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AIBU not to go to doctors due to sheer embarassment?!

115 replies

Embarassednamechanger · 04/02/2018 19:01

I have had some embarassing symptoms for ages now, on looking up it throws up a condition, I'm 99.9% sure it is what I have as it's the only diagnos for the symptom.

However the test for it is so embarassing and I just do not want to go. I also very stupidly googled the surgery to correct and my god it looks absolutely horrific. Genuinely horrible.

I can keep living like this but it is becoming embarassing. Sad

I know they will of seen it all before and all that but that doesn't really help me tbh.

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pinkyredrose · 04/02/2018 19:03

What test is it? If it's a smear test then most people here will have had one. Don't make yourself more ill through embarrassment.

WeeMadArthur · 04/02/2018 19:04

How serious are the symptoms? If they are affecting your health and impacting on your ability to live your life then you are going to have to put your big girl pants on and get to the doctors. Have you tried looking for an online support group or forum for the condition you think you have, people in the same boat may be able to help you deal with your dread and embarrassment.

SockUnicorn · 04/02/2018 19:06

is it piles?

Tika77 · 04/02/2018 19:09

I really do not think there are any tests that are embarrassing. I do come feomma country where I used to have yearly smear tests, my mother is an ex-nurse, I was surrounded by medical books. It’s just another body for them, really.

SwarmOfCats · 04/02/2018 19:10

Is it the sort of test where you have to have someone have a gander up your bum?

Remember healthcare professionals seriously have seen it all before and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about!

Calvinlookingforhobbs · 04/02/2018 19:11

Drs don’t care. Honestly they don’t. Please don’t let a sense of embarrassment impinge in your health. Health is all we have.

Embarrassed2017 · 04/02/2018 19:11

Is it prolapse/incontinence related? If so, there are ways other than surgery to alleviate the symptoms - pessaries, physio, etc.

Whatever it is, please don't suffer in silence - your doctor will have seen it all before. Good luck!

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Embarassednamechanger · 04/02/2018 19:11

No not a smear test. I'd rather have smears than this test.

It's not piles either.

I have tried looking online at support groups but everything I've read suggests that this isn't common in developed countries so the info isn't very great on it.

Fuck knows why I YouTubed the op. Blush

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Bluelady · 04/02/2018 19:12

Just go.

SwarmOfCats · 04/02/2018 19:13

As you’ve already name changed, why not just share what it is? Nobody is going to know who you are, and there’s probably someone on here who has had the same thing and can reassure you.

AllTheGoodOnesAreUnavailable · 04/02/2018 19:13

I work in healthcare.

There isn't a part of the body that I haven't seen. I've seen all shapes and sizes of all sorts of people and I absolutely do not care.

Go and get to the doctor. There is nothing in this world to be embarrassed about in front of health care professionals.

Believe me, we have seen, felt and smelt it all!

I hope you get better soon Thanks

LoniceraJaponica · 04/02/2018 19:15

I realise that you feel too embarrassed to say hat the problem is, but no-one can help you when you can't even hint at your issues. If the problem won't go away on its own and will only get worse you will have to put your big girl pants on and make an appointment to see the GP. I doubt that there is anything they haven't already seen before.

Chaosofcalm · 04/02/2018 19:16

Even if you were medically qualified, which I presume not, without the tests you can’t diagnose the problem. An untreated medical issue could lead to all sort of situations which may be life threatening or just feel a little bit more embarrassing.

Just go and get it sorted.

mamas12 · 04/02/2018 19:16

Request female nurses and doctors to lessen the embarrssment and ask for doors to be locked with you incontro, off hon ones into then lon and when
All perfectly acceptable requests and when you get there let them know how anxious you ar
If it's what I think it is (incontinence) you won't be too exposed or anything they will be sensitive to your needs

Bambamber · 04/02/2018 19:16

YABU

My husband delayed going to Dr about a simple problem that he deemed embarrassing. Even my nagging didn't convince him to go, so I just phoned up and made the appointment for him. Unfortunately it had been left too long and he s now awaiting a second op to repair the complications for leaving it untreated. And because the nhs is so stretched he s been waiting quite some time and it's impacting on his quality of life. Just go

AnnaMagnani · 04/02/2018 19:16

Am thinking of the most embarrassing test I can but actually not that many people have to have that test anymore.

You need to go to the actual doctors - or just fess up on here what it is as you're just an anonymous name on the internet here and nobody actually knows who you are.

This is the problem with Dr Google - it has you believing you have cancer and the only answer is to have your leg chopped off while in real life the diagnosis and treatment are entirely different.

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Embarassednamechanger · 04/02/2018 19:16

I think it's a rectovaginal fistula. But it says the causes are prolonged childbirth which mine weren't.

I will have to have a tampon inside my vagina and blue dye up my bum. Blush

I haven't been able to find anyone with one so far... but maybe they're too embarssed as well.. it's not something you drop in to casual convo I guess..

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JesusInTheCabbageVan · 04/02/2018 19:17

If it's a fistula then please don't worry (taking cue here from your comment about it not being common in developed countries). It does happen with fair frequency in the West as well, it's just that it tends to get picked up/treated very early on.

Seriously, if you say what it is, someone will be along in ten seconds to offer reassurance. If you don't say, people will just have to go on guessing, and you won't get anything useful from this thread Flowers

BrandNewHouse · 04/02/2018 19:17

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unweavedrainbow · 04/02/2018 19:18

Proctogram, then? I've had one and, tbh, it sounds a lot worse than it is. It's just a bit weird.

lljkk · 04/02/2018 19:18

You're not conscious for the surgery. Most surgery is at least somewhat gruesome. Why does the horrible surgery matter? Is it difficult to recover from?

On a scale of one to ten (nothing-to-notice to unbearable), how annoying is your difficult symptom, OP?

Snowysky20009 · 04/02/2018 19:18

A problem shared and all that........

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 04/02/2018 19:19

X-post, sorry OP. Unless your GP is very new in the job, I can guarantee you won't be their first.

EnlightenedOwl · 04/02/2018 19:19

I am having some investigations and treatment and am booked in for hysteroscopy in a week or so. Is that the procedure you refer to?In any event its likely Dr Google may be wrong and you don't actually require the procedure you think you need.

lljkk · 04/02/2018 19:20

xpost... do you actually get faeces coming out your fanjo?

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