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Is this just a little sad?

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norfolkenclue · 08/02/2018 21:10

I'm single. Would I look a little sad (and stand out!!) if I went to the cinema on my own? I've nobody to go with and REALLY want to see this particular film. I usually just wait until they come out on Sky, but this one is really calling me. Would you go in your own?

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midsomermurderess · 08/02/2018 22:27

As the saying goes, you probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do. It’s very freeing.

fusushumi · 08/02/2018 22:28

Are you kidding?

I go to the cinema on my own ALL THE TIME.
In fact I went today.
In some ways I prefer it to going with other people....

Judydreamsofhorses · 08/02/2018 22:31

I LOVE going to the cinema on my own, and I live with my partner. I teach so go a lot during the day/early evening in the holidays when most people are at work. Sometimes I have the cinema to myself. Brilliant. Sometimes I even go for solo lunch before, or a lone glass of wine after. When I go with DP he always says he doesn’t want popcorn, but eats mine. Infuriating.

Sophisticatedsarcasm · 08/02/2018 22:31

I’ve been on my own, only to see fifty shades but no one even noticed. Who cares. No one else’s business.

JustMarriedBecca · 08/02/2018 22:32

All the time. You're just going to sit in the dark and not talk....

Spectre8 · 08/02/2018 22:32

Best thing going on your own is you can pick your time, often for big movies I wait for the initial rush to be over and then go to an early showing when most people wouldn't go and a few times I have gone VIP at Cineworld which means your up in a balcony area and I've been up there all by myself ...like my own private viewing hehe

TheOrigRightsofwomen · 08/02/2018 22:34

Nothing I like more! Do it.

Smurfy23 · 08/02/2018 22:35

Just go. Its not as if you can actually talk to anyone there anyway. Nor can you be seen by anyone else!

Weezol · 08/02/2018 22:40

Go! I first started going by myself when I was on split shifts years ago. Not quite enough time to go home and come back, but far too much time to spin out coffee.

If going to early showings they are often sparsley attended so you get both armrests, a seat for your bag and coat and you can fling your legs about without kicking the annoying twat on the phone in the seat in front of you disturbing anyone. Early attenders are also less likely to be on their phone/talkers.

I've always been fine with eating out alone, mostly because I've worked in catering and saw lots of people eating alone so knew it's quite normal ever since I was a teen.

I've been on holiday on my own.

My final hurdle is going to the theatre by myself. Not sure why I have put this off for so long, but after last time (organised tickets for a small group of friends because I can get discount. Getting money and arranging a time to meet was like herding cats. Never, ever doing that again) solo is the plan!

Italiangreyhound · 08/02/2018 22:41

It's fine to go alone.

Italiangreyhound · 08/02/2018 22:43

Do you just have no one to go to the cinema or not many people in your life? If the later can you invest in some friends, time etc, it is useful. Or is it that you have friends but no one has your taste in films?

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Jenny17 · 08/02/2018 22:53

I wouldn’t go to the cinema on my own but loads of people do.

viques · 08/02/2018 22:58

Going to the cinema on your own is fine,especially if you go to an early showing because then the chances are that any other people in the cinema will be of an age and inclination where they know how to behave in a cinema, ie they don't talk, text, answer their phone, come in late, go to the lav three limes, run up and down the aisle,eat stinking food ..........

Spectre8 · 08/02/2018 22:59

Or maybe they are not available, don't like the particular type of film...so many other reasons so why jump immediately to OP not having anyone to go with or not many friends.

Even if she didn't so what its not the end of the world. I have few friends but they are true friendships and unfortuntely they live far, doesn't stop me doing stuff on my own, I don't need someone to be with me to go do things. The notion that you have to be with someone to go to cinema, restaurant, bar etc. is just outdated now. I enjoy my life much more doing things on my own because I don't get cancelled on, I go when it suits me and my life and I do what interests me.

GnotherGnu · 08/02/2018 22:59

Go on, tell us what the film is!

Megs4x3 · 08/02/2018 23:11

I've been going to all sorts of things alone for decade and it's much less eye-brow-raising than it used to be. Not that it bothered me. No-one will bat an eyelid these days. Go! Enjoy!

beboldbebluntbehonest · 08/02/2018 23:17

Wow I've just realised I've never been to the cinema alone.
I'm over 40 years old and have been millions of times too.
Hmm maybe when the kids go back to school after half term I'll go on my and actually get to watch what I want for a change
Hope you have a great time at the cinema op

Maatsuyker · 08/02/2018 23:42

I always go on my own and I'm married. DH doesn't do crowds (autistic, he really can't handle them).

InToMyHeart · 09/02/2018 00:32

I've done it and I've literally never enjoyed a film so much.

It was peaceful and I had a bit of space because the cinema was quiet.

And best of all, no one judged me for buying a MASSIVE thing of popcorn and chucking it all vaguely towards my mouth! (Just make sure you shake yourself down before anyone sees you!)

AliceInWonderland17 · 09/02/2018 03:12

I haven't but I 100% would go alone!

LeslieKnopefan · 09/02/2018 03:23

Going to the cinema alone is one of lifes greatest pleasures. I’m currently single but would go alone sometimes when in a relationship if it was a film I wanted to see and he didn’t (nothing worse than a grumpy bf sitting through a film he isn’t enjoying!)

You get to choose all the treats you want and don’t have to share them and just sit and enjoy the film. I mean really the cinema isn’t the best activity to do with other people!

If you are worried go about 10 mins after the film is advertised to start, chances are the ads will still be on and the trailers will start soon after! Oh and I take a coat to leave on my seat if I need the loo!

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norfolkenclue · 09/02/2018 06:19

Wow! So many lovely people on here...I feel very encouraged now.

To answer some questions: I'm going to see The Greatest Showman (Not everyone's taste probably, but I really want to see it).

Yes, I do have friends but not here...new to area. I'm a teacher, and whilst my colleagues are lovely, they all go home to family (I'm the only single in our school). It's also not the most social job in the world to be fair. My closest friends and most of my relatives live 350 miles away.

Joining a Meetup group is a good suggestion though...thank you.

I'm going to go on Monday...have booked online 😁. Quite excited now!

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Italiangreyhound · 09/02/2018 07:27

Great.

JustMarriedAndLovingIt · 09/02/2018 11:18

I had a private screening of the Hunger Games....that was weird. Felt a bit of a rebel sitting in the posh seats but, hey, who was going to stop me?!

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