My Daughter took a bully down with a mumsnet classic today...

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My Daughter is at an age where some of the girls at school have started being horrible witches nasty to one another in the playground. My Daughter has always been wonderfully quirky, with a heart for justice and the kindest, most empathetic person I've ever known. Old beyond her years (in a beautifully old lady way-she's recently taken to wearing her reading glasses on a chain round her neck )
The new hormonal nastiness has her outraged (LOVES a rule!) but not upset. Some of the things (particularly comments about her adoption) that she's told me have made me far more upset than they have made her.
I told her what I thought might be a good way to quieten the bullies and today my 9 year old loudly replied to one 'I'm sorry, did you MEAN to be so rude?!' Apparently other children burst out laughing and said bully stropped off. I like to think with a cats bum face.

This is all so sad.

That people are being bullied etc.

@Enoughnowplease I am so sorry your son is being bullied , I hope school will get on the case.

Show they sound so similar! The silent dictionary slide has me howling

Millie I'm so excited! We are a family of eyebrow raisers too! A raised eyebrow says a thousand words!

May you're a hero! I love that you took her down!

Ignatius that's next on the list for sure

I was teased about my surname by a neighbour child around the age of 10. Popped him in the jaw - he never came near me again!

I'm not advising violence, mind but sometimes it does the trick

Well the teachers called the whole year in today and said they had had a lot of very upset students complaining of nastiness from 'a very few people'. Apparently all heads turned in the same direction...they were asked to apologise to the people they had upset. Apparently that didn't happen. Dd asked chief bully if they could start again and be friends and got a huff and a flounce. She apparently followed her and told her that if she was sad she could talk to her and she'll 'always forgive her'. I think she's doing a good enough job of annoying the bully that I wont need to go in!

Ok so your dd sounds pretty amazing well done you op

Some years ago my very bright but overweight nine year old daughter used to be teased by local children who went to another school. She was called fat and rejoined,’ At least I am clever.’ In reply her tormenter said, ‘ I’d rather be stupid than fat.’ My poor girl had the sense to know she had won that one even if the teaser didn’t.

@italiangreyhound unfortunately school are being spectacularly crap. In response to boys sighing, rolling their eyes and saying they don’t want him to sit next to them to eat lunch school have said ‘DS sighs at them sometimes too’
DS has ASD and is playing on his own now because they all exclude him. 😨

Enoughnowplease you have my deepest sympathies. I too have an ASD child (DD) and we had horrid trouble at two different primaries with bullies being actively supported by teachers and everyone denying anything was happening. We’ve got lucky in Secondary as the support is there and they are very aware of the difficulties for ASD teens. But it is luck. Your DS (and all ASD DCs out there) is in my thoughts.

OP your DD sounds amazing, I’m with all the other comments here about how wonderful she is, and how wonderful you and your family are for giving her a world in which she can flourish. And through her the ripples of loveliness starting from you and your DH spread out to others. Absolutely wonderful, huge congratulations for amazing parenting.

@Enoughnowplease I am so sorry to hear about your son. Please take it higher. This school attitude is empowering the bullies.

The teachers would soon complain if they were being excluded. Exclusion is bullying.

How old is he? Could you consider moving him? Self esteem is so important.

I LOVE that. My dd took a more physical approach. One boy thought it was fun to pick her up and throw her in the hedge on the way home from school (she was tiny, he was tall) and laugh at her with his friends. Her friend gave her secret punching lessons, and the next time he did it she climbed out of the hedge and punched him in the face. He never did it again. I like to think I'm a pacifist but I was so proud!

And having read more comments, your daughter is wonderful, OP.

tin that's amazing! He wont be doing that again in a hurry!

Love it. Good for her!!