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TO JUST WANT TO RUN AWAY AND CRY?

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BLUESEAPARADISE · 14/02/2018 18:36

AIBU?

DS is 9 years old and is developmentally 9-18 months old and is non verbal .. he has had an extremely rough few days and we had little sleep.. last night was the worst night we have ever had .. he woke up every 15/20 minutes screaming and crying.. this happened ALL NIGHT 😭 as a result I spent all my night rocking him to sleep and holding him .. he isn't eating and is refusing his drinks 😭 last night he woke up and I offered him his milk ( he is still on formula - a whole different subject!) and he had about 3oz before screaming the house down and crying 😭. Today he has had about 7oz of milk and that's it .. he has refused his food and is just miserable and unsettled 😭.. he doesn't want anyone else apart from me and I am absolutely exhausted. He normally has a nap during the day for a couple of hours but he wouldn't settle.. even with me rocking him / holding him / pushing him around / going in the car. I KNOW he is absolutely exhausted but he just won't sleep!

The night before last he had about 2/3 hours sleep at a time.. I just want to run and hide ... I don't know what's happened .. he is " well " he doesn't have a temperature or anything 😭

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BrutusMcDogface · 14/02/2018 18:37

If this is completely out of character, which it sounds as if it is, then I'd take him to the doctor. You poor thing Flowers do you get any respite?

Stardustandshine · 14/02/2018 18:38

That sounds really tough- for both of you. You must be exhausted. Do you have anyone helping you?

Rolypolybabies · 14/02/2018 18:38

Could he be in pain?

endofthelinefinally · 14/02/2018 18:38

Is he in pain?
Take him to the gp.
It could be earache or tummy pain.

QuiteCleanBandit · 14/02/2018 18:39

If he is nonverbal could he be in pain?
Would it be worth getting Gp to check him over -ears,tummy ?

QuiteCleanBandit · 14/02/2018 18:39

Oppps sorry xposts

Stardustandshine · 14/02/2018 18:40

It sounds like something might be hurting him. Perhaps his throat as he doesn’t want to eat? Seeing a dr sounds sensible but you could try giving him some calpol in the meantime to see if that helps

VileyRose · 14/02/2018 18:40

Definitely Gp x

fuzzyfozzy · 14/02/2018 18:40

I'd be doing the doctors. It's so hard to know what's going on with non verbal children.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 14/02/2018 18:40

I'm very sorry, you sound so upset. Bumping your post for you. Thanks

GrannyGrissle · 14/02/2018 18:40

Bloody hell you must be a wreck OP you poor love. you do know Piriton makes them sleepy, might he havean allergy? Do you have a home start type place who could offer support? Flowers

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BLUESEAPARADISE · 14/02/2018 18:42

I have tried to get a doctors appointment but we have a new system which is absolutely awful and useless they didn't have any appointments left so we have to phone again tomorrow at 8 to try and get seen 😭 I swear am going to end up turning up and refusing to leave until we get seen!

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ThePinkOcelot · 14/02/2018 18:43

Does he need to see a dr? I think I would take him if this is out of character for him. Bless you, you must be absolutely shattered!

ThePinkOcelot · 14/02/2018 18:43

I bloody hate that system!

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BLUESEAPARADISE · 14/02/2018 18:43

And I shouted at him and told him to shut up and stop crying 😭😭 I feel absolutely awful .. I just need a break. We have family around but he doesn't want them 😭

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Blackteadrinker77 · 14/02/2018 18:44

As hard as it is you are going to have to let someone else take him for a few hours.
Do you have a relative or friend that can take him out for a few hours whilst you get some sleep?

KateGrey · 14/02/2018 18:44

Ask for an emergency appointment. I feel for you. I have two kids with autism (8,5) and the youngest is non verbal and it’s a nightmare. Do you get any respite at all? You must be on your knees. I have a middle of the night waker and it’s exhausting.

purpleangel17 · 14/02/2018 18:45

My sister, now aged 28, has a similar developmental age and is non-verbal. Many times my parents ended up taking her to GP or A&E when she was distressed and crying. Most of the time no-one could figure out what was wrong. I don't have any answers but lots of sympathy.

VioletCharlotte · 14/02/2018 18:47

I'm so sorry, you must be absolutely exhausted. No real advice, apart from to echo what pp have said and ask the Dr to check him out.

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BLUESEAPARADISE · 14/02/2018 18:48

We are in the process of sorting respite .. we are due it but we were reluctant to go for it .. this is when I regret all the times saying we " didn't need it" 😭

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wetpebbles · 14/02/2018 18:48

Can he have calpol?

NewMama12 · 14/02/2018 18:50

I really feel for you OP. I hope he's back to normal soon and that you get some help and a rest x

Sleephead1 · 14/02/2018 18:51

op can you ring 111 to get a out of hours appointment or a walk in centre near you I think if this isn't normal for him then I would get him checked out as he could be in pain. sounds awful could you try some Calpol to see if that helps might help you figure out if it is pain related

formerbabe · 14/02/2018 18:52

So sorry op Flowers. That sounds completely exhausting. Sorry I wish I had some practical advice but just wanted to say you sound like a brilliant mum and I hope you get some respite soon x

KateGrey · 14/02/2018 19:08

Have you tried a small dose of neuofen?

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