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To judge this kid's clothing?

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HopelesslyHopeful87 · 02/02/2018 12:30

My DD had an assembly at school this morning. It is standard for other classes not participating in the assembly to come and watch along with the parents. It is non uniform today.

I'm generally quite laid back about what people wear, I'm by no means a judgy fashion police person, but there was this young lad aged 8/9 came into this assembly wearing a hoodie with a picture of a cannabis leaf on in the style of the Adidas symbol with the word 'addicted' underneath.

Aibu to massively judge his parents for this?! Irrespective of financial strife or other bad home circumstances, surely there is no valid reason you'd buy you kid this hoodie, is there?!

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liz70 · 02/02/2018 13:05

I once saw a girl aged no more than nine or ten wearing a very tight t -shirt (tbf she was slightly chunky). Across the chest were the words "LOOK BUT DON'T TOUCH". Grim. Wtf were her parents thinking of.

MuseumOfCurry · 02/02/2018 13:05

I once ran a holiday playgroup and a ten year old girl turned up with a t-shirt which said 'Wine me Dine me/ 69 me'.

I have no words.

Beeziekn33ze · 02/02/2018 13:10

10 year old girl using backpack for school with 'Nutty Tart' as the slogan.

Nefney14 · 02/02/2018 13:10

When I was younger my grandparents took me, my brother and sister on holiday to pontins. In the evening They were selling those fake tattoos to kids both my brother and sister got canibis leaves. My nan had no idea what they were and was sooooo angry! It's one of my funniest memories 😂

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 02/02/2018 13:11

Pick your battles? Allowing your child to wear that into school to display your idiocy to the entire school community and their parents would definitely be one I'd pick Hmm

liz70 · 02/02/2018 13:13

I honestly wonder if the parents are illiterate sometimes.

MetalMidget · 02/02/2018 13:14

My mom bought a belt with a cannabis leaf buckle, and a scarf covered in cannabis leaves. My fourteen year old self was in hysterics, I had to explain to her what they were. She thought it was 'a maple leaf!

There's the chance that maybe the parents didn't twig, but you'd think having the word 'Addicted' might have given them a clue....

ArcheryAnnie · 02/02/2018 13:14

I'd judge, too - the parents and the firm that made a shirt like that in that size. And I don't know why the school let him keep it on, either.

(Age about 12, I once bought my dad a cannabis pipe by mistake. I went into a head shop on holiday - I didn't know anything about head shops so did not recognise one when I was in it - and saw this lovely little stone pipe. They gave me gauzes free...)

Allywill · 02/02/2018 13:16

I refused to let my daughter wear her never mind the bollocks t shirt to school for non uniform day despite her arguement that it was a basic anglo saxon word. she was around 15 tho so i was ok about her owning it. unfortunately my husband wasn’t so on the ball when he took her to see his mother in a care home in her “drop dead” t shirt Shock

liz70 · 02/02/2018 13:20

I reeeaally shouldn't be sniggering at some of these posts… Blush

bummymummythefirst · 02/02/2018 13:21

I'm all for letting kids express themselves. I'm all for picking your battles.

But I think it's not age appropriate and not appropriate for school!

Eltonjohnssyrup · 02/02/2018 13:23

Maybe they don't know what the leaf is and think 'addicted' is just a brand?

rocketgirl22 · 02/02/2018 13:28

my dd is 12, and all the girls are into Skinny Dip from Top shop all very sweet girls but love high fashion.
For her birthday she was the lucky receiver of the 'fuck it' range as in full worded and no stars in place of the u or anything.

This is aimed at the pre teen market, and some bright spark thought this was a good idea. Her granny spat out her warm tea as it was passed around silently (with my youngest sniggering)

The thank you notes that were followed had to be written with care and thought.

www.skinnydiplondon.com/search?q=f*ck+it

To me this is totally unacceptable, but hey I am old fashioned, but I don't want her walking around with this!

(she loved it of course!)

rocketgirl22 · 02/02/2018 13:30

The no fuck boys phone case tipped me over the edge.

DragonBone · 02/02/2018 13:30

I once had to send my DS age 8 to school wearing his dad's baseball cap as he lost his and needed it for a school trip to the beach - the cap had 'Smirnoff Vodka' written on it 😆
I did point out to the teachers it was his dads 😆

grannytomine · 02/02/2018 13:32

Maybe they don't have much money and it was £2 in a sale, maybe they support the use of cannabis for pain control, maybe they don't recognise a cannabis leaf. Who knows?

DialsMavis · 02/02/2018 13:35

I bought a friend a necklace with a cannabis leaf on it for her 9th or 10th birthday. I obviously had no idea what it was and neither did my Mum.

Clandestino · 02/02/2018 13:37

Is there a chance the parents don't understand the language for whatever reason?

Sorry but no and whoever would offer that excuse as a parent would be a cheeky fucker of the highest degree or someone who just woke up from a deep hibernation in Antarctica after 1500 years.
No fucking way. Absolutely no fucking way. Even if you don't understand English, you know what the cannabis leaf means. I've never been on dope but I bloody know it. And the word "addicted", once again, unless you are completely stupid or completely isolated, you know.
Ask if his parents are from a recently discovered tribe in the Amazon rain forest. If not, they know and understand.

welliments · 02/02/2018 13:41

Just waiting for the professionally unoffended to turn up and argue that this is totally ok and that you as an adult are reading something into a kids jumper...

springtulip · 02/02/2018 13:43

Pick your battles? yep definitely be one that i would pick.

Hygge · 02/02/2018 13:43

I'm too old for Top Shop, so I've not seen their Fuck It range of tat before.

I can't say I'm a fan but why have they censored the descriptions of the tat by putting a * where the u should be in fuck, but then got a big photo above the description with uncensored fucks written all over it?

rocketgirl22 · 02/02/2018 13:44

welli

Its totally okay, as long as its organic and made from fair trade man

Grin

We need to have at least one on the thread for balance

PerfectlyDone · 02/02/2018 13:44

Maybe they don't have much money and it was £2 in a sale, maybe they support the use of cannabis for pain control, maybe they don't recognise a cannabis leaf. Who knows?

Yes, are the most likely reasons. Not IME.

I'd judge. Lots.
The manufacturers of such merchandise and the society we live in in which this is funny, or clever, or cool.

Doctordid · 02/02/2018 13:45

My dd bought herself a t-shirt last year that says fuck homophobia.
She isn't allowed to wear it at school!

PerfectlyDone · 02/02/2018 13:47

I want this t-shirt but would probably not be brave enough to actually wear it Blush

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