To judge this kid's clothing?

[HopelesslyHopeful87]

My DD had an assembly at school this morning. It is standard for other classes not participating in the assembly to come and watch along with the parents. It is non uniform today.

I'm generally quite laid back about what people wear, I'm by no means a judgy fashion police person, but there was this young lad aged 8/9 came into this assembly wearing a hoodie with a picture of a cannabis leaf on in the style of the Adidas symbol with the word 'addicted' underneath.

Aibu to massively judge his parents for this?! Irrespective of financial strife or other bad home circumstances, surely there is no valid reason you'd buy you kid this hoodie, is there?!

I once knew someone who's mother allowed her to go to a parent's evening wearing cowboy boots, a mini skirt and a tshirt that said don't call me a cow girl until you've seen me ride. She was a very sheltered 12 year old. Needless to say she got quite a bit or stomach turning attention from sone if the father's there. Apparently her mother did it to teach her a lesson she would never forget. It worked.

hygge

(love your name)

And the tat has fuck it all over it in its full and unfettered glory, but someone from marketing clearly couldn't breach company policy or whatever so put the star in!

But perfectly fine to sell to 11 and 12 year old children????

If that isn't truly f*** up I don't know what is!

How come the DM are not all over this, that is what I want to know, the sinking standards of doomed Britain you would think this would be perfect fodder

perfectly

We should ALL get one!

I doubt at 8/9 he is addicted to cannabis though?

Ha ha welliments
I dont think i could take another thread like yours so soon

Several years ago now I. Bumped into my friend ( a TA at a school) in our local market with her son who was about 10. She said * Justin said his ears were cold so I've just bought him this hat" Justin looked up at me proudly resplendent in his Woolly hat with a fucking huge cannabis leaf on the front. 😂
I said oh that's very erm liberal of you! She had no idea. She let him wear it home folded under I think.
Maybe they just missed it. Because yes it's a questionable choice.

Crikey! Who bought him that? do you think perhaps they don't get it and bought it from a charity shop because it was warm?

rocketgirl, I've seen it worn. In public. By a very fierce and passionate feminist - I may have had a bit of crush that evening.

If you wear one, I will to!

I was holiday last year and a girl of about 8/9 from another european country was wearing a T Shirt with FUCK OFF on it one morning in the breakfast room . There were stares and gasps. The hotel staff pulled family aside and the look of horror on the parents face when they realised was priceless!

I do wonder what the tattoos of chinese letters actually say sometimes.......

OP, I'd totally judge, yes.

I'd judge the school too. What are they playing at letting him wear it?

grannytomine i am a huge advocate of certain currently illegal 'drugs' being used for healing and other medical reasons, eg psychedelics used as a potential cure for addiction . Lots of research out there. I was also partial to the odd psilocybin mushroom in the past and would today prefer an edible (hash product) than take a cocktail of way more harmful if misused or over long time drugs.
But would i send my DC to school in a tie-dye tshirt emblazoned with 'turn on, tune in, drop out' . Of course I bloody wouldn't. It is inappropriate. How can people see it as anything but? I dont mean you granny but the parents who buy/permit shitty clothing.

perfectly

You are on! I might wear mine on the school run for a little light entertainment, that should brighten things up!

A child in my DD school aged 6/7 wears a cannabis hat, they are non English and when I saw it I was bit miffed but then maybe I judged not in a you smoke drugs way, in a way that says maybe you were gifted some items, you’re struggling to dress your children and as long as his little head is warm who gives a fuck.

I had a top my aunt bought me saying barbie is a slut, my form teacher was not pleased with me my mum didn’t even see me leave the house.

Maybe little Jonny wanted an Adidas too, parents can’t afford one saw this for £4 down the market and thought he’ll never know

I think it’s been clarified by the OP that the family in question are definitely English so this is irrelevant really but to those who think language isn’t an excuse for this sort of thing happening EVER:

When I was in Year 5 we weren’t in uniform for a particular day (reason long since forgotten) and I was, ahem, a little chubby at the time so wore bigger t-shirts than a typical 9 year old girl. I remember vividly one of the mums commenting on my t-shirt with a bemused look on her face. To me it was my “Ducktales” t-shirt, nothing more... A few years later I found this t-shirt. It was actually depicting 3 (Huey, Douey & Louie type ducks) with red blood shot eyes appearing to stumble around ans the caption was “OOPS, STONED AGAIN”. It dawned on me why that mum had passed comment all those years ago. I WALKED AROUND SCHOOL ALL DAY IN THAT THING! A CATHOLIC SCHOOL!

My Filipino mother had innocently bought this t-shirt for me from the market because she knew I liked Ducktales. She had no bloody idea!! Bless her the crazy moo.

Anyway, if language/things lost in translation isn’t the likely culprit then YANBU.

The problem child hip flask sold by skinny dip...surely no-one over 18 would actually want that?! would have loved all that shite at 15 though.

junior

Mostly pre teens/early teens buy skinny dip by the time you are old enough to need the lovely fetching hip flask you will be looking for something more tasteful.

I think about starting a new skinny dip thread, I wonder what the consensus is on this...

I was pulled by the police, and let off, for something minor, but had to take a huge lecture as I was wearing a FCUK Big Tits t-shirt...Part of the lecture was how it would be inappropriate to go into an old peoples home (his words) or church wearing it. Which I didnt really need telling but as he was letting me off thought I couldn't answer back

I hadn't thought about the school having a policy on this until speaking to DP about it and I think if I was a teacher and a kid in my classroom came wearing something like it I might be iclinced to ask them to pop their PE kit on. OTOH, if the kid has no idea what the connotations are then you're opening a can of worms there and ruining innocence.

It is a C of E school if that bears any influence.

@Oldraver that made me chuckle.

I'm not keen on non uniform days, having had a 'mature' 10yr old turn up with a t shirt saying 'twin airbags' across the front.

Finding it most hard to believe that a teacher/ta didn't have him changed into pe kit/spare jumper before he paraded it around the assembly in front of parents!

Maybe I’m just super naive but I would guess the parents didn’t know what it was or just didn’t pay enough attention.

I can’t believe anyone who knew what it was would allow their child out the house in that.

I can totally see how this could happen. Maybe the parent in question has older kids, siblings that buy their own (drug sloganned🙄) gear? Or maybe they were given a massive bag of hand me downs and thought better to make use of a hoodie than bin it, in this freezing February? Or maybe a gift from a well intentioned but naive nana?!
Or maybe they just love a good smoke in that family?!
I mean, I know... It's madly inappropriate, but really... Is everyone as judgemental as this in real life? Poor kid just went out in his favourite top he got off the market and he'll be in the daily fail tomorrow with his sad face on, and probably a delinquent hair cut to match, bless him. I highly doubt he's a dope smoking hoodlum quite yet.

Thing is, weed is legal here. It's not even that I'm bothered about. I used to smoke a lot myself.

But children wearing clothing which indicates they like any mind altering substance is just wrong.