To leave him upstairs all night?

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I've had a horrible few days. I've just finished an on call shift, and DH has been horrible all day.

I made meatballs in the slow cooker last night before work and he decided to go and get himself a curry- fine. But he doesn't want them tonight either because he's 'making a point'

He's making a point that we can't buy a house because I'm an agency nurse and have to have 6 months payslips before we're considered for a mortgage. He's angry that due to sickness, the 6 months only starts now.

He's angry Newcastle lost and England played badly, he's angry I've not been home all day because I've been called in a few times.

He's angry that we have no money ( we have 9k in savings but because we're £50 into our overdraft he's upset, he likes a 'buffer' of 1k by payday) so we 'have no money'

So he's gone upstairs to work and has been upstairs for 4 hours. Aibu to eat dinner alone and leave him up there?

After that comment I’d take your contribution to the savings back out, it’s not a forgiveable comment. You can do joint savings again when you know that he will never ever even think that the savings are his.

How about separate savings accounts, one for you and one for him? You can put your large payment into your account, and all he needs to do is leave his piffling little bit where it is - you could kindly give him whatever interest has accrued from you having put your money in there.

Then let him save for the next 6 months, too. Perhaps he won't be so keen on buying unnecessary take-aways?

Wow he sounds so childish! I'm so glad you put the wood burner on & ate the meatballs yourself. I kind of wish you'd ordered a curry (for one) though. See how he likes it!