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Original poster

...to ask if you have ever broken anything in anger?

135 replies

mumspice · 16/02/2018 22:45

Prompted by another thread.

I once smashed nearly every plate in the house because yet again MIL had told me she was coming to visit even though I had said no it wasn't convenient. I had this strange reasoning that if I smashed all the plates she couldn't come because she'd have nothing to eat off.

In my defence I had just had my second mc and although MIL didn't know, she had spouted off about how the daughter of one of her friends must be "infertile" because she had mc.

DH had to hold me down before I started on the cups. And bless him, he cleared up every last shard. He also told MIL not to come and we went away for the weekend (to somewhere with plates!)

OP posts:
swanmills · 16/02/2018 22:52

When I was about 18 I threw a mug across the room. Think that's as bad as it's gotten (so far!)

I remember being about 11/12 and my parents arguing once again about my grandma (dad's Mum). My mum had a lot of issues with her. She ended up smashing all of these little figurines my grandma had given her a few Christmas before and tearing up her wedding photos GrinGrin was pretty horrible to witness !

YesILikeItToo · 16/02/2018 22:52

I’ve hurled a meal to the floor, breaking the dishes it was going to be served up in. And I’ve thrown a telephone at a window, breaking only the window as I recall it.

NotAPuffin · 16/02/2018 22:55

I threw a remote control when I was 18 and it broke. I have been tempted since but I've always managed to resist.

iklboo · 16/02/2018 22:57

I honestly fantasise about being in a long narrow room with a pile of crockery to hand, just so I can hurl every piece up the length of it.

LoopyLou1981 · 16/02/2018 23:19

A mug, a wine glass and (I suspect) one of my knuckles when I hit a wall (I never went to have it checked out because I was too embarrassed) x

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 16/02/2018 23:20

Nope. To my knowledge I don’t ever recall breaking anything in anger.

I can understand breaking one thing, if you’ve got it in your hands at the time of said angerment, maybe even two, but an entire set of plates? I think that’s disgraceful and I don’t think any circumstances warrant that. If I was your partner I certainly wouldn’t have been picking up after you and I would be furious we’d have to buy an entire new set of plates.

So she said she was coming, so what? You told her no and if she decided to come anyway you wouldn’t have had to let her in.

Original poster
mumspice · 16/02/2018 23:26

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 "To my knowledge..." LOL!

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MyKingdomForBrie · 16/02/2018 23:29

I think having just had her second miscarriage you can lay off whattodo clearly her partner understood so your judgement isn’t relevant.

I don’t think I’ve broken anything!

MrsWoolly · 16/02/2018 23:32

I have twice, a long time ago, my anger was justified too at the time.

I don't think op was asking for judgement here, more shared experiences.

chocolateorangeowls · 16/02/2018 23:33

Your DH sounds lovely OP. Ignore the insensitive PP! I'm sorry for your losses Thanks

I have smashed a bowl before and a tv remote, both thrown at walls. Luckily I've got a lot better control of my temper since then!

ineedamoreadultieradult · 16/02/2018 23:33

I broke my finger when I punched a wall. I was suffering PND and had severe sleep deprivation. I put DS in his Moses basket shut the door behind me and punched a wall then phoned MIL (my own DM lives too far away) I'm not particularly close to MIL but she was fantastic and sorted everything out.

expatinscotland · 16/02/2018 23:34

No. I've always been skint and value my possessions too much. Have thrown losers' stuff out, though.

MsVestibule · 16/02/2018 23:34

I once chucked three metal rings from the hob, one after the other, into my tongue-in-groove wood panelled wall, denting the wall and the rings. Can't remember why.

I also threw an empty washing basket at the wall, breaking it. I was pregnant with DC2, and my very young DC1 (only 20 months between them) would not leave me alone ever, to do anything. At that point, I'm ashamed to say it was either scream at her or throw the washing basket. I mended the basket with packing tape and 10 years later, it's still going strong!!

