To leave 2 year old at home?

[Ember12]

Me and my oh have been discussing going on holiday with the children in in late august, i was telling my mother about it and she offered to look after my 2 year old for the week spoke to my oh and he thought it was a great idea he would ask his parents to help my mother out that week aswell, we would be be able to go to theme/water parks and take the older 2 on rides etc without one of us having to stay with the baby. Would be able to relax alot more around the pool ad my older two are very confident in water. Anyway were having holy hell over it all with my brothers girlfriend what awful and selfish parents we are and how my mother is playing favourites! My mother works 12 hour shifts 5 days a week and takes turns looking after all her grandchildren 1 stays each sunday night so no favouritism at all! She looked after my brothers children for 3 days while they went on a short break. Aibu in accepting my mothers offer? Or does it really make me a selfish and awful mother?

And if we are talking to ourselves then so are you? Get it.

Silly doesn't even come close.

Indeed, Sunny.

It's a bizarre thing to be hung up about into adulthood.

But Sunny she's being excluded from FAMILY outings!

It's fine she's going to Peppa pig world but the whole family are not going!

It's about spending time as a family!

If the world were scheduled to end the day after they come home you may have a point, Job.

But seeing as that's highly unlikely I'm sure they will spend plenty of other time as a family.

If this is the only thing your parents ever did that really hurt you and there’s no backstory, then I’m surprised that some posters cannot put this behind them. If you were constantly left out and you were left with a random babysitter or family member then it’s totally understandable why. However, for a one off, I cannot see the harm. This child is being left with granny who wants and loves her and she is being taken somewhere else with her parents as compensation.*

I reckon it’s because most instances aren’t a one off maybe. Always exceptions I suppose.

I wouldn't leave one child behind on a family holiday.

Maybe Weebo, maybe not!

Maybe next year the older two can go on "big" rides and the "baby" can't? Maybe gran will ask again and maybe they'll leave her again? Maybe they'll have had such a relaxed time around the pool that a three year old will not fit on again?

Who knows.......

But it's certainly a step towards further exclusion.. not a step away!

It’s definitely not a selfish act although if I were you I’d be weary of your brothers girlfriend.

"But it's certainly a step towards further exclusion.. not a step away!"

Something went very wrong in your childhood, didn't it?

But that's not what's happening here. The OP isn't leaving the two year old behind because they don't like the two year old. It's because two year olds are a fucking nightmare to take anywhere and do anything with.

Yes, yea lots of maybe's.

Maybe she would have hated the holiday and is much better spending time with her granny?

Maybe she will have such a lovely time she will want to do it every year?

Maybe, maybe, maybe.

Something went very wrong in your childhood, didn't it?

Yes I was the youngest and left behind!

But that's not what's happening here. The OP isn't leaving the two year old behind because they don't like the two year old. It's because two year olds are a fucking nightmare to take anywhere and do anything with.

Are they? Why have more then? Are they not also endearing and great fun to be around? Especially when both parents are on holiday and able to spend extra time with them? Learning new things, eating new food?

Not sure why anyone would have more than one if they were a fucking nightmare! Nice!!

Yes maybe maybe, I would therefore show caution and make sure my child didn't feel upset!

Not many two year olds would hate playing in water and spending quality time with their immediate family, assuming you realise you can't lie by the pool as you have a two year old who needs attention!

Hard work two year olds, but very rewarding!

I assure that the chance of eating new food at a water park resort in
Salou is very slim.

Maybe something questionable at the breakfast buffet? :o

Weebo please don't infer disrespect of the OPs choice of holiday venue, that's for another thread!

But I think you understand what I mean, a two year old would love time and attention.

Oh for goodness sake.

For the record OP, I was only joking. Salou is lovely.

You seem the rational type to see that, though.

No offence taken weebo wasn't my first choice oh has very fond memories there as a child

Job the whole family are booked for peppapig world but my oldest has since decided he doesnt want to go and im not going to force him just so its a "proper" family holiday

Ember you asked a question, you asked were you a selfish and awful parent?

I've answered, in my opinion you are. Sorry but don't ask if you don't want the answer.

You're first post said nothing about the benefits for your two year old, it was we can have time with eldest and we can relax by the pool. Later when people have their opinions you then came l wit she wouldn't enjoy it anyway.

Had you first said I think she'd prefer it with gran that may have made a slight difference that she'd been considered. But it was all about an easier time for you and DH. Your DH thought it was great, yes because he gets to relax by the pool.

I think gran is great, works full time 12 hours a day and uses her holiday to spend with your child. I honestly think you and OH should be doing the same.

I know you don't like mine or anyone else's opinion about your parenting, but you did ask...

Ultimately I feel very sad that your daughter won't have precious family holiday time with her parents and siblings.

I know how that feels and was trying to re you for the other side of the fence!

Enjoy your holiday.

As an aside you do know Peppa Pig World is part of Paultons Park which has rides etc that is perfectly suited to a 10 year old Peppa Pig World is about 1/3 of the park (I remember when it was just Paultons Park). If they are excited about Salou then they would love Paultons Park (they could probably do quite a lot y themselves)

or anyone else's opinion about your parenting, but you did ask...

Anyone else who agrees with the opinion your wrong

I do sometimes wonder if the hand wringers end up with anxious, fearful children but that is a whole other thread
Children anxious about when they'll next be ditched by their entire family for a week?

I have already said i appreciate everyones opinions bar the inconvenient child routine and i knew i would get both

I have never said she wont enjoy i know she will, she loved the last holiday i said something along the lines of her been "stuck" in the pram alday she wouldnt enjoy not that she would be but in a different country walking about all day she would spend a fair amount of time in it.

We both do spend our time with all our children as the original plan was to take all three until my mother suggested her staying with her shes two and a very easy going child she would enjoy the holiday and spending time with her grandparents

This is one of the saddest threads -yes we have heard the domestic violence posts etc but this little baby is being left behind for a whole week all because she just happens to be two. Sad. Selfish poor kid

Are you on fucking glue?

Why on earth would she be stuck in a pram all day???

Ride on daddy's shoulders? Hold older brothers hand? Build in sone time that's 2 year old friendly?

You've got three children of varying ages, not two!