sense.

Frusso · 25/02/2018 14:12

The only thing that is wrong with the scenario is your mum videoing the and sending the video on. that makes me uneasy.

Fattymcfaterson · 25/02/2018 14:33

I'm actually speechless at this.
You think your 8yo DS might accidentally grab you neice? Where? I assume you mean he might accidentally grab her vulva? What a wierd thing to think!
You need help. Seriously

Mammyloveswine · 25/02/2018 14:37

My nephews are 7 and 5... there was a mix up with their hotel last time they visited so they jumped in the bath with my 18 month old. They all had a great time! Perfectly innocent! I find it bizarre that you think children sharing a bath is odd..

I hate it when the innocence of children is ignored.