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To not give neighbor internet password?

712 replies

NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:21

I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

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Sumo1 · 30/01/2018 07:30

Also if they are from abroad they are probably permanently on skype or similar to their home when they are in the house.

murmuration · 30/01/2018 07:30

The fact that they are so creepy would mean you shouldn't let them use your code.

This, and that was before you reported the banging on the walls! It's a definite no - if they're like this without your internet, imagine what they'd do with it? Even if they weren't planning on anything illegal originally (which their behaviour makes me really wonder - why can't they get their own? Why are they so desperate to have someone else's?), they'd suddenly have massive leverage over you.

brizzledrizzle · 30/01/2018 07:40

@DAWN192 you can change it on Sky, I changed mine when I used to have Sky.

jaimelannistersgoldenhand · 30/01/2018 07:42

My Sky one has been different from the default since at least 2007.

Redact · 30/01/2018 07:48

Why would you give a neighbour you don't really know your password. That could open a whole can of worms. My advice is don't do it.

SugarMilk · 30/01/2018 07:49

I'd report to their landlord and if they keep pestering you say clearly that it's a work WIFI paid for by your employer and that you would be in breech of your contract if you hared your WIFI with anyone.

Your neighbours are arseholes.

blackchina · 30/01/2018 07:55

@NegansDollFace

I would go for this advice from further back in the thread............

I'm only on page 3, but wanted to weigh in as I'm concerned about your situation OP. Apologies if this has been said... Do you have a landlord? You may want to send a message letting them know that the neighbours made this suggestion demand twice, and then implied that they could hear your daughter at night suggesting a possible complaint if you didn't agree. That way if they do turn around and make trouble for you with the landlord, the LL will be already aware of the situation. Just a thought...

No more bloody 'reasoning' with them; they are cunts, cheeky fuckers, and bullies. You need to start reporting this to the landlord now. There are few things in life more stressful than big problems with neighbours; it can make you ill.

And yeah do NOT give them the password. For all the reasons listed in this thread. The MAIN one being security.

I also agree that some internet providers don't do credit checks. They don't need to; they just send a £10 router and get the first month's subscription off you, and if you stop paying, you get to keep the router, but you lose your wifi, and will possibly get a black mark on your credit record.

All the best, I hope you will be OK. Are there other neighbours you could get onside?

BrownTurkey · 30/01/2018 07:57

Keep a diary of these conversations and any incidents including sound recordings. Hopefully you won't need it and they will get bored. Otherwise, council or their landlord. And just remember you have done nothing wrong.

Orangecake123 · 30/01/2018 07:58

Seriously do not agree to do this.

mtpaektu · 30/01/2018 08:01

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Toast3 · 30/01/2018 08:02

Tell him you don’t own the Wi-Fi, it’s provided by your business for when you work at home and you wouldn’t be allowed.

Nocabbageinmyeye · 30/01/2018 08:03

I would act nice as pie when they call again

"Hi, no sorry I spoke to my internet provider, they were outraged. I followed up with my brother, he is a police detective in case they were being dramatic and no I am definitely not giving it put now"

It might sound silly but the nice casual mention on knowing the police might make them think twice about bullying

HolyMountain · 30/01/2018 08:04

For whatever reason theyre reluctant to install their own WiFi ( poor credit rating, illegal activity?) do not cave.

They are bullying twats ready to intimidate you.

NoMoreUsernames · 30/01/2018 08:05

They're trying to intimidate you OP. What kind of idiot thinks banging on their neighbours walls at night waking their kids is going to persuade them to give out their WiFi password? If I'd even being considering giving it to them, which I wouldn't for all the reasons already given, then having them banging on my wall would certainly make my mind up. You don't need to give any kind of reason or excuse, as others say they'll just try to find a 'solution'. A simple 'no I'm not comfortable with that' will suffice or just refuse to engage at all.

gingergenius · 30/01/2018 08:07

What a pair of arseholes. Sorry you're having to live in close proximity to these CFs. No wonder their neighbours moved out.

expatinscotland · 30/01/2018 08:07

NO! Wouldn't even open the door, just yell NO through it. They are twats.

bluebells1 · 30/01/2018 08:07

OP they are bullying you. Do not share password with them. They could download illegal porn or hack or do anything at all and it will come back to haunt you. If they continue harassing you, call the police and ask for advice.

Taffeta · 30/01/2018 08:10

I’m so sorry this is happening op Flowers

Nightmare neighbours in a flat are awful

I had a hideous upstairs neighbour for a few years - parties til 3am midweek etc - ended with me knocking on his door and him putting a shotgun to my head

I moved out - after I’d got him arrested

How attached are you to your flat? IME staying put just because is futile - I’d seriously look into other properties.

BabooshkaBabooshka · 30/01/2018 08:12

Ask them for the pin number of their credit/debit cards and say you are willing to pay for it.

BulletFox · 30/01/2018 08:12

Did you get some sleep in the end, OP?
What time did they stop banging?

BulletFox · 30/01/2018 08:14

Taffeta a shotgun?? Did they have a licence?

I had nightmare neighbours last year, it really takes its toll

JAME0 · 30/01/2018 08:15

Yes, definitely do as a pp suggests and pretend you know someone in the police and they've told you not to do it.

walkingdowntheboulevard · 30/01/2018 08:16

Say no, you contacted your provider for advice and they don't permit it.

JaneyEJones · 30/01/2018 08:23

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peteneras · 30/01/2018 08:26

I am surprised you even asked this question, OP.

Just where did you come from?

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