To leave 2 year old at home?

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Me and my oh have been discussing going on holiday with the children in in late august, i was telling my mother about it and she offered to look after my 2 year old for the week spoke to my oh and he thought it was a great idea he would ask his parents to help my mother out that week aswell, we would be be able to go to theme/water parks and take the older 2 on rides etc without one of us having to stay with the baby. Would be able to relax alot more around the pool ad my older two are very confident in water. Anyway were having holy hell over it all with my brothers girlfriend what awful and selfish parents we are and how my mother is playing favourites! My mother works 12 hour shifts 5 days a week and takes turns looking after all her grandchildren 1 stays each sunday night so no favouritism at all! She looked after my brothers children for 3 days while they went on a short break. Aibu in accepting my mothers offer? Or does it really make me a selfish and awful mother?

Well even more power to the OP who has decided to have 3 children and found a good way to retain some balance so not everything is tailored to the youngest.

I personally think it’s really mean to go on a family holiday without your toddler. I certainly wouldn’t be able to leave a child of mine behind.
That said - it’s your family, your holiday, your choice!

No way would I leave one behind, mine loved the toddler theme park rides and part of the water parks at that age. Why should they miss out?
A family holiday should include all the family and activities to suit all, not just the easier age group.

I probably shouldn't have had my two youngest because I often left them with their nan when they were toddlers and took my older ones out for a meal. Because it was easier and cheaper!

Think about what you are actually saying. You are saying this little girl should not have been born simply because she is staying with her grandparents for a week, when she isn't even old enough to understand what the word holiday means. It's despicable. And if I was a child I would rather be raised by the OP than you lot with the nasty minds.

Don't leave Alan behind!

(My third is called Alan)

Hi, can anyone please tell me if there still is a large community of gipsies in Chesham?

But that is where only the OP knows - my DD at 2.5 certainly would have done and recognised what a holiday was and what it meant

As I have said before this is one of those decisions that is always going to be split

Yes, it is going to be split.

I wouldn't do it. But I am not going to tell the OP that she shouldn't have had her or that her child is going to be scarred for life.

Those kinds of replies are just pathetic.

I urge you to ignore these comments about how you could dare go on a family holiday without your 2 year old!! They sound just as spiteful as your DB’s stupid GF! Jealous of your relationship with your Mum?! It’s your mum not hers ffs!

Anyway back to the point if your Mum is keen then why not? Personally I wouldn’t because I’d miss mine too much and he’d be a handful and I’m a stress head. But if you think you’ll have a chill holiday then go for it. Your 2 year old will have many other holidays in the future. Have fun!

I would go; as the older children are 9 & 10 and will stop going on holiday with in 6 or 7 years time the 2 year old will get their trip without pesky teenagers moaning their way through it!
Seriously suit yourself it is not unreasonable to go if everyone enjoys themselves on their respective holidays

Seriously, go and have a great time. My parents and two older brothers went on an activity trip abroad when I was about 2 and left me with my grandma. They obviously enjoyed it, and talked about it for years. I don't remember anything about it, and never felt any jealousy or had any problem with having been left behind. The 2-year-old won't give a toss about you going away, and you are leaving her with grandmothers in any case, so she's hardly being separated from her family. Ignore sanctimonious comments -- ignore SIL too.

OP ignore your brothers girlfriend and the judgemental creeps on here. If you're happy and you're DC and mum are all happy then go for it xx

It's a lovely idea as it gives you more time and attention to give to your other 2 DC! Can't believe some of things people have said on this thread! Your DM and baby will have a great time and sometimes (well in our household anyway) the youngest always seems to take up so much time! Definitely go for it OP, your wee one will be in good hands 😊

Normal people know there's nothing wrong with a toddler staying with Grandma for a wee

And normal parents know it's wrong.....

The op asked is she selfish and awful,,,, yes!

Normal people know there's nothing wrong with a toddler staying with Grandma for a week.

I don't know a single person who would leave 1 child at home while the rest went on a "family" holiday. I'd say it's very unusual, not something normal people do as a matter of course.

I couldn’t leave one of my children behind, what’s the point in having a family if you don’t do stuff as a family and holidays are precious even if they don’t remember you will talk about it and there are always photos. I imagine they would be hurt in years to come to think they were left behind. It would be different if you were leaving all the kids and going away as a couple...

You know, I have never heard anyone say “each to their own” without meaning “I think you are so wrong you couldn’t be wronger”

judgemental creeps
Twats

Can you people literally not cope with people having a different opinion to you without resorting to juvenile and nasty name-calling?

Argue, defend, speak out, disagree - don't call people names. It's something that should left behind once you're an adult.

@Thierryhenryneedisaymore I am going there this year, to the very hotel you mention - hoping we will enjoy it and maybe I can use my younger child as an excuse not to go on the frankly terrifying rollercoasters!

I joined mumsnet a few days ago
I have never come across such a bunch of bitches in all my life
50% of people on here are a bunch of self entitled "perfect parents"
cannot believe how awful you are to other mums asking for advice...so personal when you dont even know them

I bid mumsnet farewell as all i feel when i come on here is anger towards people i dont even know...i dont have time for that emotion

People were called those things because they were asking why OP had her daughter at all if she wasn't going to bring her on this holiday.

Twatting is as twatting does, SheGot.

People were called those things because they were asking why OP had her daughter at all if she wasn't going to bring her on this holiday.

Victim blaming at its very best ...... they made me do it!!!

I have 3 dc’s and I absolutely think this would be really good for all your children the older ones would have more freedom and also time with Mum and Dad. Meanwhile your little one would have one to one time with her grandparents doing things only 2y olds love to do!! Then you’ll come back together and share stories of the different adventures you have all had. Of course it will be strange to leave one behind but it certainly won’t do any harm. XX