To NOT turn up for last day of work?

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Posting for a family member ,as we need opinions...

Family member has been working at a nursery for a year now ( to do an apprenticeship) and has been informed they will not be keeping her on once she passes her qualification .. ( turns out they always get people doing apprenticeships and then not keep them as it's cheaper!)

Since starting there the boss / manager and dept manager have been awful towards her ( resulting in family member being in tears multiple times) making her do ALL the cleaning ,shouting at her, calling her names and talking about her behind her back.. the only time she gets " treated like a human" is when they have show arounds or parents come into the nursery .. to put you in the picture she is in charge of cleaning the baby room, nursery, pre school rooms and also the two sleep rooms!)

She has tried talking to the members of staff about the matter but they shut her down saying " it's what you do in a nursery!"

Her last day of work will be on her birthday .. she is dreading it ..

Should she turn up for her last day ?

she is at the point now she doesn't even care if people see this post and figure out its about them.. we just need opinions and advice.

She already has all she needs from the nursery and is on the road to becoming an OFSTED registered Nanny and has two families interested in her ...

Sorry this post is all over the place just trying to put all the information in before I forget!
Thankyou

I can see why she'd want to not go. I'd be the same if faced with that level of bullying and bitchiness. However, it is one day only and she's come this far. I'd be tempted to tell them what a set of bitches they are as she walks out of the door for the final time though. Can she report her bad experience back to the college so they lose their right to have apprentices?

Your poor daughter. How horrible for her.

The trouble is that even if she has a paper reference, her next potential employer may still email the nursery for a more up-to-date reference and to ask specific questions. I do this for anyone I take on and I would say it is the norm - a paper or electronic reference can be doctored.

Can she get away with a convincing illness? Has anyone else been sick recently?

Whilst it is unlikely as it's her last day, the employee could discipline her for going AWOL which could end up forming part of her reference. It's all very well saying she already has reference for the next job, but she might need to consider the one after that.

The grown up decision here is to go in and get through the last day, not hide away and ignore the situation. She's managed to get through a year so one more day isn't going to hurt (in fact I think it will be quite liberating to go in and tie things up properly).

I do think she should complain to the college though about her treatment.

She has a written reference BUT could a future employer ring the nursery for a reference?

If yes, then if I were her, I'd go in (written references aren't useful, my work don't count them - if they were crap, then the applicant just wouldn't hand them over!)

She could bring lots of Haribo/chocolate for the kids and throw a party with them for her leaving do/birthday - and then piss off to clean the rooms and leave the other staff with hyper children to mind!

Im with wonderlime here. Go in and work the contracted hours.

She is an adult. Adults have shitty boring jobs. I would never dream of not turning up on my last day. Its poor form to your colleagues and if you leave, when applying for a new job down the line, you nver know who will be interviewing you / looking at your CV.....

Excample: Oh, Holly Smith - I remember her from when I worked with her in my nursrey days. She didnt work her last day. We will end her application here.

My neice was treated shockingly by a nursery. Similar to your family member. She never missed a days work. She had regular one to one's with the manager as part of the apprenticeship who just said she was happy with everything. Then she failed her. But had given her nothing she needed to work on or improve at any meeting just kept saying she was happy.

She offered her the chance to resit the year at the nursery. She declined funnily enough. She has now passed and the new nursery sung her praises and she done nothing different to the previous one.

If she has her reference etc I wouldn't go back. She also needs to put a complaint in about them to the college.

I am a stickler but in this case she looks awfully peaky and nauseous and that’s nasty around babies isn’t it?

I think she has D and V bug.

Go in, stick it out for the day. Report the employer to the college. Move on and chalk it up to experience.
Sadly, as you get older, work breaks into birthdays and the day is not usually the big treat day it was when you were four (unless it is at the weekend of course).
She should have booked annual leave for her birthday but it is too late now.
Time for big girl's pants.

sorry, but in the adult world we go to work on our birthday. It's the last day. One more time.

Excample: Oh, Holly Smith - I remember her from when I worked with her in my nursrey days. She didnt work her last day. We will end her application here.

Bullet dodged by Holly that she doesn’t start New Job peopled by utter wankers from m previous job.

if a future employer rang the nursery for a reference I doubt they'd make a big deal out of her being unwell. fuck it, it's her birthday, tell her to call in sick

She should call in sick - with something like an ear infection with awful pain - and say she feels terrible she won't get to say goodbye. She already has a reference and being off sick is not a reason for a company to suddenly decide to give a bad one.

She hates the people, hates the job, it will ruin her birthday, it's only her last day, she does not need to impress them for any future reason (promotions or working relations), she already has a reference - why bother with the upset of going in?

Good riddance to them. She doesn't have to see any of them again.

It sounds like she's being treated appallingly and it will be such a relief when she's out of there, but I would advise her to grit her teeth and go in for her last day.
It's just one day and she can have a double celebration after, for her birthday and the fact that she held her head high and honoured her part of the deal.

She should definitely go in. Then she will have the opportunity to plant some fish behind radiators; sew cress on pieces of carpet that the hoover misses; leave a nappy in a drawer; and pee on the toilet floor just before she makes her final exit.

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Someone mentioned AWOL, but that means not calling work on the morning to notify them that you're not going in. She needs to call in sick (and then not get spotted out somewhere looking well!) - then in their eyes it's genuine sickness, not AWOL. If they have loads of apprentices working short lengths of times, then she is just a number to them. They will barely even remember her, or care, if asked for a reference. Unless she did something else terrible whilst working there to annoy them.

In care and other related jobs where an enhanced DBS is required and you are working with vulnerable people you usually need a reference from every employer over a 10 year period, so I think she should go in.

I would tell her not to go in! A sudden sick bug maybe? Of course they will know she's lying as it's her birthday but they can't prove it! Just means she won't really be able to go out on her birthday and post on fb etc.
Has she got enough hours etc in to cover her for her course? If she has can she not just give them a weeks notice and finish before her birthday?

She also needs to report to her college, they take things like that seriously and they may possibly stop sending others there to be treated awfully

She needs to grow up.

Plenty of people including me could tell you stories of vicious bullying, being sacked for no reason, being madeto work 8-7 when your contracted hours are 9-5.

She sounds like a spoilt madam who is pissed off they didnt keep her on so she wants to spite them.

Oh and it's her birthday.

OIf course she should go in
She should be the better person
Or she could speak to them and ask if it would be ok to finish a day before

She needs to go in and see it out.
Tell her to take cakes in for the kids (fuck the rules) where a birthday badge and sash and a hat for good measure.
Hug the kids, do no work and then maybe she suggests she goes home early.

Yes, of course she needs to go in.

A reference isn't just a piece of paper that you get once and then fling around to impress people! It's having a person you've worked with whose name and contact details you can give in future, for future potential employers to contact for their opinion of you.

She also needs to alert the college about the type of work that she was asked to do during her placement so that they are aware for future (and can hopefully put them down to the bottom of the list for future students).