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To not give neighbor internet password?

712 replies

NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:21

I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

OP posts:
St3amro0m · 31/01/2018 16:53

Your neighbours can get free internet at library, cafes. For their home they need to pay for mobile phone data usage or home broadband or both. Do they work ?

blackchina · 31/01/2018 17:18

YUK vile cunts. They're batshit. taking the fucking piss out of you saying 'n-n-noooo,' what a utter batshit fucking bastard cunt she is.

I hope this all works out OK for you OP.

(Sorry for my foul outburst; I am fucking steaming! What a horrible pair of hideous bullies.)

FlouncyDoves · 31/01/2018 17:20

You should change your WiFi name to ‘ccccunts next dddddoor’

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 31/01/2018 17:23

We'll done OP. I hope the agents sort them out. They'll be asking to.run an extension cable off your electricity next...

blackchina · 31/01/2018 17:26

@flouncydoves

BA HA HA HA HA!!!!!!!!! Grin

To not give neighbor internet password?
MrWasheeWashee · 31/01/2018 17:38

@FlouncyDoves brilliant suggestion

Passmethecakeplease · 31/01/2018 17:39

You rock, OP!! Star

FrancisCrawford · 31/01/2018 17:42

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DarkPeakScouter · 31/01/2018 18:00

Who aren’t they horrid- and stupid!

Ninabean17 · 31/01/2018 18:05

Cf's indeed. I hope the agents can help you!

LambMadras · 31/01/2018 19:37

They sound awful. You're doing brilliant at standing up to them.

Just refer to them as cunts each time you see them now. A nice cheery 'good morning cunt' should do the trick next time you see them. Grin

HermionesRightHook · 31/01/2018 19:41

What horrible pieces of work. I'm glad your agents/ll are doing something and I think you've done absolutely the right thing in standing up to them straight away.

Bullies like this will take as much as they can and being at all accommodating to them just makes them push you harder. Well bloody done on your firm boundaries and assertiveness.

Cake20189 · 31/01/2018 19:43

Ignore him. He’ll soon get the message

middleeasternpromise · 31/01/2018 20:16

They are trying to bully you. The whole approach is not one of asking a favour but expecting that you will comply, their response to your refusal tells you all you need to know. It would be the beginning of endless bothering of you. Now you have set the boundary ignore them and do not engage in pleasantries these people are not polite. Presumably there will be a new neighbour in the recently vacated flat, they will try it on there, lets hope the new tenant has the wisdom to tell them no and you can share your experiences of living alongside the entitled.

kaytee87 · 31/01/2018 20:20

Was reading this thread last night when I couldn't sleep.

Well done op for standing up to them and letting the agency know. Hopefully you're keeping a note of all incidents, what was said, date and time etc. Just incase.

Cakeorchocolate · 31/01/2018 20:23

Wow! CFs!

Well done OP. I hope the letting agent are able to handle the issues with them.

Some people are just unreal!

milliemolliemou · 31/01/2018 20:33

OP well done you. But you do need to chase the letting agents and keep on with your records of their bullying. If you speak to the letting agents tomorrow (eg, what are yu doing about it) mention you will be reporting this to the police.

Good luck, girl.

billybagpuss · 31/01/2018 20:37

Hoping you get a quieter night tonight, unbelievable behaviour xx

user1482573375 · 31/01/2018 20:45

Why do people even consider doing these things? You should say No, it will be abused. I appreciate you find it difficult, but no normal person would even ask for the password to another persons WiFi. . Be brave, say no, otherwise it will drag on forever. He may not pay up, or turn nasty further down the road if you decide that he can no longer use the Wi-Fi.

Aeroflotgirl · 31/01/2018 20:47

He's a CF who wants free internet. No sorry I can't.

kooshbin · 31/01/2018 20:48

Well done on standing up to them. I know that takes a lot of courage to do.

I hope the agents give them a good talking to.

If you keep a diary/journal, write in it, in as big letters as possible: "today I stood up to cheeky fuckers". I've found it helpful, in the process of re-building my self-esteem, to actually write down when I've done well.

Goodasgoldilox · 31/01/2018 21:23

Well done OP - they really are bullies.

You sound really strong and level-headed.

Looking at their behaviour makes me wonder about their desire for non-traceable wifi use. Goodness knows what they would think so bad that they wouldn't want it traced back to them!

Freshme · 31/01/2018 21:48

OP, well done and do ring 101 and get advice at least, if the banging continues.

People who pay ridiculous prices mentioned upthread, we bought a giffgaff PAYG sim for 16yo DC who currently has to stay with GPs in the week because of the school. Unlimited data (though they warn they might slow it down after 9gb a month is used), unlimited calls/ texts and you can tether. I think £10 credit with them buys 3gb and plenty of minutes too.
Not that you should pass the info to the neighbours, OP, I think you need to stop being polite and just blank them from now on, any more communication would only lead to more harassment.

greathat · 31/01/2018 22:12

Anything else call non emergency number and report to police. It's harassment. We had similar, police spoke to them. All stopped

CanuckBC · 01/02/2018 02:33

Just finished reading and thinking WOW!!! All of this over their demand to use your paid for WiFI. What bullies they are to keep going as if they have an entitlement to something that is yours.

You have dealt with this so well! I hope they stop after being spoken to, if not, police are definitely the next stop.