to think my mum has been extremely rude about dh yet again

[Slartybartfast]

dh is going to stay with dd (20) for a few days, he will sleep on her floor.
my dm could not keep the disgust out of her voice.
eew i think she may have said.
FGS

talk me down from being so cross

no, i said he would stay in her room - she was eww, and i said why, i stayed with her - meaning what is the difference? she was silenced.

It’s not odd. Think it’s odd is odd.

*thinking

For crying out loud why does this place not have a basic edit facility?

ha ha pictish - agree

dear lord, you have made 13 posts in this thread and still haven't explained what is going on. Where does your daughter live? In a house? A flat? A bedsit? A university? Who does she live with?

Your M’s comment probably wasn’t about your H personally but her odd attitudes about fathers and daughters in general. Wonder where she got those ideas , it’s sad really.

indeed dozer.

i dont feel the need to explain where she lives, if it makes any difference it is student accommodation, halls. why the need to know?

Hmm...in all honesty you wouldn’t catch me sleeping in a student halls of residence. I assumed she was in flat share or something. Sorry OP...the fact that it’s in halls does make it a different kettle of fish to me.

In fairness I would feel eww at sleeping on the floor in student accommodation.. I don’t even want to think about what’s been on that floor
You seem quite hysterical OP, perhaps once you have calmed down you will be able to explain exactly what happened and what the problem is, I’m afraid you aren’t making much sense

Hysterical? Is this a joke?

When me and DS2 went round the country for his interview at unis shared the same hotel rooms. Nothing odd about it at all.

What does she think might happen?

Eh?

I've just visited my DD and her OH in another country and we went touring. I shared a room with both of them and my other daughter (in bunk beds). Yes, it would be lovely to afford to all have our own rooms, but life isn't like that. Your mum is just stirring, OP.

Christ. There is no way I'd sleep on a university halls of residence floor. I would also think "ewww" if you told me your DH was doing that. Depends on how well I knew you as to whether if say it out loud!

I have slept in a sleeping bag on the floor at friends' student halls.

My mum stayed with me once at my student halls, but it was a catered one in central london with its own bathroom and quite naice. I gave mum the bed and slept on the floor.

But I wouldn't have wanted my dad to stay in my room, much as I loved him to bits. There's very little privacy. Maybe that's what DM meant.

She probably thinks her room is dirty so said ewww. I think you're looking too much into this

DM sounds like she's driving you nuts! I don't think we need Mr Holmes to detect a huge backstory.

Not really the point of your post, Slartybartfast, but don't the halls have a guest room that can be hired?

1000's of parents, friends and siblings have done this already this year.

It's so normal at UNI no one cares.

I have done it, so has DD's dad.

Not all of us have unlimited funds, and I'd rather a visit any day, than not to see for months on end.

There are people still around who lived with their whole family in a single room sharing an outside toilet with many other families. Funny how quickly we have changed to think a room of your own and en suite is an absolute must when looking for a home.
Father and daughter sharing is perfectly OK. Hopefully daughter has borrowed a spare mattress or there may be backache in the morning.
Your mum should be questioned in minute detail about her fears. She may have issues. On the other hand she may just be a twat.

I think it’s weird too.
Your reaction is... over the top. Strange.

I think you are being a bit OTT. So what if your mum said 'eww'

Got to be a huge backstory here.

Yes OP, you don't have to give any further details. Presumably you would like people to comment though, or why bother posting. Hard to comment when you don't make it clear what's going on.

OP you don't seem sure why your mum said Ewww? Because you didn't ask her, what did you assume it was about. Honestly, if my DH was going to sleep on the floor of my DDs room in Halls I'd be a bit "Are you serious?" primarily because of the confined space and privacy concern for an adult daughter. And I'm totally stumped as to why you think your DD should give up her bed and sleep on the floor for her Dad but it was fine for you to sleep on the floor? Why couldn't your DD stay with another friend if she's going to sleep on the floor and let your DH have the room to himself?

Give up her room? So dd could sleep on someone else's floor?