A man just shouted at me in the street

[Dallia]

“Why are you wearing a curtain?”

I kind of smiled awkwardly and carried on crossing the road to him shouting “oi, you, I’m talking to you!”

I was absolutely mortified, lots of people were watching but no one said anything.

Why do people do this? He seemed like a “normal person” and it was really intimidating. He turned back to look and I thought he was going to start following me. Has anyone ever had weird random things shouted at them in the street, or is it just me

For the record I was wearing a stripy maxi dress as I was on my way to get a spray tan. Really wish I’d had a witty comeback.

I always assume men like this go home to their mummy because they have never been able to hold down a relationship and are incapable of looking after themselves/living alone.

After their fish fingers and smiley faces, they go to their room to watch porn until bedtime.

Sad fuckers.

I was absolutely mortified, lots of people were watching but no one said anything.

This sentence does read as if you wanted people to say something. But ok.

I was chatting to a mum from DS school one morning as we and DC walked to school. She wears a veil. Two men in a car slowed as they drove past and shouted "Fucking ninja" at her before roaring with laughter and driving off. The poor mum was more upset that her and my DC had to hear that abusive language than anything else.

Some fuckwits need putting down.

Men can be such knobs, I'd have had a smart arse reply but sometimes that eggs them on.

I've no idea why people do this.

It's never happened to me so maybe I've been lucky.

This is not people - it's men - and I doubt there is a woman alive who hasn't been the recipient of a bit of shouted vileness from a knobhead or two (or a few thousand). Women, in the main, don't bother leaning out of vans to shout personal insults. Men are strange. Not all of them, but a heck of a lot of them.

Just found this article on the subject

They do it for power and 'fun' apparently...

Whilst I was out cycling I had a chap yell out of his car window telling me to get a car. I told him thank you, I have one....and it's nicer than yours!

Roth haha yes!

Sorry This that’s not how I meant it to sound. I’d never want someone to jump in and say anything - who knows what could happen!

I was in Sheffield many years ago and passed two youngish lads (late teens or early twenties). One asked if I was going to sit on his face. I just raised an eyebrow at him and kept walking. But really, did he think I was going to fall for his charms???

Hes hard isn't he shouting at a women on her own.
Ooh put another bloke against him, though.

It’s men. And they do it to keep you in your place. www.ihollaback.org/

It is always men that shout insulting and demeaning remarks at women. Although I am a fan of the withering putdown, I think in cases like this, ignoring it completely is the best way forward. Nothing enrages these dickheads more than thinking their idiotic comments haven't been heard and appreciated.

In work today, I got "you're looking very smart these days Rosa! Have you got a fancy man somewhere?" I replied "Oh! Have I woken up in the 70s? Let me tell you, darling, if I dress well it won't be to please a man! I dress to please myself, and always will." Happy to get cheers from the rest of the team.

I just think ‘danger - possible unhinged person!’ If anyone shouts. Best just walk on!

My husband was followed up the street once by someone absolutely insistent that he (DH) was Jesus. Hanging off him and everything. We legged it into Starbucks to escape.

Urgh. What arseholes some men are.

I had a very outspoken friend at University who once took exception when a sleazy bloke shouted: 'Beaudiful girrrrrls' several times out of his car window. He was obviously intending to drive off into the distance after delivering his witty comments, but unfortunately for him, he immediately had to stop at a junction. My friend stood adjacent to his car, pointing at him through his open window, and saying to me in a very loud voice: 'Look at this cock. Look at this absolute dickhead who drives around shouting stupid things at women'. He was mortified. It was bloody funny.

Is it always men?

Do gay men do the same to other men do you think?

And how do they choose their victims? It's never happened to me.

I was in the Highlands sat minding my own business watching for otters while wearing a wide-brimmed sun hat (it was a scorcher). A car full of knobs all wearing camouflage clothes pulled up at the side of the road so that a bald bloke could shout "are you lost love, you should be at Blackpool" Then they carried on down the previously peaceful road in hysterics. Not serious I know but I was so cross I had my speech worked out ready in case they went to the local pub that night. I would have told baldy that he should get a hat to protect his bare skin from the sun, and did he have anything to say to me face to face, In my mind, all his friends would laugh at him and I would have walked away with hat held high to a round of applause from the other clientele. Unfortunately, he has never crossed my path again but I am ready. On a more serious note, years ago somebody shouted out of a van window "look at the tits on that" my then-boyfriend blamed me and said I had done it on purpose.

In my early twenties I was walking across town in my lunch break. A man was behind me and as he passed he hissed at me

'pull your fucking tights up you silly bitch, look at the state of them'

in a REALLY nasty, aggressive tone as if my baggy at the ankle tights were an insult to his eyes

I was actually on my way to M&S to buy some more but why a complete stranger felt it appropriate to abuse me for them I have no idea!

Nowadays I would verbally shred him AND report him to his employer (he was in a Royal Mail uniform!) but at the time I just stood there open mouthed.

Wanker.

I was sat on a bus on the way to my pub job in winter and it stopped at a bus stop beside the companies main building and the driver nipped off to the loo (like quite a few did on that route) so we were sat for a few minutes. Some neds walked past and one of them noticed me and then shouted “she’s wearing a fuckin’ beret!” So all his mates then came back and started banging on the window shouting “beret bitch, beret bitch” at me.

But it was woolly bobble hat, bunch of bams!

You can imagine him, can't you,
Verbally abusing a women unaware her partner is present. The partner wallops him one and him going down like a sack of spuds.

I’m so sick of this shit I think women should carry big stones around to lob at the stupid cars these dickheads are driving.

A couple of months ago I was walking to the shop and a guy slowed down his van to shout ‘Can I motorboat your funbags?’ They are boobs apparently, I had no idea and just stared at him. My chest size is an A so I assume he was taking the piss?

A few months ago, a man did a u-turn in his car to pull up alongside me on the pavement and hurl abuse. Apparently I'd sworn at him as I was walking along the pavement in the opposite direction, minding my own business...

Men do it for power. They do it for fun. It's never caused by ANYTHING you've done, or not done, and anyone who says differently is victim-blaming.