About parents' money

[junpinline]

My parents are quite wealthy; they have a large house with no mortgage, fancy holidays a few times a year, spend loads on clothes and meals and cars and socialising. My dad works but Mother doesn't.

Recently they came into a large sum of money and are busy spending it on new furniture, redecorating, cars etc.

I have two sisters and we are all in our twenties. Our parents have never given any of us any money. I bought a house two years ago and saved for years, my parents contributed by buying me a kettle.

I'm currently trying to sell the house and I'm going to be few thousand short for a deposit on new house. I'm struggling hard to save this and my parents know. In the meantime they've just bought another new car and are going abroad next week. They always expect expensive gifts at Christmas etc.

AIBU to be starting to resent them for this?

[Mummyoflittledragon]

@NameWithChange
Ok that’s fine. I’m not looking to waffle on. I know I do sometimes lol. 🙈

[SnackMaBitchUp]

** I got as far as:

I'm short because of the deposit because of an unexpected cost to selling my house (management exit fee around £1500).

I'm not 'going for a house I can't afford

And

My mother has never worked a day in her life but she adores spending my dads money

A) if you are short on the money, you ARE going for a house you can't afford. And
B) you don't have a parents problem or a money problem, you have a severe attitude and ego problem HTH!

[Pemba]

Nonsense. The OP has reason to feel a bit upset with her wealthy parents who give her no help whatsoever. To give financial help whilst they are at university is normal surely - the government expects it. I helped DD as much as I could and I am far from wealthy.

[MumsTheWordYouKnow]

Plumsofwrath you are very antagonistic. The OP has clearly had no help. She is not entitled she needs help with something her parents can easily help with, whether she’s made a mistake or not is irrelevant, people make mistakes when they are young and old! The parents could loan if that tight fisted. Any caring loving parent who could afford it however would give it to her. Agree with you
forgeteverythingandremember Also another poster about passing down the generations surely that’s partly why you try and accurate wealth so those who come after you will also benefit. Wealthy families who keep it in the family, not mad consumeristic people who spend for the sake of spending, very crass and not coming across as decent well brought up people. The fact they are not subtle about their spending and also expect expensive presents less well off children says it all - they are in fact the entitled ones.

[Maricia]

Sorry I was the daft one posting my first ever message regarding my piano tuner in the wrong way and ended up in this thread as I just read it. Such a technofoob and afraid learning only by error. As I goofed up let me give you my view on your question.
Direct family should always naturally support each other and its sad that you are not given that and so understand your frustration. As parents we try to raise our kids to be grounded , independent and successful in their adult life. We try to have sorted our lives by this stage and be an example of successful living. Its healthy to push kids to become independent but not to throw them off a cliff ...
My parents asked my brother to pay rent when he was earning a decent salary and I thought that to be bit much but it made him aware of costs and possibilities and hence he got up the property ladder in time.
My brother is such a proud person and doesn't mix money and relationships and he taught me loads by being so.
As I was financially strong I gave my parents a one off sum/amount of money they needed to upgrade living arrangements. This was never really appreciated and now disputed as they claim it was less..
As well I've paid for airfare and always pay when out and about , this has become expected and recently they were rather under whelmed when I didn't splash out big time for mums birthday . It Hurted , as I actually planned the gift to be brought few days later as a surprise (we don't live close). Money can be so dirty . We as Parents should love unconditionally and give our last bread if needed to show kids the true meaning of parenting. If a child is reckless with support then parents have clearly made crucial parenting errors. I do understand that their generation was raised differently and they might have been expected to support their parents so now seem unable to move with the times..
I suggest to voice your frustration very calmly and personal (face to face) and make it clear that if they choose to be selfish then that might be your path towards them as well...

[NameWithChange]

How you doing OP? Have you tried talking to your parents again?