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to expect DP not to whinge when I spend money on clothes for the kids?

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julezboo · 01/05/2007 14:28

I decided today as its a nice day I would take myself of the our nearest next shop to get the baby some summer clothes, he has one pair of shorts that fit him! Everytime I get him out of his pram/carseat hes dripping with sweat bless him.

I emailed DP first to check it was ok and didnt get a reply, so 2 hours after waiting for a reply i went off anyway (12noon) have to be back for 3 so I wanted some time to browse leisurely.

Ive come home to a horrible email off DP whinging on at me for wanting to go to next. I only spent £27 so not much!

But what gets my goat is in the last week or so he's bought 3...yes 3 xbox games, its the new xbox so roughly about £90 I didnt moan, when he asked me i said "if you want" I always do.

But im being random for wanting to buy the baby some clothes from next !! Theres not that many shops round here, we have a tescos, some crappy shops in the town centre and a sainsburys not very much variety and tbh I do often buy their clothes from tesco but I faniced a change! Im sick of either staying in the house, or going to the same places!

PS it was my tax credits i spent not as if i took his money out of the bloody bank grrr!

OP posts:
mountaingirl · 04/05/2007 09:32

Remember Julezboo never ever email your dh to tell him what you are doing, especially if it means spending money. Just do it!

Eleusis · 04/05/2007 09:32

So, Anna, does this mean you are for Sarkozy?

Anna8888 · 04/05/2007 10:02

Eleusis - fortunately I don't have a vote in France...

But, given the appalling choice, yes, I would prefer a Sarkozy presidency to a Royal one any day. She is grossly incompetent in every way and a great harm to women. He is more economically literate.

Eleusis · 04/05/2007 10:06

I must admit I don't know a lot about either of them. I'm all for a woman president (of any country). But, I do agree that a bad one is very damaging to women in general.

I think Sarkozy is expected to win. Is this right?

Anna8888 · 04/05/2007 10:10

Eleusis - I think I am indifferent to whether a presidential candidate is male or female, I just want the best person for the job, though of course if that best person happens to be a woman - fantastic.

Yes, Sarkozy is expected to win, and I hope that he will win by a large margin so that Royal will be ejected from national politics and can go back to regional where she (at best) belongs (my partner, who runs a chain of shops, says that there is no way he would employ her to run even one store (turnover EUR 3 million...)).

Judy1234 · 04/05/2007 14:00

I will become indifferent when just over 50% of leaders worldwide are women and that % has remained so for about 200 years. Until then I would always want the women in.

bobsmum · 04/05/2007 14:07

But the live birthrate globally is something like 52% male and 48% female is it not?

Judy1234 · 04/05/2007 14:23

Always have been more baby boys than girls like that as more die and get diseases and die in war but it's becoming skewed in India and China with real problems there.

bobsmum · 04/05/2007 14:24

Gosh - anyone would think there was a difference in the sexes with statistics like that!

Eleusis · 04/05/2007 14:26

I think that also when you have a culture that ends to abort girls because they value boys more, then of course the population gets a bit skewed, and then the treatment of women improves (supply and demand).

My sister, who is staunchly feminist, think that if they want to abort because it's a girl, let them and then the women in the culture will begin to be treated a bit better.

Genidef · 04/05/2007 14:34

If Hillary gets the nomination in the US, it may be the first time I ever vote Republican. Unless they have a total nutter on the ballot - which is possible.

AnneJones · 04/05/2007 15:54

This book is really interesting. It's a history of misogyny rather than finding a root cause of it, but at one point the author gives examples to show that where there are fewer women in a society (due to eg aborting females), that society becomes more misogynistic rather than less - more women means more female power.

Sadly I can't remember much more detail than that. I did find it really interesting to read - must read it again and try to retain more!

Eleusis · 04/05/2007 15:55

I'm considering switching parties to vote for Obama.

AnneJones · 04/05/2007 15:55

Genidef - why is Hillary so disliked? Do you know what it is about her?

Eleusis · 04/05/2007 15:58

Because she is a lyer and a thief.

AnneJones · 04/05/2007 16:00

More so than the usual politician?

Eleusis · 04/05/2007 16:03

YES!

I despise her with every bone of my being. There are so many reasons. She has no morals and will sacrifice the country for her own personal gain.

I can not bear the thought of the first woman president being Hillary Clinton. Not to mention Bill the slut as first man.

Eleusis · 04/05/2007 16:05

There are soon going to be tons of socialists here to argue against me. Sorry, but I haven't got time. I must go. But, I am not alone in my hatred for Hilary.

Personally, I'd like to see a socially liberal fiscally conservative president. Perhaps Guilliani. I like McCain but I'm araid he's a tad too old.

AnneJones · 04/05/2007 16:08

...and Bush is of course the height of morality and in no way just out to prove he's as good as his daddy after his own mother described him as 'not that bright'....

Politicians with morals and no desire for personal gain are few and far between in every country in my opinion. You have to have an ego to think you can run a country.

Eleusis · 04/05/2007 16:10

My hatred for Hilary has nothing to do with President Bush, who is of course not perfect.

As I said I would like to see a President wh ois fically conservative and socially liberal. Bush is neither.

Eleusis · 04/05/2007 16:12

I'd rather have Obama as president. I hope he slaughters her in the primary. The most important thing is that Hilary and specifically Hilary does not get in.

AnneJones · 04/05/2007 16:27

Actually imho neither Hillary nor Obama will get in - the backwoods are full of rascist sexist rednecks who actually think Bush is a good president.

Apols for being opinionated and if I upset anyone. Though can't imagine many rednecks being on mumsnet - we are far too articulate a bunch. And clearly politically interested. And very very off-topic...sorry Julezboo!

Anna8888 · 04/05/2007 16:38

Xenia - surely you don't mean that you'd rather Ségolène Royal gets voted in, botches up the French economy even further and everyone will revile her for incompetence and attribute it to her getting in purely on feminine wiles and beauty? Because that will do women's cause a HUGE disservice...

Judy1234 · 04/05/2007 17:52

I don't know anything about either potential French leader. She might do very well for all I know. Just because your partner doesn't think she's up to much doesn't mean she isn't. Many French men seem to be a bit sexist so I'd take anything coming via one of those about a potential female leader with a pinch of salt. In a sense it's when we have powerful mediocre women that things are going well rather than only women who are superb getting through.

A, I bought and read that history of Misogyny last summer. It's worth reading. Written by a man. It summarised well the various wrong men have wrought on women through the last 10,000 years but I can't remember his last chapter - he looked at what Hitler did to women and did he look at the rise of conservative Islam too and the set back for women's rights in that? I think he was reasonably hopeful for the future. Not like Adam's Curse by Sykes which I read at the same time and doesn't have much good to say about the y chromosome. I suppose the female contraceptive pill hormones in the water supply might have more of an impact on man than any legislative change.

Genidef · 04/05/2007 18:47

Agree totally about fiscally conservative but socially liberal. Where are these people?! Not sure about Obama though. Would vote for McCain. Love Guiliani but having observed the midwest first hand (as a transplanted north east Blue stater) know there's no chance they'll vote for a NEW YAWKER west of the Mississippi.