Dh being unrealistic?

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I'm currently very heavily pregnant with my 5th child. Baby looking to be another big one ie 9 pounds plus. Dh said to me yesterday that we should think about number 6 in the summer. I've always wanted a big family but has expecting me to think about another pregnancy when this one will still be tiny?

He sounds controlling and having that number of children is ridiculous. It made sense of the days of no contraception and high infant mortality but IMO once you get past 4 kids you're being environmentally irresponsible, selfish with respect to the tax payer, and unfair on the kids who will inevitably get less attention. Tell him no. You are more than a womb.

OK OP, tell us about his good points. We need to see a balance here

Wow - everything you write OP makes him sound more and more creepy. He sounds very controlling and gaslighting when he tells you that you are paranoid.

I'm quite sure he wouldn't be so presumptuous about having another baby so quickly if he was the one pregnant and birthing these little humans out.
Maybe remind him that you are more than an incubator and that you will decide if/when you are physically and mentally ready to embark on another pregnancy

Congratulations by the way 🤱

Another question, OP: How does he treat the older two, who are not his? And where is their dad? I wonder if he wants a lot of children who are 'his' to crowd out the other two...

That could be interpreted as him telling you that he will continually nag and pester you until you obey - or it could mean that he will simply shove his dick into you until you are pregnant again, no matter what you say.
Or it could have been a light response, made without any deep meaning at all

• like when a woman says 'I'm definitely having no more DCs' - a female friend who knows her well and suspects she'll change her mind in a few months could easily say this.

Does it not worry you being in such a vulnerable position?

Just don’t have sex with him ever again...

If and when he decides that he is actually being a dick about it all and you do have sex just make sure you take precautions.

My older 2s fathers are long gone. He treats the boys as his own and isn't trying to out them

You are young enough to have another five more babies - where will you/he want to stop?

Next time he mentions it say "I've had five, you can have number six".

It would make me feel sick to be treated and regarded like this.