Just seen engagement ring in joint amazon account..... AIBU?????

[WhoAteMyCandy]

As the title says the bf has ordered a engagement ring off of amazon. AIBU to think hes put no thought into it?? I think he has forgotten its valentines day soon and buying a ring is the first idea that popped into his head. Its a very over priced cheap looking ring , that that I would expect or even want a expensive one. I know that he want to get married at some point but ive never personally wanted to get married. We have been together nearly five years and have a son who is close to turning four.

Tbf I would rather have a baby than a wedding

the cock ring comment blew me away. I wouldnt have accepted a cock ring btw. not because im materialistic and would want some sort of bling ring.....

I bet you’re a blast at parties

@DoJo marriage is YOUR choice. Not everybody else’s. You’ve commented on everyone who feel differently to you. Get over yourself.
I for one never have wanted to be married and never do.
It’s 2018 and many of us live in this forward facing world. You don’t need to get all the legal stuff done either...

Sarahrellyboo1987

My comments were intended to point out some of the potential drawbacks of not being married that are worth considering if you want legal protection for a range of circumstances that can be made more difficult if your relationship doesn't have any legal standing.

If you choose not to marry and don't want to benefit from the equivalent legal standing then so be it - I can completely understand that. But I also believe it's important that people are aware of the potential ramifications of such a decision and I have seen enough posters on here claiming to have protection as a 'common-law' wife that I think it's worth reiterating that there is more to marriage than just a commitment to love one another.

I apologise if you feel that was unnecessary in your case but the OP seems to have found this thread helpful, so hopefully, I wasn't wasting everyone's time.

You are completely right, DoJo,and your comments will be helpful for many.

What happened with the ring, OP?

I sent him a message and he has cancelled it. He said he thought I might of liked it... hmm. Thanks for all of your replies

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You are indeed correct DoJo, and it's likely to be infinitely more use than a post from someone self-congratulating about living in a forward facing world.

I genuinely can't believe that anyone has ever ventured into the Realtionship boards on here and not seen at least one tale of woe from someone whose relationship has broken down and they're now fucked because they didn't realise the financial implications of not marrying.

I'm the most liberal, right-on person but no way would I give up a scrap of financial independence until we were married.

Quick update: No ring for me
It was a sliver ring with a purple stone costing £80 with no reviews

Will you be seeing a solicitor soon OP?

If you are in Scotland, you cannot get divorced until the childcare arrangements are agreed. Absolute paradise for the kind of abuser who wants to use DC to maintain control of his (not quite ex) wife. And until the childcare is sorted, no pressure to pay the financial settlement either.