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Throwing out neighbours belongings - update

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titsandbits · 03/02/2018 23:14

An update on the earlier thread.

OP posts:
taytopotato · 04/02/2018 12:50

I was going to reply at your other thread. My concern is that she would do something to your horses or property. Definitely log this incident to the police so you can create a paper trail if she becomes vindictive or start harassing you.

LittleLights · 04/02/2018 12:53

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thenightsky · 04/02/2018 13:01

When she was doing the accusatory stare at you, I would have said.. 'you mean you put your own lock on my property?... are you mad?'

LapdanceShoeshine · 04/02/2018 13:07

I’m wondering if the fact that the CF turned up at a time when OP would normally not be there means she’s been monitoring OP’s activities Shock

If TeeniefaeTroon is also in Scotland, is it safe to assume Scottish law says it’s OK to remove belongings left in a property you’ve bought?

SauvignonBlanche · 04/02/2018 13:12

She hasn't a leg to stand on.

RedDogsBeg · 04/02/2018 13:13

It's a case of your word against hers but she does sound the type to escalate it which will become expensive and time consuming.

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/02/2018 13:24

Did you never do any of this in writing?

MrsSchadenfreude · 04/02/2018 13:30

How would they do it in writing? They don’t know where the CF lives!

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/02/2018 13:33

As in put a notice on the stable.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 04/02/2018 13:36

Think the CF must be in the lead position, at present, for the "CF of 2018" (so far!)
Previous poster may be correct regarding CF being aware when you are not at home? Perhaps try this - on another Sunday, if you can, garage your own vehicle(s) - to give CF impression no one at home, see if anything transpires?
In addition to security measures previously mentioned - might be a good idea, if there is a repeat visit from her, to get photographic evidence/vehicle details.
She'll probably be well aware, in Scotland, that there's no law of trespass.
I wouldn't report anything meantime - just keep a record of details.
Good luck - hope everything works out ok Smile

RedDogsBeg · 04/02/2018 13:45

There may be some degree of traceability on what you have done OP by your hiring of the skip, was it a local company, did you pay with cash or by card? She may be able to find out if it was a local company/someone she knows and what was in it when removed.

sportyfool · 04/02/2018 13:48

I would call the police and log the situation in case it escalates . She sounds like a loon!!

AnachronisticCorpse · 04/02/2018 13:51

It doesn’t matter about traceability or anything like that. You have acted completely lawfully as far as I can see.

DartmoorDoughnut · 04/02/2018 13:57

Glad to see FuckYouChris here, I mean admittedly she had the opposite situation but hopefully you’ll have a happy ending (looks so wrong writing that!) too

Singlikemiranda · 04/02/2018 14:07

I would seek legal advice

taytopotato · 04/02/2018 14:43

Re: traceability,

It's more to do if the CF starts to harass the OP or cause damage to their property. CF sounds very unhinged and now her stuff is gone CF might exact revenge.

RedDogsBeg · 04/02/2018 14:54

The reason I mentioned traceability is if the OP and her dh are saying they didn't remove said possessions and the person whose possessions they were can prove the hiring of a skip and the skip company can confirm said skip contents then the OP and her dh's veracity can be called into question if it does end up going down the legal route.

I don't disagree with the OP's actions in the circumstances just warning what could happen if the other person decides to take things further, which I hope they don't as whether or not you have right on your side these things always end up being expensive, stressful and time consuming and the only true winners are the legal teams.

Ninoo25 · 04/02/2018 14:55

I would contact the police on 101 or on the local station’s number (if you’re lucky enough to have one open on a Sunday). Be completely honest with them and let them know what happened for the following reasons:
1/ she is clearly unhinged and thinks she in the right. She will probably contact police herself and tell them her own twisted version of events and get you done for dumping her property.
2/ if she does try and get a solicitor involved you can refer back to the police report and that the police didn’t take any action against you (you’ve done nothing wrong after all)
3/ most importantly she needs to know that she IS in the wrong and has been very unreasonable. She also needs to know that the police are aware of what has happened, so if she tries anything with your horses that she will be prime suspect.

I’d also install CCTV covering the edges of your property and the barn itself - you said she went mad at you padlocking your own so obviously thinks she can come and go as she pleases! I’d notify the police if she is caught on CCTV trying to access your property again. You can’t give people like this an inch unfortunately and they need putting in their place quickly to nip it in the bud.

Good luck and keep on remembering you’ve done nothing wrong X

Hortonlovesahoo · 04/02/2018 15:57

I’d agree with others about making sure that your property is secure as I’d expect her to try and come back and either try to mess something up or be destructive. I’d agree about contacting the police as well so they’re aware in case she comes back again

Whatshallidonowpeople · 04/02/2018 16:00

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londonrach · 04/02/2018 16:04

Report to police and from my understanding once your complete everything is yours and you could have charged her for disposable of her rubbish.

titsandbits · 04/02/2018 16:05

@whatshallidonowpeople She has been obviously turning up every Sunday since we have been living here. So, I don't think so.

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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 04/02/2018 16:13

Even the nicest stable is bound to be a bit damp in the winter with no heating.
Just about the worse place to store (redacted) and (redacted)

OVienna · 04/02/2018 16:55

So many ? But answers prob on previous thread...

mothertruck3r · 04/02/2018 17:02

Can you report her to the police for trespass and harassment?

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