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To not give neighbor internet password?

712 replies

NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:21

I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

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zzzzz · 31/01/2018 01:55

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TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 31/01/2018 02:20

They are awful. Any one of us could potentially ask our neighbour for their WiFi code - the point is, decent people don't!

I agree to contact the police and surreptitiously film it if they come knocking again. Is there anyone who could support you in speaking to them? I would be just as anxious as you. But if this gets dealt with you will feel proud and strong, so just keep focussed. Bastards,

MrsCrabbyTree · 31/01/2018 02:51

CFNDN: Give us your password now
OP: No
CFNDN: Why
OP: I don't want to
CF: We need it
OP: Not something I want to do
CF: Why
OP: Why is a crooked letter
CF: You're being ridiculous now
OP: I am
CF: Why
OP: Because
CF: Why can't you behave like an adult
OP: It's not something I want to do Smile
...... and so on. Bet they give up before you do as you're now having fun!

And you can't argue with 'stupid'. lol

DarkPeakScouter · 31/01/2018 02:56

They are really being idiots

nooka · 31/01/2018 02:57

I'd let your landlord know about the hammering as they may well be damaging the property, and it's possible they were the reason why the bottom flat tenant left. The landlord will want all three properties let especially your larger house so has an incentive to respond. Plus you have a right to quiet enjoyment and noise at midnight isn't on. Plus your local police for harassment and possibly the council for noise abatement.

SilenceIsBroken · 31/01/2018 04:00

Sorry you're having to put up with this, they sound fucking horrible, intimidating a woman on her own with a child.

TheMaddHugger · 31/01/2018 04:54

MrsCrabbyTree Wed 31-Jan-18 02:51:31
CFNDN: Give us your password now
OP: No
CFNDN: Why
OP: I don't want to
CF: We need it
OP: Not something I want to do
CF: Why
OP: Why is a crooked letter
CF: You're being ridiculous now
OP: I am
CF: Why
OP: Because
CF: Why can't you behave like an adult
OP: It's not something I want to do smile
...... and so on. Bet they give up before you do as you're now having fun!
And you can't argue with 'stupid'. lol

To not give neighbor internet password?
TheMaddHugger · 31/01/2018 04:56

I agree with MrsCrabbyTree make a game of it.
Watch some Monty Python if you need ammo

TheMaddHugger · 31/01/2018 04:57

Maybe a Spanish Inquisition about Why they need your PW ?? Grin

Mysa74 · 31/01/2018 06:54

We'll done In OP, you rock!
Are they behaving themselves now?

Mysa74 · 31/01/2018 06:57

Well done OP you rock!
Are they behaving themselves now?

HongKongPhooeyNo1Superstar · 31/01/2018 07:01

I think you need to contact the police. You are being harassed.

Greensmurfterf · 31/01/2018 07:05

My NDN recently asked if I'd put him on my car insurance as it would save him money. I was so shocked I couldn't think what to say. I just looked blank and walked off.

Passmethecakeplease · 31/01/2018 07:19

Well done, OP, you've acted amazingly through this horrible position they've put you through.

MrsCrabbyTree · 31/01/2018 07:21

Greensmurf . Incredible. Some people defy belief. No wonder you couldn't think of a reply.

awifeyforlifey · 31/01/2018 07:29

Ugh, I'm sorry OP. You're bloody amazing for sticking to your guns though! In our first place, DH and I had one neighbor who upon moving in asked us for our internet password (DH stared at him and said no). When we moved out, he asked for our parking spot (which is tied to the unit you rent, and his didn't come with one; DH again stared and said no). The cheek of some people. Flowers

zzzzz · 31/01/2018 07:31

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Idontdowindows · 31/01/2018 07:36

I hope you managed to get some sleep anyway OP and aren't too tired to contact your landlord and if you haven't yet the police.

Just tell them all what you told us, show them the thread if you have to, or copy your own posts out of it to send to them.

We're all behind you. :)

bluebells1 · 31/01/2018 08:11

I think it is time to dust off the old stereo for loud death metal while they try to sleep. Twats!

JugglingMuggle · 31/01/2018 08:12

Definitely not. Don’t share it. You could say it’s metered so you have a reason, or that you use it for work so need to keep it just for your work. But you shouldn’t have to give a reason.

AgathaF · 31/01/2018 08:21

If they start the wall hammering again, phone the police and tell them that the neighbours are harrassing you and that you are alone with your child and frightened. Hopefully a visit from the police will calm them down.

BabooshkaBabooshka · 31/01/2018 08:23

If they work nights and sleep during the day you could play really obnoxious music through the wall all day so they get the point. Complaints would fall on deaf ears as you are allowed to make noise during the day during certain hours. The fact that they are doing it at night could get them in to trouble though. As others have said call the agency and police if necessary. Sorry you are having to deal with these nasty weirdos!

JackmanAdmirer · 31/01/2018 08:30

Wow! Just read all this.
Definitely report to your landlord ASAP so they know what's going on. Warn them that if they persist in banging and pressuring you any more that you will inform the police, that might scare them into leaving you alone.

birdlover1977 · 31/01/2018 08:41

Good Luck OP! You are doing so well to stand up to these nasty bullies. I would call the police if you get any further harassment.

blueskypink · 31/01/2018 08:42

Sorry if you've already covered this op, but I don't suppose you do have a friend/relative/colleague who could speak to them on your behalf so you? Someone who wouldn't be intimidated but could make it clear - politely and very firmly - that you aren't to be messed with?

I think the problem is they sense your anxiety and think they can bully/manipulate you into doing what they want if they just keep the pressure up. If you aren't able to compose yourself fully, look them in the eye and say 'no' politely and firmly they will think they can win. The more reasons you give them (my provider says no) the more it prolongs the discussion because you're giving them something to argue against.

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