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Original poster

To tell MIL to get her beak out of my business and while she is at it she can tell her friend she is a noisy nasty busybody

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Chocywockydodahhhhhh · 03/02/2018 08:12

Arrrrgggghhhh
Met a good friend and ex work colleague for a drink and a bar snack a few days ago, friend just happens to be male
MIL who hates me by the way has just rung DH at eight in the morning because a friend has messaged her saying she saw me and another man in the pub laughing together and when I left I gave him hug. Apparently it looked like we were more then friends.

DH has just laughed this off and told MIL to tell friend to mind her own business and he knew I was meeting friend.

I have just got a messsge from MIL telling me I have to be more carefull about the impression I give. DH shock his head laughing when I showed him the message and said he would have a word and I am to message back telling her to mind her own which I have done
Just got another saying she is just looking out for her son who I am embarrassing by meeting other men
FFS I give up

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restofthetimes · 03/02/2018 08:13

Ignore her. Your dh isn’t fooled.

steppedonlego · 03/02/2018 08:15

Your DH needs to have a stern word and tell her that the only person embarrassing him is her.

Wannabecitygirl · 03/02/2018 08:15

‘The only person you are embarrassing is yourself by being a gossiping busybody’

TheQueenOfWands · 03/02/2018 08:15

Well, block her number for a start...

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Chocywockydodahhhhhh · 03/02/2018 08:17

I know that goodness. Going to point out to MIL that DH meets an old school friend a few times a year that he had a one night stand with on holiday when they both got drunk.
Mind you she would prob faint in shock that DH was not a virgin when he got married to me

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Chocywockydodahhhhhh · 03/02/2018 08:18

DH is bobbing round later and will have a word.

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mumpoints · 03/02/2018 08:18

Your MIL is obviously easily embarrassed, has a facade she likes to keep up (note she is more worried about the "impression" than anything else lol!) and has busybody friends whom she is scared of.

This is valuable information!

Seriously, you can use this to your advantage if you were so inclined!

TheDailyMailIsADisgustingRag · 03/02/2018 08:19

Yikes! She sound bonkers! A hug though Hmm - you brazen hussy Grin!

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Chocywockydodahhhhhh · 03/02/2018 08:19

She is going to die of shock when I tell her the reason I met up with male friend is to discuss the business we are setting up together Grin

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Chocywockydodahhhhhh · 03/02/2018 08:23

Oh yes it’s the impression she is worried about that her friends from church will be gossiping about her hussy of a daughter in law
She is still recovering from my drunk friend at my husbands 40th shouting at me “do you remember when we snogged that entire rugby team in a night club when we were 18”. Blush Grin

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DartmoorDoughnut · 03/02/2018 08:29

Don’t get into a tit for tat just tell her to stop being ridiculous

jacobsgirl · 03/02/2018 08:31

Actual psycho

I'd be raging lmao

Slartybartfast · 03/02/2018 08:32

well she has your son's best interests at heart.
not very nice though
dont get into a slanging match

Aquamarine1029 · 03/02/2018 08:33

You shouldn't reply at all to her ridiculous texts. You're only giving her the attention she's looking for. Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Kintan · 03/02/2018 08:33

Don’t let her get away with this. Call her out as suggested up thread by saying you are embarrassed by her busybody ways!

VimFuego101 · 03/02/2018 08:35

If you justify this with a response you will feed the drama that she's looking for. Just ignore, or reply 'lol'.

Slartybartfast · 03/02/2018 08:36

She should be sticking up for you to her friends tbh but you did say she doesnt like you.
dont fuel the fire with a response.

Dazedandconfuzzled · 03/02/2018 08:36

Ignore her. Your dh knows the truth and is going to have a word with her. If you start texting her back she's probably gonna get more and more defensive. All of this over a bloody hug crazy woman sorry you have to deal with her.

baublesnbubbles · 03/02/2018 08:37

Ignore her - feeding the drama llama isn't worth it.

Slartybartfast · 03/02/2018 08:37

she is backed into a corner - that is all.

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Chocywockydodahhhhhh · 03/02/2018 08:39

MIL is very much of the old school though that you don’t have friends of the opposite sex. She would not be able to understand why I need male friends when I have DH.

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1099 · 03/02/2018 08:40

Is your MIL Hyacinth Bucket (Bouquet) by any chance.

ShiftyMcGifty · 03/02/2018 08:42

I would tell her “Actually MIL, you are the one embarrassing your son. Do you really think so little of him? You seriously think he’s not perceptive enough something was wrong in his own marriage? The only one who this reflects badly on is you, I’m afraid.”

Efferlunt · 03/02/2018 08:42

I’d reply with something lighthearted to show her how utterly ridiculous this is. Hey mil! They 1900s called - they’d like their outdated beliefs back! Getting offended makes it seem like you take this shit seriously

ShiftyMcGifty · 03/02/2018 08:43

*To know something is wrong

(And yes, I realise plenty of people of blissfully unaware of cheating partners)