How stepford wife are you...

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

That's it really:)

Would you consider yourself a stepford wife and enjoy it, or modern working woman or something inbetween?

Interested in opinions here....some scorn at the submissive 'housewife' types as others relish in the role and really enjoy it. Others think homemakers do one of the most difficult jobs about with little appreciation.

Where do your opinions fall on this?

Btw I am NOT saying housewives and homemakers are stepford wives....but it's an opinion many share that the man should rule the household and he should habe a hot meal on the table when he returns from work etc.

Man rules the household hot meal on the table and if you don’t do it he kills you.

That’s stepford wife.

In my case beats and rapes you. Broken nose and eye socket. Few missing teeth. Broken finger.

Pure hilaire. Lol.

DP is a builder, I work in Admin, we both work full time. We don't have kids or pets.

I do all the cooking and food shopping - not because DP rules the household, but because that's what works for us. I grab bits we need on my way home and cook dinner whilst DP is in the shower.

We both tidy as we go, will both put a load of washing on when needed and while he's out on Saturday mornings doing his hobby, I give the house a clean.

I've never understood how household stuff becomes such an issue in relationships tbh

On the surface I probably seem like one, I'm not though. I have a personality and I'm respected. I do all the housework, decorating, some DIY, most of the cooking, organising our finances. I do it because I like it, it's not expected of me and I am appreciated, if I wanted to go out to work instead I could. DH doesn't rule the household. If anyone does it's me. He isn't messy either, I find men that expect their wives to pick their dirty socks off the floor etc very disrespectful. He works incredibly long hours, I like to have a nice meal ready for him and the house spotless because when I worked that's what I wanted to come home to. When I was too ill to do hardly anything, for nearly a year, he took care of me instead.

@Hotcross
Bloody hell sorry for stating '3 narrow sets'.... read the full thread. I shared 3 opinions I had heard. NOT which I created. I thought what I said was clearly enough information to get some opinions and that you wouldn't need spoonfeeding so much.

@bluedog
I'm sorry what happened to you but I will reiterate I DO NOT FIND THIS FUNNY. THESE ARE NOT MY OPINIONS. I just wanted to see what other people think. I don't share these opinions at all. Jesus

For all those saying this is for an essay, my uni days are waaaay behind me unfortunately

For the person who said is this even a job...What an odd thing to say. Yes funnily enough I do have a valid job and people do hold different opinions to you.

For the poster asking for my opinion...I have a lot of admiration for SAHM/HW and don't agree with the whole stepford wife submissive opinion. I was shocked these still are existent opinions

@bluedog

Stop posting if you find the thread so offensive. I do not find it funny at all! It's not even my opinion! Don't put words into my mouth especially disgusting ones that I find any sort of violence funny!!

Bluedog that's not what the OP is saying at all and is certainly not laughing at. I think you might need to take a step back

Well the op put the big grins. Not me.

@Bluedog

"Well the op put the big grins. Not me."

I put one smiley face NOT a grin. To start the beginning of a conversation in what I thought was a pleasant manner. I'm sorry I hit a nerve and I'm sorry for what you have been through but how dare you insinuate I find this funny. I've witnessed violence before and even rescued someone from it so don't tarnish me with that disgusting view. It makes me feel sick

LittleMissUnreasonable Thu 22-Feb-18 14:07:50
@Busy

"'... An opinion many share that the man should rule the household'

Are you posting from the 1930s OP?"

God no grin just a common opinion I've heard amongst the older generation I work with unfortunately
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Don’t know if the grin will work but there’s a big grin there in that post.

I suppose I would be considered Stepford by the popular sense of the phrase. I'm a SAHM and do all of the household stuff, like baking and crafts, the house is clean and organised...is that what you mean? I am certainly not submissive in any way.

'An opinion many share'

I don't know a single person who genuinely thinks a man should do no housework and come home to dinner on the table.

@Bluedog

I was grinning at the aspect of posting from 1930s and how different society would be there. I'll ask Mumsnet to delete the grin....

I’m currently on maternity leave and as I’m home I cannot bear the tip the house turns into, normally we tidy in the evenings and deep clean on weekends.

So I clean the house as I’m home and there’s less to do on weekends also love experimenting so have hot meals ready when everyone comes home. I do the laundry but everyone puts away their own clothes. If there’s dishes not done I’ll do those too.

However, there’s no expectations on me to do anything bar take care of DD, I can and have called DP to tell him to sort out supper he cooks on weekends he does baby bath time’s every day, dc empty bins, DP takes excess rubbish to the tip. I don’t think I’m a stepford wife.

Everyone pitches in, I’m happy to do the bulk of the housework whilst at home. But nobody expects me to or complains or queries if I don’t do it.

I wouldn’t do it if it was expected of me to be honest.

DP and I consult on household decisions together neither of us is particularly controlling or the one in charge.

Oh you’ll re-write history by getting mumsnet to edit your post.

Nice.

I keep up with my appearance I guess which is quite stepford. My husband does all the housework though.

I do the cooking and cleaning, shock horror sometimes I MAKE HIS LUNCH... I also do most of the childcare. However he hoovers, does the washing, does the ironing, is hands on with DC when he’s not at work... we work together and around each other

Personal attack now.

Really nice.

It isn’t funny or worthy of a big grin to think men should rule the household.

Stepford wives was a film where women who weren’t fitting the submissive role and allowing the men to rule the household were killed. Let’s not forget that.

It’s a lazy stereotype and I find it offensive.

@Bit out

"Bluedog that's not what the OP is saying at all and is certainly not laughing at. I think you might need to take a step back"

I can't keep defending myself but I'm glad you haven't misinterpreted me being a sadist who finds violence funny. Blue dog isn't listening and has no idea what I've been through so I'm just going to ignore now x

And you’ve tried to make out like “many” older people share your vile views.

She does this in most threads OP don’t worry.

I quite enjoy the whole "Stepford Wife" role. I work less hours than DH and we do t have any kids yet, so I do significantly more in the house - I cook about 90% of the time, I do the laundry, ironing, 80% of the cleaning, etc. DH does the "blue jobs"
I quite like the traditional roles we have in the house, but I don't doubt that if I need DH to share the load with me (should children come along, for example) that he would fairly do his share.

@Notumbongo

Thank you x I'm also pretty sure I've said to her multiple times in my thread that these aren't my views...some people really do choose what they want to hear