To NOT turn up for last day of work?

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Posting for a family member ,as we need opinions...

Family member has been working at a nursery for a year now ( to do an apprenticeship) and has been informed they will not be keeping her on once she passes her qualification .. ( turns out they always get people doing apprenticeships and then not keep them as it's cheaper!)

Since starting there the boss / manager and dept manager have been awful towards her ( resulting in family member being in tears multiple times) making her do ALL the cleaning ,shouting at her, calling her names and talking about her behind her back.. the only time she gets " treated like a human" is when they have show arounds or parents come into the nursery .. to put you in the picture she is in charge of cleaning the baby room, nursery, pre school rooms and also the two sleep rooms!)

She has tried talking to the members of staff about the matter but they shut her down saying " it's what you do in a nursery!"

Her last day of work will be on her birthday .. she is dreading it ..

Should she turn up for her last day ?

she is at the point now she doesn't even care if people see this post and figure out its about them.. we just need opinions and advice.

She already has all she needs from the nursery and is on the road to becoming an OFSTED registered Nanny and has two families interested in her ...

Sorry this post is all over the place just trying to put all the information in before I forget!
Thankyou

@SilverySurfer I'm shocked at the number of posters who appear to think that workplace bullying is fine and that she should just suck it up.

I was bullied in work, it was shit. It was so shit that I ended up leaving without a another job to go to because I was having to fight the urge to put my fist through a window in the hope of injuring myself enough I didn't have to go back.

It grinds you down.

I did however go in on my last day - though I did turn up late to make them think I wasn't going to - but that was because most of my colleagues were lovely and my manager was on leave, it was actually my manager going on leave for two weeks that prompted me to hand my notice in.

I agree with the poster above that she might feel like she has to hide. Though if it's her last day what's the worst that can happen? It's not like they can sack her - and she already has her reference.

If she has a job lined up, that will be the reference for that job that matters in future. If she needs two she might be able to get one from her college. And once she's had two jobs she'll be able to rely on those.

If they're bullies they won't give her a nice one if someone calls them anyway so I can't see she's losing anything by not turning up.

Also, in my view, bullies don't deserve professionalism.

We only have the word of a teenager that she has to do ALL the cleaning
It's probably subjective

Exactly what Nina22 said - whenever I've been asked for a reference the future employer/job agency has without exception wanted to contact the current/previous employer directly (I don't work in childcare but assume it'd be the same or possibly even more stringent?)

Just because we say that she should go in, does not mean that we think workplace bullying is acceptable.

Let her have the day off. It's their own fault for being so horrid! She's got the reference. They can go and jump off a cliff.

It's one day. She has done the worst bit. The grit /persistence she is practising will stand her in good stead. The day isn't objectively different just because it is her actual birthday - she can do whatever it was she would have done for her birthday in the evening or the following day.

She needs to go in.

Why bother risking a reference in years to come? It's highly unlikely that a future employer will care about her not working her last day if it is mentioned, but they might.

It might be mentioned in years to come that she didn't work her last day. I don't know if they would bother to mention that on future references, but it is a risk.

It's just not worth it. She can celebrate her birthday in the evening, free from any guilt or worry.

Agree with pp who said you should tell the college about this nursery. When doing this kind of nursery placement you normally have an assigned tutor who will come out and see you in placement and will talk to the manager about your progress etc. This could have been brought up much earlier and could have put a stop to it because workplace bullying is very very wrong.

She's got the reference. They can go and jump off a cliff.

And when she needs a new one in a few years time?

They will want another reference from them and they will contact them directly. The reference she has now, is only suitable for a short period of time.

If the nursery was so awful, the time to sort that out was at the start with the college or whoever.

It's one more day. She leaves knowing she has done the right thing and hasn't risked it coming up in a future reference. She clearly isn't sure what to do and wanted some advice from MN. That shows that if she does call in sick then it's quite likely she will feel guilty or worry about it. That isn't how I would want to celebrate my birthday.

@insancerre

^We only have the word of a teenager that she has to do ALL the cleaning
It's probably subjective^

Maybe the name calling and shouting is subjective as well?

Does the same go for bullying in schools? After all it's just teenagers/children claiming that they're being bullied.

Thankyou everyone for all your advice!

She is definitely going to report it to the college ( verbally and in writing) and even has the email ready to send the moment she leaves..
She has said she will go in but absolutely won't be putting 100% into all her cleaning work.. and won't be recommending the nursery to anyone.

The nursery is " B ....S"

Thankyou everyone

Must add she is only going in so she can see the children / say goodbye to them as she doesn't want to let them down :(

I would go in out of professional pride. No matter how difficult other people arse, I like to be professional for my own sense of self.

Technically she "should" but I'd phone in sick. They can't prove she ISNT anyway she IS sick. Sick of them!! ;)

Yay! Hope she has a lovely day saying goodbye to the children and next job is better. And the nursery mysteriously finds they can't get any skivvies apprentices via the college next year..!

I think she unfortunately need to go or call in sick to cover her back as those reference might be not enough.
new employer might want reference on their own form ( been there done that).

No I wouldn't turn up

I would turn up but that's because I am too naive even when people treated me like shit, and I want to get some closure, if that makes sense. Go and enjoy every minute knowing you won't be there soon

Why ever didn’t she report their behaviour to her tutor before now instead of putting up with it for a whole year?

I'd go in, work to rule, say goodbye to colleagues and kids, and spend any break time writing up notes for a formal written complaint to her college.