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Partners who sent flowers/balloons to a person's workplace

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LittleMissUnreasonable · 14/02/2018 17:40

That's it really...AIBU to think this is incredibley showy to send flowers or balloons etc to your partners workplace. It reeks of smug couples and "look at me and this big generic grand gesture I can do in front of as many people as possible ". Understated things done more privately are a lot better and I've never actually seen anyone not look embarrassed to have flowers delivered to them at work. It's done more as a "look what a wonderful DP I am in front of my partners work colleagues " thing....

Yes I'm in a relationship and not bitter. I get flowers and this idea would be my worse nightmare Grin

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Alicatz66 · 14/02/2018 20:07

I love it !!!
I feel like I need Beyoncé playing "crazy in love" as I strut back from reception after collecting my roses ! 😂😂

AllPizzasGreatAndSmall · 14/02/2018 20:07

I think it is fine to have flowers sent to work on occasions other than Valentine's Day, so birthdays, anniversaries etc are fine, it's just on Valentine's day that it looks showy and attention seeking.

Personally I'd be disappointed that he couldn't be more original and personal in his gift choice, rather than paying hiked up prices to send a bunch of flowers.

Sparklingbrook · 14/02/2018 20:07

No, he should have ditched the balloon and plushy/candy and got a taxi round to hers with the flowers...

BuzzKillington · 14/02/2018 20:07

I think it's sweet in the dating phase. I drove home past the station earlier and it was nice to see so many women walking home from their commute with big bunches of flowers not thinking about logistics of grappling bouquet on packed train.

I have been married for a loooong time, so it's not the sort of thing we'd do, but my dh is still really romantic, much more than I am.

Sparklingbrook · 14/02/2018 20:10

Nothing says 'I Love You' more than a cuddly £3.99 squirrel from Aldi holding an acorn saying 'Nuts About You'. Grin

Partners who sent flowers/balloons to a person's workplace
squoosh · 14/02/2018 20:10

I feel like I need Beyoncé playing "crazy in love" as I strut back from reception after collecting my roses !

Grin

I believe that is the definition of chutzpah

JennyHolzersGhost · 14/02/2018 20:10

It’s not something that happens to men in the workplace and so it’s a shortcut to looking deeply unprofessional I’m afraid.

LightastheBreeze · 14/02/2018 20:10

I would hate it, have to faff about at work with flowers and then bringing them home, all overpriced anyway, there will probably be some reduced ones in the shops tomorrow which are just as nice.

Abracadabraapileofbollocks · 14/02/2018 20:11

I think it's a bit like marking territory on "valentine's day". Nice for days special to individuals or couples.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 14/02/2018 20:12

Thank goodness Bungle managed to get a seat on the bus.

GeekyBlinders · 14/02/2018 20:12

My DP did it for our first Valentines and I loved it. Now we have much more lowkey Valentines.

savingmysanity · 14/02/2018 20:14

i don't have any issue with it BUT I work in a shift based job, hilarious when the person they're delivering for is on a night or even better not in that day.

blackteasplease · 14/02/2018 20:14

I'm not a big fan as I can see how it would lead to one up man ship and even more commercialisation of something that's already gone a bit mad.

But it doesn't bother me as such.

ToEarlyForDecorations · 14/02/2018 20:16

I got flowers at work from a guy I was fucking. He hand delivered them at lunchtime to apologise for not seeing me that evening. He had to tear across town to get them to me. Not even Valentines.

Blimey, the sex wasn't even that good. It was just, um, there. I didn't realise he was so into me (or just that his relationship with his fiancé was falling apart.)

It was a convenient fuck. No real romance. So I was genuinely surprised to get them and that he delivered them. He didn't have to beg. I gave it to him on a plate. Well, it made it easier for him I suppose. Still think/thought he was a prat.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 14/02/2018 20:17

Given the recipient is at work it’s logical the gift is delivered to work
I think it’s nice,have no issue with it

GottadoitGottadoit · 14/02/2018 20:19

Yes it’s cringe.

Yes I would love it.

Sparklingbrook · 14/02/2018 20:20

The people that work in the day tend to be home in the evening so the gifts could be given in person after work.

Gah81 · 14/02/2018 20:25

Well, I am the best-paid person (as well as the youngest, and only female - in a male-oriented industry) at my (management) level in my organisation.

Although my sample size of one is clearly too small to be methodologically robust, in my experience the odd bunch of flowers at work hasn't stood in the way of my being promoted (though if it has, because it's been deemed unprofessional, just imagine what dizzying heights I might have reached by now had the flowers never turned up GrinGrin)

MimsyBorogroves · 14/02/2018 20:26

My ex did this once. It just proved to me that, after 4 years together, he had no clue about me as I'm the type of person who cringes and wishes the floor would eat me in those kinds of situations.

ruleshelpcontrolthefun · 14/02/2018 20:28

I'd be mortified and DH knows it. Not "a bit embarrassed but secretly chuffed", just mortified. I think it is sweet when it's the young 'uns but the long-term, co-habiting ones are weird. Just do it at home. No need to make a show of it. I'll grumble away back to my cave of misery now Grin

YTho · 14/02/2018 20:29

I think it's embarrassing but I'm a very shy person and dislike public displays of affection.

GeekyBlinders · 14/02/2018 20:35

DP now selects something nice from my Amazon wishlist. I wouldn't mind flowers but we live together and have a mortgage and a child so we both agree it's a waste of money. But I'm glad he did it when we were younger and responsibility free, it was a lovely gesture. He wasn't marking his territory nor did it mask something darker - we were very happy then and we're very happy now.

Rudi44 · 14/02/2018 20:44

I don't get annoyed by it, I don't think it's in the least bit unprofessional but I would hate it beyond belief. I don't like being the focus of attention so it's my idea of hell

user1497199406 · 14/02/2018 20:48

100% cringe. It's like people who parade their perfection all over FB and instagram, when the reality can often look v different. But, not your monkey. I'd ignore it and be glad your partner and you can do things your way :)

FenceDispute · 14/02/2018 20:50

I once thought I had flowers delivered. I had a call there was a parcel at reception, got down there and saw a huge bunch of flowers. I was given a card. Kids had made it saying we love you. Made at the childminders who dropped it out. I won't lie I was gutted, yet it was so incredibly lovely of the childminder and crap timing with the huge bouquet. However, I do believe everyone should at least once get a bouquet delivered....I'm still waiting!!!!!