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To not give neighbor internet password?

712 replies

NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:21

I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

OP posts:
JeezeLouise · 01/02/2018 02:50

Jeeze, those CFs are vile (and really dumb!) - you've handled it so well.

Ikanon · 01/02/2018 04:16

They're bullies and you're doing really well!

rumbelina · 01/02/2018 05:31

They’re being completely ridiculous and don’t ever doubt otherwise!!

ASimpleLampoon · 01/02/2018 07:33

I would definitely discuss options with the police regarding harassment, and contact a solicitor and discuss maybe sending a letter telling them to stop the harassment, and not to approach you again.

look into the possibility of a police information note. beware they can be very toothless so may not be the best response, but I did get someone to actually, physically leave me alone once with one of these.

PiffIeandWiffle · 01/02/2018 07:35

Well done OP.

I'm quite petty & would change the name of my WiFi network to something like "MineAllMine" or "BenefitsSurveillanceVan_08" too.....

Jamiefraserskilt · 01/02/2018 08:05

So the bullies didn't get their own way. Now their only weapon is to drop pathetic comments and bang on the wall. How sad.
Just keep swimming op. Try to smile when you see them. Then they will know you are not affected by their behaviour, even if you are.
You are doing really well. Practice hitting the record button on your phone to capture as much of this pathetic behaviour as you can. What's the betting they will tell the agency that noisy sex was the reason for the banging? That your dd wakes them Etc? Your response just needs to be that there were no issues until the refusal to provide them with access to your internet and This is clearly an aggressive response to the refusal. Keep repeating this.

Would your wee lass benefit from some soothing music via headphones at night so they will not disturb her sleep?I

Internet provision is cheaper than ciggies. Their problem not yours.

FluffyWhiteTowels · 01/02/2018 08:08

Well done OP. You are stronger than you thought Smile. Horrible situation they are causing. Very unnecessary. I would consider this harassment.

Also please remember if you order anything online to put in the delivery instructions NOT TO LEAVE WITH FLAT X. I imagine they wouldn't give you your parcel in the future or use it as bartering tool. You have seen you can't trust these horrible people. They have no decency.

FluffyWhiteTowels · 01/02/2018 08:09

Good point Jamie. They are choosing to spend money on smoking above internet access.

BulletFox · 01/02/2018 08:13

I also had the impression that OP is a little more steely than she might think!

They weren't banging last night, were they? They sound daft as squirrels, they can bugger off and get their own internet access.

Or amuse themselves with silly impressions because they don't have anything better to do to entertain the braincell with.

FrequentFlyerRandomDent · 01/02/2018 09:12

Well done OP and sorry you are having now so much stress at/around your home. I would not be surprised if the neighbours from the ground flood flat left because that top flat couple were also nasty to them. Hope it resolves itself.

AnakinCyberwalker · 01/02/2018 09:18

PiffIeandWiffle Grin also...

PoliceAnti-HarrassmentTeam
VirginAnti-FraudSquad
HMRCInvestigationUnit

gingergenius · 01/02/2018 09:43

@AnakinCyberwalker Grin

Namethecat · 01/02/2018 09:51

Hope you had a quiet night and the school run was on time 😀

hellsbellsmelons · 01/02/2018 10:28

I've just seen this.
CF gone totally mad.
Well done OP.
You are doing everything right.
I hope the agents and LL can get them to behave or get them kicked out.
People in this world never cease to amaze me at times.

UpstartCrow · 01/02/2018 10:43

12 pages and only 1 nasty post, this must be an internet record!

MachineBee · 01/02/2018 11:44

Well observed Upstart. Never known that before on MN!

QuackPorridgeBacon · 01/02/2018 12:08

What bullying twats. Why are people like that? Glad something seems like it will be done. Hopefully it all stops soon.

Aeroflotgirl · 01/02/2018 13:31

What nasty pieces of work, you were very right not to give them your password, cheeky nasty feckers.

OnTheRise · 01/02/2018 16:24

Now you need to change the name of your internet connection to something pertinent. How about, "MyNeighboursAreCheekyFuckers"?

NegansDollFace · 01/02/2018 16:44

So a little bit of success! We had a quiet night last night (thank god!) but had a very interesting morning/afternoon so to speak.

Going out the door this morning we were running behind as DD has misplaced her favorite lunch box and we just couldn’t go without it or with a different one. Cue me running around like a lunatic to find it and transfer lunch into it (it was in the wash basket for some reason! DD blames DS but I wonder ...)

So I come back out and start ushering DD into car just as we’re driving off she tells me that the lady next door wanted to know our internet password as ‘mummy’ had given her it and silly her she’d forgotten it. DD is six. SIX! She doesn’t know the bloody password! I saw red. Was shaking as I left her in this morning.

Had a phone call from agent later that day who wanted to give me an update on the situation. Apparently neighbors had told agent that we had an agreement for internet sharing and that I changed my password, refused to share it but I still took their money. Hence their ‘bad but needed behavior’. Agent asked if they had any proof, bank statements to show the transfers of money? No. Okay, anything in writing? No. Any proof at all? No so she informed them that while they didn’t have proof I had a different version of events and proof of their noise/harassment. So if they continued I could in fact report them. She also informed them that the landlord wouldn’t stand for any kind of anti social behavior. She didn’t tell me their replies by she did promise something would be done.

I’m feeling hopeful but still incredibly pissed.

OP posts:
zizza · 01/02/2018 16:48

They get worse by the minute don't they! Such a nerve!!!!!!

FrancisCrawford · 01/02/2018 16:48

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mathanxiety · 01/02/2018 16:55

Please change your password.

They are beyond the Pale.

I would report them right away for approaching your DD. Don't hesitate. That goes way beyond unacceptable.

notapizzaeater · 01/02/2018 16:55

Wow, was it today they asked her for the password ? I'd be reporting it to the police if it was for harassment

nailyourcolours · 01/02/2018 16:58

When did she have access to your daughter alone?