Cuppaof tea
I dont know how to repost but your point is very very valid.
I said as did others that, aside from the rights and wrongs and wildly different opinions around whether DD she should stay at home with GP, it is not a great message to give the older DC.
Asking their views was not a good move at all. I too find it odd / a bit sad that they are content to leave her. My older DC would be a bit upset at that. He would know he would get time to do his things but he also knows it is not all about him, nor is it all about the other DC.
Compromise is key when you have children with age gaps.
It really is laughable to suggest that the older DC need Mum AND Dad to go on the rides and need both there at same to enjoy the holiday. Come on now, that is weakening any argument in favour of OPs position.
I said before, i have been to Salou with three of similar age. Recently. It is a family centred place for kids of all ages, the activities in some hotels are fab for kids of all ages and OP could find the older DC want to go off and spend hours doing them and will only return to ask for money for drinks and snacks whilst they play with new mates. But perhaps OP already knows that.
You won't be at the them parks every day surely.
Why wouldn't mum and dad split up ocassionally to have time with all DC? Am i misding something here, seriously, is it just too much effort required?
Where is the undivided and exclusive attention for DD from both parents - on holiday, which is a damn sight different from a trip to the cinema or similar for two hours at home? To the exclusion of other DC. If OP feels older DC need undivided parent attention does DD not need it too - or is it sufficient she can make do with GP attention alongside the other cousins she will also be minding at same time whilst older ones get a whole week on a foreign holiday??
That has been largely ignored here and it is relevant.
You can gave a fab family holiday with all DC if you put some thought into it.
It is disgusting to suggest that those of us who do include all DC are mummy martyrs.
And it is deluded to think that those of us who dont think it is the right thing to leave DD behind are all suffering from some major childhood trauma/ abandonment issues.
I have a fab mum who has a close relationship with my kids. No lurking under the surface bubbling resentment from me being hard done by as a child. Happy childhood. Nothing to see there, move on ...
But it must be so much easier to assume there us a reason for having this view other than it just not a decent way to treat one of three children.
I spend individual time regularly with all DC as does my DH as often as is possible and i know as do most sensible people that it is important and healthy.
But a family holiday is in a different league.