To have an affair with my husband?!

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So couple of months ago I found out about the OW and kicked him out, he went to live with her. Now he keeps telling me he loves me, misses me, made a mistake blah blah blah. Now I don't really want him home, I'm loving not having to clean up after him, badger him to do things, put up with his shit money skills and too much drinking. Don't have to worry about where/who he is with, is he telling the truth. Love being able to what I like, watch what I like, not have to compromise but I do miss the sex.

Clearly I don't give a shit about her feelings, she gets everything she deserves but would I be unreasonable to take the offered sex? I really can't be bothered to find someone else as I would just want the sex none of the relationship stuff at this point.

I think if you just want sex with no emotions go for it, but also allow yourself to be disappointed because it's very hard to have sex with anyone and leave your emotions at the door. You sound vulnerable and you have to accept that although people say sex with no strings is fine, works for them etc, there is always the possibility you would become emotionally invested, or the other person would, or they would hurt you.

I don't really understand this 'oh I need sex, let me find a cock.' Never worked for me, but I accept that's just me. Sex for me is about the whole person and some kind of connection. Otherwise a rabbit will do. Just saying.

You need to ring fence your emotions if you go down that road.

I would, collect the proof and post it on OW Facebook. Hopefully would coincide with solicitors letter to him re divorce and call from you saying you’re taking him to the cleaners so he could have a really shit day. But I realise this is probably unreasonable but when you’ve been screwed over who cares about reason