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AIBU?

To think this is weird

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Laurenmclovely · 25/02/2018 11:34

Basically my mum sent a video to the family WhatsApp of them both in the bath. I just think that it's highly inappropriate for them to still be bathed together! I mean surely there's an age where it just becomes creepy? I wouldn't bathe my 8 month old with a sibling at that age. I might just be over reacting but it's just really creeped me out !

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Aeroflotgirl · 25/02/2018 12:14

And the photo is no different to the old fashioned photos of siblings in the bather that used to grace family photo Albums.

Merryfeckingchristmas · 25/02/2018 12:15

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LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 25/02/2018 12:15

It's not weird! He's eight still little, the filming and putting it on social media would worry me.

upsideup · 25/02/2018 12:17

OP YOU are the one sexualising it and making it inappropriate not anybody else. Therefore, YOU are the one that has a problem here.

This.

Laurenmclovely · 25/02/2018 12:17

There are some reasons for the worry. I wasn't going to mention them but it seems I'm left with no choice. He has in the past put his hands on my bum or up mine or few other ladies tops. He has also said to her once "hi X , I like that you are naked' I know kids are all individuals and they can say things like that innocently, but he is very aware of the human body and what ladies parts do etc. Yes it might be an over the top reaction I get that but it's just little things like that that concern me

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doesthislookoddtoyou · 25/02/2018 12:19

you weren't going to mention them until no-one agreed with you and you had to invent something to change that?

Mybrows · 25/02/2018 12:20

Lauren nothing you describe there is necessarily sexual, but if you genuinely think that your 8 year old nephew is showing sexualised behaviour then you need to report it as it's highly likely he's being sexually abused himself. For clarity - I really don't think he is. I think you're the one with issues - fairly major ones.

It's fine for kids to bathe together. He's a kid, she's a kid. His baby sister. The fact you see it as wrong is really gross and disturbing.

Laurenmclovely · 25/02/2018 12:21

Excuse me?! How effing rude are you. I would NEVER make that up about a child. A lot of you women are very nasty and vindictive even suggesting something like that.

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RebelRogue · 25/02/2018 12:21

But your worry is essentially that your 8yo nephew will be sexually inappropriate and/or take advantage of his sister...

FissionChips · 25/02/2018 12:21

But YOU think your DN is a pervert!

Lemonyknickers · 25/02/2018 12:22

My 10 yr old boy and 6 yr girl still sometimes share a bath. Thier choice. I still stay near, as you should with kids in a bath so I don't feel worried.

MammaTJ · 25/02/2018 12:23

You are making an 8 year old boy out to be a perv! That is the kind of thing that paedophiles do, they sexualise young children's innocent comments and actions in order to justify their behaviour!

My children, a girl and a boy are now 12 and 11, they no longer bath together. They stopped when DD started to say she preferred to bath alone. They certainly were still bathing together at 8.

doesthislookoddtoyou · 25/02/2018 12:23

A lot of you women are very nasty and vindictive even suggesting something like that.

We're not suggesting that children we know are mini perverts, so I would hold on to those stones in your glass house

FucksakeCuntingFuckingTwats · 25/02/2018 12:24

I think yabu. They are both little kids.

prideofaberdeen · 25/02/2018 12:24

This kind of post make me really sad. 8yo boys are not sexualised beings, unless there has been abuse which is obviously a whole different scenario. There is nothing wrong at all with two siblings of different sex sharing a bath together at this age. Assuming impropriety is projecting something onto the boy that simply isn't there.

Laurenmclovely · 25/02/2018 12:24

Not once did I say he was a pervert. I'm just saying as kids grow and explore themselves and the human body he may accidentally grab her or something. I'm not saying he is a deviant am I?? Saying I have serious issues for worrying is a bit much imo

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Herewegoagainagain · 25/02/2018 12:26

The granddaughter of friends of the family (now aged 14, very well rounded, sensible, mature, individual) was mesmerised by my chest when she was 5! Nothing sexual at all - just unfamiliar to her. I'm large chested while her Mum and grandmother aren't so it was all new to her. Nobody ever worried that there was anything off or wrong in anyway

Laurenmclovely · 25/02/2018 12:26

As someone who has abused as a child, perhaps my worry is unjustified. I was abused my someone close to my age who was very sexualised so forgive me for thinking that it could happen . To those of you saying I am making this up to try and justify my feelings on this. Go F yourselves.

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prideofaberdeen · 25/02/2018 12:26

Accidentally grab her?! What do you think he's actually going to do?! My kids bathe together and are fascinated with each other's bodies. Because they are kids and bodies are interesting and funny. That's it.

RebelRogue · 25/02/2018 12:27

But he might "accidentally " grab her in a changing room,in the paddling pool, play fighting,tickling etc. If it's an accident surely location or clothes don't matter.

upsideup · 25/02/2018 12:27

A lot of you women are very nasty and vindictive even suggesting something like that.

Op, you are the one sexualising children. We are going to be worried that it is possible that our childrens auntie is 'uncomfortable' by seeing our small children in the bath with their siblings and think it 'wierd' and 'inappropriate'. The fact that anyone can think like that about a child actually sickens me, and I hope untill you are able to sort out your 'anxiety' that is causing you to veiw children this way you are never near mine.

Hygge · 25/02/2018 12:28

"Okay ladies, calling me weird is a bit mean."

You called your own Mum weird in your thread title.

I agree with doesthislookoddtoyou about the drip feed too.

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Herewegoagainagain · 25/02/2018 12:28

Accidentally grab her?? OP, genuinely I'm a bit worried about you now and don't think this thread is helping. Yes, children are by their nature curious. It seems like you are applying a very adult lens to some children and it does concern me about what you'll pass onto your own children

Mybrows · 25/02/2018 12:29

Well first of all, a 2 year old would be supervised by an adult whilst in the bath (as evidenced by the fact the GPs were there!) so I still don't think you have a genuine concern, it's just that it makes you uncomfortable due to your OWN issues, and secondly what on earth are you talking about with accidentally grabbing her?! I really do think you have serious issues in this area and need to reflect before you pass these on to your child.

Would you think it was ok for an 8 year old boy to change a baby girl's nappy? Kids being curious (or even knowledgable - my son knew about sex at 8 years old because he asked how babies are made!) about the human body does not make them sexual predators.

FissionChips · 25/02/2018 12:29

Drip. Drip. Drip.

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