A man just shouted at me in the street

[Dallia]

“Why are you wearing a curtain?”

I kind of smiled awkwardly and carried on crossing the road to him shouting “oi, you, I’m talking to you!”

I was absolutely mortified, lots of people were watching but no one said anything.

Why do people do this? He seemed like a “normal person” and it was really intimidating. He turned back to look and I thought he was going to start following me. Has anyone ever had weird random things shouted at them in the street, or is it just me

For the record I was wearing a stripy maxi dress as I was on my way to get a spray tan. Really wish I’d had a witty comeback.

I had an idiot in the car behind me the other day scare the kids. Was going at 50 down a road where the limit was 60 and imo on that road 50 is fast enough. He didn't like it, was driving right up behind me and when we stopped in a queue leading up to a roundabout, he kept shaking his head and tugging at his seatbelt. Then when I turned off he slowed down just to yell something out his window at me which I couldn't hear. Some men are on a real power trip when driving but I think they do it to other men too - I know my ex does. I guess it feels more threatening though if you are a woman - especially alone in a car with kids.

That's horrific @YogaDrone. Your poor mum. Such young boys too - depressing.

Ignore him. He could have mental health problems, you could have reminded him of someone who abused him, you just don't know. Years ago, a random man shouted terrible things at my little girl (5 years old). I just concluded he must be either odd, sick in the head or both. Don't dwell on it hun, move on. Best wishes to you.

I told him that she didn't look sixteen and even if she did, his behaviour was appalling.

Why the hell wouldn't you call the police on this guy?

Unfortunately it's not just grown women sadly. 2 summers ago, we booked our 2 DDs into a drama camp which took place at a high school in our city. The director took a strange shine to DD2, who was 4 at that time and just about to start school. He kept telling her she was cute and he was going to 'take her away'.

It freaked me out, because of me being an abuse survivor. In addition, it really upset DD2, who was adopted and was placed with us at 1 year old. It was very bad timing as well, with her starting school in the September.

I can't believe there are women on here minimising these disgusting mens behaviour, by blaming it on mental health problems. They do it because they enjoy intimidating women and are asshole.
I have had numerous encounters with these sort of men.

1. Having an egg thrown at me out of a car, whilst stood on a bus stop. 2)Having a man put his hand between my thighs on a bus. 3)Having a friend of my grandparents squeeze my knees under the table aged 13 4)Grabbed and bounced up and down on a man's lap in a club, being told "I'm so strong, I could rape you" 5)When breastfeeding my son, being asked if he could suck on them as well. 6)Being told I had great tits, to cheer up etc. Loads more, can't be bothered to upload as too depressing. Most depressing part is that I excused it as men being men. I'm 39 and it's only with #METOO that I've realised how bloody prevalent it is. It's like a plague. How bloody ridiculous is that.

Yes, there are people with mental health issues in society. They can still be a threat you know.
But let's not kid ourselves, the vast majority of these examples are not mental heath issues, they are attitude issues. In fact 'issues' is too light a word. It's men with Neanderthal thought processes and no regard for women's feelings or self awareness of how twattish they are.
This isn't a woman saying it, it's another man... and I'm hardly alone. Plenty of us feel ashamed of how we as a group behave.

only on this fucking website could someone excuse it as "mental health"

Me too. There are the two different things - the mental health/dementia sufferer - best ignored and not their fault - and the fuckwit who wants to humiliate you look good in front of his mates.

The latter are always men. The former can be either sex.

Not long after id had my twins i ventured out to the local shop and for some fresh air with them in the pram. I put on almost 2 stone after i had them and i was overweight to begin with. So i was a size 18 and probably hadn't made any attempt to sort out my hair. But i HAD got out of the house with 6 week old twins. Anyway two young lads, no older than 13 stared me up and down and one of them went cough"moonpig"cough and the other laughed like a drain. I tried to shrug it off but as i was on the verge of PND it make it harder to go out after that. I'll be disgusted if my kids ever make someone feel the way they made me feel.

"I was in a nightclub years ago when two blokes started laughing at me asking 'are you a transvestite?'

The obvious reply is "no, are you?" Then their mates laugh at them instead of you."

..... Or a good reply would have been ...... No, Are you? You'd only need a wig as you already have the cunt part covered.

"Oh look it's the Michelin Man" - and loads of "Cheer Up" or "Nice Tits"

Be careful though - I once told a bloke to fuck off when he said "You're cute, you are" and he hit me - hard - knocked me to the ground and kicked me.

When i travelled in Turkey i went for a nap the hot afternoon. I laid on top of the bed with the fan on me and woke to find one of the waiters in my room watching me. Numerous incidences of groping. Egypt was similar. In Morocco i was assaulted by a group of boys

Now we don't have to travel to those countries MrsKoala, we can be insulted here. I would say that in the last 5 years all insults that have been shouted at me, or spoken by a passing male, have been by ROP. Comments are all sexual, disgusting and full of hate and contempt.

Wrt Great West Road - I remember when it was the golden mile of lots of firms, abuzz with employment, movement and opportunity.

What does ROP mean.?

In other situations (pub, shop, work) I usually say Stick it in a keyhole, mate. The insult being size ........

Another one I've used is: Get away from me you bitch. Most men don't know how to react to being called a bitch.

Jolly Little shits. If I’d seen you, I’d have given you an admiring smile, as I was still mostly shuffling around in my dressing gown at 6 weeks, and I only had one baby!

ROP means religion of peace.

I like that one a lot Line. Never underestimate the power of confusion!

Along similar lines, we could shout ‘VICTORIANS!’ at any men who pass comment on us.

How can you tell what’s what religion a shouty twat is?

You can't always know a man's religion. But there are certain types of clothing that give strong hints at it. I imagine that's how the previous poster knows?

Ah, I see. That's not been my experience, but I don't think the area I live in is particularly diverse.

My racist twat of a bil (sis partner) shouted a vile racics word that i wont repeat out of my dps car window at a woman wearing a burka. I told dp to stop the car and kicked the fucker out 30 miles away from where he lived knowing he had no money on him We are nc for obvious reasons now.