Tell me the amazing ways in which your DC AREN'T like you?

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I realised today that DD aged 13 is really very good with money. She went out with her friends to go skating and she only took twenty dollars with her when she had about forty in her room....she said "I'll take twenty but I won't need all that"

When I was her age that forty dollars would have burned a hole in my pocket and I'd have taken the lot...probably spent it all on slushies.

Younger DD....hugely socially confident. At complete ease in a crowd and navigates multiple friendship groups with ease...always getting asked to places with her mates etc.

I was NOTHING like that...I was shy and awkward!

What about your DC?

I have an artistic daughter! I cannot even draw a stick man, and love that she is arty.

Mine can read music! Gobbledygook to me!

Mine are all better at maths than I am.

I am tidy, they are not.
I am organised, they are not.
I get everything ready the night before, they do not.
I hurry up if I'm running late, they do not.

My dd is so chatty and socially confident. She's only small so I hope it will last. Being shy and awkward can be rubbish sometimes and I don't want that for her.

Sport! Mine plays a niche sport on a team, goes to competitions with another team and dances (exams and shows) I can barely walk up the stairs

I’m scared of everything!

I don’t swim- they are all water obsessed and very confident

Rides- I didn’t go on anything until I was 16, they go on everything.

Outdoor activities- even now as an adult I’ve not done any outdoor activity type things. They love it all, abseiling, kayaking, zip lines. Even tame stuff like paint balling or go karting I’ve never done.

I love it and actively encourage it all but secretly shit myself. I refuse to pass on my fears.

Great question!

They both understand Physics. They have much better memory than I do. DS2 is more socially confident.

I think that what I've realised (mine are teens) is that we can sometimes fall into the trap of wanting them to be better than us - not have the difficulties we have, go through the problems we have, make the mistakes we have - without realising that they already are better in some ways. And that we can't make them not make our mistakes just by warning them.

DS2 is very laid back and relentlessy optimistic. I am so jealous of that.

He is also however messy and disorganised, and always does things right up to the deadline. He can keep that!

My dd works really hard is focused and competitive. I was way brighter than her but couldn't apply myself in school.

DD draws really well - I can only draw people that look like the ones on roadsigns

My dd is confident, dresses fab and does amazing make up

Ds2 is an extrovert, will make friends wherever he goes

Ds1 is just like me, introverted, sarcastic

DS1 is a very talented endurance runner- not something DH or I have ever had the ability to attempt, far less succeed at! His coaches in another sport expect him to join the national team once he is old enough- again, not a sport DH or I are particularly talented in.
DS2 is a fantastic artist and loves to perform, I can't draw to save myself and would much rather blend into the background!

MIne are all mathmeticians, I hate maths and use a calculator as much as possible.

Mine speaks 3 other languages. I've got a low grade CSE French!

Both are very musical unlike me. DD1 doesn’t like cheese

Good at sport. I run like a toddler.

Ds is only 2.5 but he is so confident and outgoing whereas even at a very young age, I was a very anxious child.

He also has tons of bright blonde hair and I have no idea where that came from!

Ds1 aged 7 walks into any room and owns it instantly. People turn towards him, listen to him, he commands attention (sometimes for nefarious purposes ) and is liked by everyone. I hide at the back.

Ds2 (5) can build better Lego structures than anyone I know. He has an instinctive ability to know what will work and what won't.

He’s braver, more driven and definitely won’t tolerate bullshit! I’m 46 and only just learning to not tolerate it!

They are both musical, can sing and play instruments and read music. I envy them that. They also have rhythm and can dance.

They both make their beds properly every day - I just plump up the pillows and straighten the duvet but they both do a proper job.

That's all very impressive but the thing that truly amazes me is that they can tell their left from their right and always could from a very young age. They never get it wrong whereas I am on my fifties and still get very confused. I have to look at the backs of my hands and orientate myself. I get it right more often than I get it wrong these days but I can't be relied upon.

My youngest DD puts string boundaries in place and takes no bullshit. She doesn't procrastinate and she knew what she wanted to do by 16.

My middle and eldest DDs are confident dancers and make friends were ever they go. They go to festivals, sometimes alone and slot into friendship groups.

My eldest also doesn't shy away from confrontation, but does it much more calmly and effectively than I did at her age.

Mines got a pair of balls. Thats about it unfortunately for him he is too much like me!

They are really out going and do not give a shit what people think. I'm horribly socially awkward and a people pleaser (to my own detriment). Ok so they are only 4, 2 and 6 months but I hope they stay their crazy non shit giving selves forever.

My eldest goes into any situation and immediately makes a friend . Wish I had the confidence !