...to ask if you have ever broken anything in anger?

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Prompted by another thread.

I once smashed nearly every plate in the house because yet again MIL had told me she was coming to visit even though I had said no it wasn't convenient. I had this strange reasoning that if I smashed all the plates she couldn't come because she'd have nothing to eat off.

In my defence I had just had my second mc and although MIL didn't know, she had spouted off about how the daughter of one of her friends must be "infertile" because she had mc.

DH had to hold me down before I started on the cups. And bless him, he cleared up every last shard. He also told MIL not to come and we went away for the weekend (to somewhere with plates!)

*one vase

When I was with my paranoid, controlling and abusive ex I used to get incandescent with rage over the constant accusations and insults. I've never felt anger like it - I just felt so powerless and frustrated. During those times I once kicked a door repeatedly and smashed a hole in it (cheap shit door!) and also, which I regret much more, slammed my arm sideways into a wall. I was wearing a beautiful bracelet that my close.friend gave me to say thank you for singing at her wedding, and it broke and the beads went everywhere. I picked them all up and still have them but haven't got round to getting it restrung

Smashed every plate in the house, a TV and microwave.
I was being abused and had been for years without fighting back. One of his tactics was to throw things at me then it would escalate into hitting me. Including throwing me into walls and punching me in the back, back of my head and face. The incident before me flipping he grabbed me by the throat... I think that's what made me finally flip when he tried to start again.

So one day when he started his shit again by throwing a mop bucket at me and then a keyboard I stood up, threw a mug and plate near him.
Went to the cupboards, calmly, threw everything out of there. Walked to the TV and knocked it off the unit screen first.
Ripped the microwave off the kitchen unit and tossed it near him. I was careful not to hit him but as I walked towards him and said "I can break our home too, would you like to move to the bedroom or the dining room?" He backed away slowly and locked himself in the bathroom for four hours.
I have no regrets.

When I was a child I threw an entire pavlova at my friend as she was annoying me. We are still best friends today and laugh about it.

Threw a bottle of formula everywhere after being fed up by the 85th breastfeed that hour. My 6month old laughed and I cried. It left a strange oil stain and smelt like cheese long after it was cleaned.

I don’t know eltonjohnssyrup how many posters from this thread were on that one too?

Or are you mistaking mumsnet for a collective voice?

My DD1 (8) has serious anger issues. She's thrown plates of food on the floor, thrown toys across the room or down the stairs. It's very scary to watch, she literally looks for something to throw. She's adopted (as is DD2 (5), her birth sister), and has Attachment Disorder.

She is capable of controlling it, though. She never throws her iPad and has actually said, 'I don't want to break it, do I?' And she never explodes like that at school, she holds it in and comes home ready to explode sometimes. It's hard work!

I have never done this. Although after reading the other thread I had a dream last night that I got angry and broke EVERYTHING in the kitchen. Literally every single item.

Oh yes I have. It's awful, that tunnel vision feeling, shaking with rage, sense of powerlessness. I've thrown a mug at someone (missed); broken a garden rake by whacking it in the patio repeatedly, remote control, pushed a mirror off a sideboard, a laptop, and assorted crockery (not at people).

I feel ashamed afterwards but incredibly relieved at the time. I'm going to an anger management course next weekend in fact

Lots
Broke my butler sink throwing a glass jug into it - jug survived but went right through the sink!
Kicked walls
Broken technology
Thrown and smashed all sorts of things

I am slightly better now I am older but still not cured. I have a terrible temper once a month and it tends to be then that inanimate objects are not safe....

Once as a spoiled brat teenager with raging hormones, when my boyfriend got a ticket to the Rolling Stones but didn't get me one as I had an A level the next day. I ripped up a dress he'd bought me and almost decapitated a massive cuddly toy he'd given me. Scary monster brat. I don't recognise that person.
And once when DH and toddler DC were pushing me to my absolute sleep-deprived limit I slammed a cupboard door so hard the lock broke.

But that's it, in 53 otherwise very peaceful years.

I threw a boyfriends phone at the wall once after I caught him messaging other girls. Only I missed the wall and hit my TV. Broke my TV and his damn phone was fine! I was even angrier after that so stamped all over his phone until it broke. Needless to say he's an ex

I'm actually shocked at how blasé you all seem to be about all this Angry Smashing 😮 I've got a fairly quick temper and hold my hands up to some god almighty rows in my time, but smashing things? I can just imagine the replies on here if this were flipped and all of these posts were replaced with 'My DH/DP/DS has just smashed (insert whatever you have just admitted to)'. This would be a VERY different thread 🙄

When I was first ill, I hurt myself hoovering. Took it out on the hoover and threw it down the stairs (which of course also hurt). Equals one dead hoover. Die bastard hoover!!

Never in my life but I have been in relationships where this happened and it was scary. And generally a prelude to physical abuse. Plus, do you people have money to burn?!

I threw my phone at a wall after a rather nasty conversation with my narcissistic mother, broke my phone camera 🤬

I haven’t even bothered to fix it, or the relationship for that matter. We haven’t spoken in a year now.

My phone. Abusive relationship, a text that broke the camel’s back (and phone!) a few years ago now, came out the other side. Bought new phone. Blocked all relevant numbers 😁

No one was in the house when I did it. I absolutely agree that smashing stuff up or hitting inanimate objects in front of people (who are not abusers themselves, they deserve it) can be frightening and is a red flag. Having to have that conversation a lot with my struggling ds at the moment - who has never witnessed me or DH do similar so hasn't learnt it from there - who keeps hitting walls :(

Yes

A physical outpouring of anger is a completely normal reaction. I’m not saying it’s ok, but it is normal. Some people have it more under control than others.

Not sure what the point of the snide comments in this thread is, unless it’s it try and show everyone else how much more in control of your lives you think you are?

I threw my exes phone against a wall. we had just had a baby and it came up with a text (left next to me on the bed) from the ow saying how amazing he was the night I was in hospital with our new born. The phone didn't break though as it was one of those old nokias

Not quite broken anything but when I discovered my ex was having an affair I cut all the cables on his computers, which was a lot as we had a server room in the house at the time due to his job. If I hadn't been quite so incandescent with rage I would have wiped his hard drives.

I was angry with my parents when I was 14. I can’t remember why. I was doing the washing up (pretty sure that wasn’t why I was angry...) and squeezed a glass in my hand under the water until it broke. I said it was an accident and they didn’t really question it.

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When I was extremely sleep deprived and poorly, I made my partner a bacon sandwich and he moaned that I hadn't cooked the bacon exactly to his liking so I threw a plate at his head. (it missed) It hit the wall and smashed and I spent literally hours hoovering stabby little slivers of plate up... I never did it again.