WowIFreelStrange · 16/02/2018 23:37

My husband's eye. Lol. I know. Although it wasn't just me. We was both angry. A large pit got broken. I was picking it up and fucking turned too quick and caught him in the eye. Total fucking accident. I wasn't mad after that. We were so luck. About 2cm further I would of gone into his iris. It caught him in his conjunctiva and his water line and a bit more futher down.

Needless to say I felt the worst

We've never argued after that or got mad at each other. I'm too scared what I'll do next WinkGrin

Lizzie48 · 16/02/2018 23:37

I once broke our bath panels by kicking them, very embarrassing when the man fixing them asked what had happened. In my defence, I was dealing with extremely traumatic flashbacks of what my abusive father had done to me during my childhood, long after our DDs were asleep. I don't even remember kicking them that hard (obviously I shouldn't have kicked them at all).

I'm so sorry to hear about your losses, OP, ignore unsympathetic PPs. It sounds like you have a lovely DH, though. Thanks

Meckity1 · 16/02/2018 23:38

I was completely desperate and threw a load of plates at the garden wall.

I missed.

PavlovianLunge · 16/02/2018 23:39

Once. DP and I were talking about something, and whatever it was, I was getting hugely frustrated. I picked up a small glass and said that I felt like smashing it. He said do it, so I did it. At the time it was quite cathartic, and I can see why sometimes people just need to do something to release the pressure valve, but I don’t think it’s something I’ll ever do again.

MrKaplansGlasses · 16/02/2018 23:40

I was having a slight strop once and threw my fork into my bowl. I must have been channeling the hulk that day as the bowl split clean in two. I was more shocked than anything tbh!

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 16/02/2018 23:42

Apparently my DM used to buy plates at the charity shop just to smash them during arguments! In her defence, she never did it once she had us DCs and she had also had a fairly traumatic life, so I can see why she felt the need.

My ex was a bit of a one for throwing stuff, kicking stuff etc. It is very intimidating to watch someone lose control of themselves to that extent and I would never want my DCs to witness that TBH. I also have a very vivid imagination and would be thinking about shards of glass ricocheting off walls into my eyes etc!

Notsooriginalwerther · 16/02/2018 23:44

I Tried in vain to break an iPad (his) when I threw it at my boyfriend after a huge argument over some girl at work ‘blah blah blah’ but the damn thing bounced like a ball and landed with the most pathetic ‘plonk’ in the grass, so because I had nothing else breakable in hand just one of his hoodies I sort of whipped him with it? Not like you do with a tea towel but more sort of lasso throwing style.

DextroDependant · 16/02/2018 23:44

Abusive Ex was insisting on having a row, I was desperately tired and just wanted to sleep. Every time I pulled the duvet over me he snatched it back off and carried on trying to argue.

I grabbed my glass off the bedside table, smashed it off the edge and came so so close to stabbing him with the shards left in my hand.

I am ashamed of myself, provoked or not and so glad I found my self control just in time.

safariboot · 16/02/2018 23:45

Yes. As a teenager once my mobile network failed to give me bonus credit they should have - so I smashed my phone against the opposite wall. Twice. And then cried that I'd broken it.

Then again as an adult I smashed a hammer against the party wall enough to make a 1-inch dent in the plaster because the neighbours just wouldn't freaking shut up.

edwinbear · 16/02/2018 23:47

When I was about 6, DM refused to take me on a trip out in the car to the shops for some reason. To teach her a lesson, I stood in the front garden as she was driving out of the driveway and ripped my favourite 'Gobolino The Witches Cat' book into pieces out of sheer frustration.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 16/02/2018 23:48

Well yes, it is to my knowledge, OP, because if I ever have, I have no recollection Grin I’m pretty sure I would remember if I had.

MyKingdomForBrie One or two things, yes. An entire collection of plates? No.

myidentitymycrisis · 16/02/2018 23:50

yes. Once a long time ago I smashed loads of plates when I think I was going slightly mad for a while. Lived in a shared house and no-one was doing the washing up.
Have also thrown a full cup of tea at the wall after row with then DP over the phone.

possibly more that I cant recall right now. (I'm old)