To judge this kid's clothing?

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My DD had an assembly at school this morning. It is standard for other classes not participating in the assembly to come and watch along with the parents. It is non uniform today.

I'm generally quite laid back about what people wear, I'm by no means a judgy fashion police person, but there was this young lad aged 8/9 came into this assembly wearing a hoodie with a picture of a cannabis leaf on in the style of the Adidas symbol with the word 'addicted' underneath.

Aibu to massively judge his parents for this?! Irrespective of financial strife or other bad home circumstances, surely there is no valid reason you'd buy you kid this hoodie, is there?!

WTF??!!!

When I was 12 I had a poster up in my room

“Don’t drink and drive, smoke a spliff and fly”.

I was 12 at an all girl private catholic school. Utterly sheltered by my parents. I didn’t even know what’s spliff was.

They picked their battles. Sensible.

It reckon his parents did the same.

And I would argue you aren’t particular relaxed on the issue if you oust on mumsnet about it!

There's no need to even make sweatshirts in that size with that logo, never mind but them.
I'd be just about that one too

A child cane to our school wearing this same hoodie. He had to remove it for the duration of the school day. Beggars belief that any parent would a) buy that for their child or b) allow their child to wear it in public let alone School

Judgy not just

I am absolutely of the School of pick your battles but that is one I would be picking at 8 or 9 years old. If he had no idea what it was or meant then just get a standard Adidas one. Absolutely no need for the weed one

canyou but surely if you were to wear a jumper with that same message on it, your parents would have said something?
We've all had shit questionable posters, stickers etc up in our room but it's weird af that the parent/s didn't mention anything when he came downstairs wearing it.

I'd be surprised if the school hadn't spoken to them it tbh.

Oh goodness I thought Year 8 or 9. Not 8 or 9

Yes I agree. Inappropriate

These parents will be the same people who bang on about cannabis not being ‘a real drug’ and not being addictive

YABU to judge the child.

But you would not BU to call out shit parenting when you see it.

Yanbu. Any chance the parents bought it by mistake? My mum once bought dp a t shirt that was clearly about cannabis whilst on holiday. She didn't have a clue what it meant.

Maybe his parents didn't know what the leaf was?

When I was in primary school it was fashionable to wear a 'Spliffy' bomber jacket. Had no idea what it represented. Perhaps the child borrowed it from someone older.

Highinthesky, I did say I judged the parents not the child. Just to clarify, these are primary age children. My DD is in Y5. This boy is a year below, I think. Obviously, at this age he doesn't buy his own clothes, his parents do.

I was just a bit shocked to see it tbh.

Dd has a t shirt with ‘for Fox sake’ written on it and I won’t let her wear it out in public (she’s 14). No way would I let my child out in something with a cannabis leaf on.

I think even if there is an innocent explanation as to how he came to own said hoodie surely parents could have said "you're not going to school in that!"

Is there a chance the parents don't understand the language for whatever reason?

Or as PP have suggested, perhaps don't know the significance of the leaf?

Alternatively, perhaps a relative gave the hoodie as a gift and said 'don't let you mum/dad/parents see' and the kid had hidden it until at school.

When ds1 was about 2 MIL bought him a lovely t-shirt with a picture of a dog in a bandana on. It said Howls Angels above the dog, and under it said Bad To The Bone. Nice.

On the back it said My barks not worse then my bite, and just under Death Count 184. I made the number up, but you get the idea. I'm not sure why a kids t-shirt needed a death count, but I don't think anybody was looking that closely.

Family is definitely English.

I once ran a holiday playgroup and a ten year old girl turned up with a t-shirt which said 'Wine me Dine me/ 69 me'.

Mother was most upset when we sent her home....

I know someone who used to hide their clothes and change on the way to school. Also know someone famous who purposefully sent their child to school in a belt that said 'fuck' on it just to piss off a teacher they didn't like! There could be many explanations for it. Hoping for the poor child's sake/future there is an innocent reason.

@Jessica 😲

I teach in the US where there's no uniform. We don't allow clothing with drugs/sex or religion on.

My MIL once bought a lovely summer hat with ' beautiful pattern of green leaves'. She was so happy about it, I almost felt awful about mentioning to her that the pattern was cannabis leaves. I did tell her that it was still a beautiful hat and she should wear it if she wanted to but she genuinely had no idea. Not saying it's the case here, just though I'd share.

As for the kid, I would probably double take but not think more of it.

When I was 12 I had a poster up in my room

“Don’t drink and drive, smoke a spliff and fly”.

I was 12 at an all girl private catholic school. Utterly sheltered by my parents. I didn’t even know what’s spliff was.

I suppose the implication you intended is that because your parents sent you to private school, they must have sound judgement?

I'd cut the parents slack if they weren't native speakers of English; otherwise, no.