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To not give neighbor internet password?

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NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:21

I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

OP posts:
Thebluedog · 31/01/2018 08:46

Well done OP Flowers

Can I suggest you ring 101 and log this whole thing with the police. Tell them about the WiFi requests and subsequent conversations and now the noise at night

Cosmic123 · 31/01/2018 08:50

No don't give it to him. What a cheek. If he can afford to pay you (I doubt for a second he thought you would take him up on this) he can pay for his own bloody internet.
This happened to me with a neighbour and he used to stream constantly so I couldn't even use my own internet properly.
Also technically you could probably be charged by your provider although I'm sure you would never be caught.
If you don't have to guts to tell him to bugger off (I wouldn't) just say you've checked and your allowance would be used up so sorry no.

Cosmic123 · 31/01/2018 08:53

Also I see people in my job who've been caught downloading pirate films and fined big sums of money. Or say he looks up something else dodgy it would be linked to your IP address. Don't even consider it.

Hissy · 31/01/2018 08:55

they are just bullies. the GF knew that you'd agreed nothing of the sort and thought to bulldoze you.

I suggest you say "No means no and no amount of bullying is going to change my mind. Leave me AND MY FAMILY alone."

Hissy · 31/01/2018 08:57

I think one more event and you need to get advice from the Police. Especially as your daughter has disabilities, this is serious.

notapizzaeater · 31/01/2018 08:59

They are bullies, if it continues I'd ph9ne 101 and ask for advice.

Hope your landlord listens and sorts it,

Toast3 · 31/01/2018 09:01

Next time they knock on the door set your phone to record. If they threaten you at least you will have evidence if you ring your landlord or 101...they sound nasty bits of work!

incywincybitofa · 31/01/2018 09:01

I hope you can speak to someone at the agency and I second speaking to the police, they may not be seen to do much but this couple might also have history.

thegreylady · 31/01/2018 09:05

A couple of years ago my ndn asked if they could use my internet while they sorted a new provider. I said yes as the dd was setting up a mobile hairdressing business and would have lost out on clients. She used to sit in her car in the drive on her phone.
Fast forward a few months, no new provider and the mum told me they were struggling financially and couldn’t afford their own. I left it. Then dad came and asked if their son could use it as he was cross that his sister had internet and he hadn’t. I hadn’t given my password but I had put it into the daughter’s phone.
I took the lad(20+)’s phone to put the password in. When I did so a load of porn sites came up on the screen. I removed the password, returned the phone, told dad why and said I would be changing password at once.
I did this and, astonishingly, within days they had internet! I discovered they had bought a booster to get a better signal from my router!
The parents were mortified, we are still friends but I learnt a valuable lesson.

expatinscotland · 31/01/2018 09:09

Make a diary of all the times they've harassed you and hammered on the walls. Tell the agency now and I'd actually ring 101 for advice. They are harassing you. Fuckwits. I'd like to come over there and tear them a new one. Cunts.

phoebemac · 31/01/2018 09:14

OP, don't do anything like revenge noise etc. Don't have any further contact with them. Report them to the landlord and to the police, this is harassment. Or maybe could even be classed as an attempt at extortion/blackmail?

phoebemac · 31/01/2018 09:16

expatinscotland I'll hold your coat for you.

spiney · 31/01/2018 09:17

OP these people are horrible bullies.
^stick to your guns.
^
They are obviously used to getting their own way. And are angry and outraged that you, a random stranger until recently, won't give them what they want. People like that are incredible aren't they?!

Stick to your guns OP. These people are TOTALLY in the wrong.

Fozzleyplum · 31/01/2018 09:19

Don't "log"with the police by calling 101; you need some proper advice on this if they don't stop harassing you now.

I would write out the whole saga as you have described it here and make an appointment with your local police community support officer. This behaviour is criminal harassment and the CSO should give you some advice and options.

AaronPurrSir · 31/01/2018 09:26

They are harassing you. Definitely echo those saying call 101.

gingergenius · 31/01/2018 09:30

Yes. This is harassment now. Police involvement required I think?

WingsOnMyBoots · 31/01/2018 09:31

I would never dream of either asking for this or giving this - NO.

babyccinoo · 31/01/2018 09:31

Queeniebed

My main concern would be if he is happy to pay for it, why wont he pay for it at his address.

He will probably pay once and then avoid OP, just like a pp said happened to them.

WingsOnMyBoots · 31/01/2018 09:32

Sorry I referring to the asking for the password - I see the discussion has moved on.

Gemini69 · 31/01/2018 09:34

this is threatening and intimidating behaviour.. you must tell your Landlord and the Police ... these people are Bullies..

dentydown · 31/01/2018 09:38

If your WiFi detects BT with FON your neighbours can as well. They can pay as you go on certain devices with a card.
They can sign up to a cheap package using talk talk/virgin. They have options!
Your internet isn’t one of those options!
Stand firm.

stuffstuffeverywhere · 31/01/2018 09:41

Please get help.

Police and then landlord.

Gemini69 · 31/01/2018 09:42

to find yourself stood on your doorstep... explaining yourself to these Next Door Neighbours.. is just fucking appalling... explain yourself to NOBODY... stop answering your door.... and if they knock... call 101 Flowers

Flowerfae · 31/01/2018 09:46

Dear God... I wonder if thats why their last neighbours moved. I'd do what everyone else said and what you are doing , keep saying no, make a diary of everything they are doing and saying and record the banging.

Also they sound the type of people who , if it wasn't about the WiFi it would be about something else. Your doing well standing your ground, I'm rubbish saying no when I feel intimidated. I'd contact the police too so they can make a log of things.

Flowerfae · 31/01/2018 09:46

I have a child with ASD too so could imagine what its like with those arseholes banging the walls :(