........to not feel happy about children posting on here?

[sallyandherarmy]

Just that really.

I thought this was an 'adult' site.

Kids posting makes me feel rather uncomfortable.

I have replied to a 'child' on another post, although something tells me that it isn't really a kid posting. Which also feels not right. :(

Anyone can read MN threads. That isn't likely to change any time soon.

If a child posts without declaring it, other posters would be none the wiser.

If a child posts and declares their age, other posters can choose to moderate their responses accordingly. Or not.

Anything you post on an open forum can be read by anyone of any age who has internet access. MNHQ banning anyone who declares themselves to be under 18 won't change a thing.

Lying really? There are far worse things she could be doing and actually, yes, I am remarkably proud of her. Although if I had wanted her on mumsnet at twelve then I wouldn't have intervened. As you can see, I did.

I've been on mumsnet for about twelve years and have seen people flamed for less so carry on criticising my parenting choices if you like. She is thoughtful, respectful, kind, sensitive, and a straight A student. She doesn't drink, smoke, do drugs or have sexual encounters unlike many of her contemporaries. I can't be too bad at this parenting lark

I'm just waiting for the inevitable name change fail now

In the uk you can marry at 16, have sex at 16, vote at 18, or 16, drive at 17, so "adulthood" varies. And MN can be used by people in other countries too , where the age of marriage can be much younger for example.

14 is a child
Unless mn setup a childrens topic, i would rather we didn't have children on here

Coedyn, Why are you not assisting your child with this issue at school?

So this child has been posting since they were 13 years old, with their mother's apparent blessing, yes?

Yet they only have to be a MN member to gain access to the sex topic where they can freely read about the joys of fisting, BDSM, prostate stimulation and dogging, to name but a few.

And post amongst those members should they choose to.

And before anyone asks why they would want to, my point is that they would be perfectly free to, without breaking any MN guidelines whatsoever.

That just doesn't sit right with me I'm afraid.

*They have to be a MN member for 90 days

Unless mn setup a childrens topic, i would rather we didn't have children on here

How do you propose to stop them? MN is entirely public; anyone can read the posts.

A Childrens' Topic would be good. They could have their own AIBU and everything.

I assume Samcro meant posting on here.

I do think it's a bit odd that a 14 year old posts for advice on a forum where they know their mother is a member, especially when that mother might/does post about them.

Derelict

What post has been around for 6 months?

Your username is so, so apt, TrustNaeFuckerEver.

Yet they only have to be a MN member to gain access to the sex topic where they can freely read about the joys of fisting, BDSM, prostate stimulation and dogging, to name but a few

Omg I have been missing out all this time! Hahaha I never once thought to look in the sex section, will have to have a peep!

But seriously, I don’t want children posting on MN. To a pp who said How inhospitable mn is to lots of different groups, that is such bollocks. I don’t have children myself (desperately TTC) and never had a problem, I don’t give a fuck if a man or woman, or trans or person or colour or rich or poor etc (you get my point) wants to post here, but I think you should have to be an adult. That is defined as over 18 to the bizarre post about being considered a child at 19.

Too many adult topics that are not suitable for kids, I hate swearing around children and it makes me uncomfortable that a child would even want to hang about with a load of adults on the Internet.

YABU. I used to post on online forums (not MN) at 14. I soon found that if I declared I was 14, it was all anyone wanted to talk about, regardless of what the post topic was, and that was incredibly irritating. So I stopped mentioning my age. Had far more interesting discussions that way. I'd recommend this to any teenage posters.

Any poster here could be 14. Or a 45-year-old named Dave. Or anything else. As for the person saying it's weird to start a thread asking for advice and then read others around the boards - that's probably what very many of us did when we first joined MN!

Worral - you realise that if the poster was interested in any of the content of the sex forum she could access graphic pornographic images of said topics at the tap of a key board?

It's the internet people, teenagers can access far far far worse than mumsnet!

I'd much rather my kid got their education (sexual and otherwise) from mumsnet than anywhere else on the Internet.

So am I getting this right a mum and her teenager daughter both post on MN and know about eachother? How old is the teenage daughter?

Sorry if I’m being dim

In the uk you can marry at 16, have sex at 16, vote at 18, or 16, drive at 17, so "adulthood" varies.

Notice, you haven't listed 14 anywhere there. Because 14 is a child.

I have no issues with children of that age being exposed to the language and adult themes they'd see here on MN. They'll be exposed to that somewhere, might as well be here.

But as far as actual problems are concerned, MN is not structured to the needs of children. The people who give advice here usually don't have the qualifications that would stand them in good stead for dishing out advice to children. Getting advice here also doesn't actually leave them with the support network necessary to truly assist them with some of the problems they might encounter. We often tell abused partners to seek help from friends... Abused children may not have friends and if they do, those friends aren't likely to be in the position to provide practical support. I could go on and on about the many varied ways in which MN is not set up to cater for the needs of children. It may well be able to provide a sort of safe space but it certainly wouldn't be a truly supportive or appropriate one and the fact that it could be used instead of bespoke support for children and teens means that it has the potential to be detrimental.

I'd much rather my kid got their education (sexual and otherwise) from mumsnet than anywhere else on the Internet.

Seriously, from the fucking sex topic?

Have you actually read it?

I'd much rather my kid got their education (sexual and otherwise) from mumsnet than anywhere else on the Internet

OMG.

There's a sex topic on this forum? I am scared!

Dippingmytoesin they're 14 apparently and have been posting since aged 12 (apparently banned by mum) and then started posting again at 13 with her blessing.

I'd also be a bit fucked off about at 14 year old espousing advice on my relationships issues.

Thanks worra don’t believe that for one minute 😂 why would a child want to post on here regularly?!

Yet they only have to be a MN member to gain access to the sex topic where they can freely read about the joys of fisting, BDSM, prostate stimulation and dogging, to name but a few.

And post amongst those members should they choose to.

And before anyone asks why they would want to, my point is that they would be perfectly free to, without breaking any MN guidelines whatsoever.

You make a very good point. I wonder what the legalities are of accidentally talking to a 13 year old in detail about fisting. I don't imagine "I didn't know how old they were" would cut it if they've posted their age elsewhere on the site but you hadn't advance searched every poster you talk to just in case.