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To not give neighbor internet password?

712 replies

NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:21

I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

OP posts:
YouTheCat · 30/01/2018 20:04

I read the update and even I felt anxious.

They know they shouldn't be asking. I'd log this with 101 as you feel threatened.

rumbelina · 30/01/2018 20:17

If they approach you again just keep saying NO. BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO.

^^ this is all they are entitled to hear from you.

mathanxiety · 30/01/2018 21:33

Wow! You did SO well.

Your neighbours have brass necks.

BulletFox · 30/01/2018 21:34

Are they behaving tonight, OP?

Amber0685 · 30/01/2018 21:42

As you say if he's willing to pay why not just get his own? You could ask him that. If you feel awkward with that say you have a small download limit and get charged extra if it goes over as others have said. Very very cheeky. Be strong say NO. I can see him not paying as well, should you agree to it. Say NO.

RedPanda2 · 30/01/2018 22:23

You did really well. Is she harassing any of the other neighbours or just you because you're on your own?
I too would like to feel 'normal' and not literally pull my hair out over situations but that's anxiety for you. You did so well

MsJolly · 30/01/2018 22:28

Well done you!👏👏👏

Beamur · 30/01/2018 22:36

Well done! That exchange with your NDN would have been really uncomfortable but it sounds like you have made your position quite clear. Hope they get the message and leave you alone.

cheesypastatonight · 30/01/2018 23:11

I don't understand why don't they get their own?

Ask her, why don't you get your own? If she carries on say, can I use your phone? If she says no, then say, why would I let you use my wifi then? If she says yes, say I'll take it upstairs and give it back tomorrow. If she complains at that say, well, what's the difference?!!!

I'll pay for my services and you pay for yours!!!!

TurmericSpiced · 30/01/2018 23:15

DO NOT give this person your password. If he uses your network, not only will he be able to access your personal files more easily, but you could land yourself in a lot of trouble if he gets up to something illegal using your internet. If he is so willing to pay for it, why on earth doesn't he just get his own wifi like everyone else?

Keep yourself safe!

BulletFox · 30/01/2018 23:18

I don't think OP is going to give her password, it's just that they seem to be harassing bastards.

They really should get their own internet if it's that important.

And not harangue OP.

greeeen · 30/01/2018 23:26

Well done OP, it's very hard to shut people like this down even without mental health/anxiety problems. I hope this is the last you hear about it.

NegansDollFace · 31/01/2018 00:00

Defiantly not behaving. I’ve just been woken up by them hammering on the walls again.

NDN’s partner came round this evening wanting to know why I was so rude to his girlfriend. He literally asked in the same sentence about the fucking WiFi. I told him what I told her: No I wasn’t comfortable and my provider wouldn’t allowed it. Also asked why he couldn’t pay a provider if he’s willing to pay me. Apparently it’s becuase he wouldn’t have to pay me as much. Hmm Still told him no and made up bullshit excuse to go back inside.

Will be contacting renting agency tomorrow about them hammering at the wall.

OP posts:
BulletFox · 31/01/2018 00:02

Oh god - are they still at it? They're insane.

Dial 101.

Ellie56 · 31/01/2018 00:03

I think you need to contact the police too. This is harassment.

Idontdowindows · 31/01/2018 00:03

Definitely the agency, and the police!

Atay strong!

Italiangreyhound · 31/01/2018 00:04

This is so shit, keep a record of everything. They are behaving appallingly.

Ellie56 · 31/01/2018 00:07

If you can still hear the banging ring the police now.

HermionesRightHook · 31/01/2018 00:14

Cheeky, cheeky, cheeky manipulative fuckers. Well done for standing up to them OP.

Goodasgoldilox · 31/01/2018 00:21

Well done OP - you have done a great job in standing firm.

If you haven't mentioned the banging to them - then don't. It would be better if they thought it was having no effect and that you haven't noticed. (They will stop it sooner if it seems useless.)

GrockleBocs · 31/01/2018 00:21

I think Police too. They're harrassing you. If they come again I'd tell them someone in the house has a disability and they must not continue their disturbance. If you've made it clear there's a disability and they persist the police might be more inclined to give them a talking to.

Pipsqueak11 · 31/01/2018 00:33

Vile bullies- well done for standing up to them. Stay strong ! You can do it!

TheMaddHugger · 31/01/2018 00:39

because he wouldn’t have to pay me as much.

Yeah, and I bet the recently gone neighbour had buckuss trying to get money from them.

dinosaurkisses · 31/01/2018 01:03

They've each made an embarrassment of themselves so they can save, what like £15 between them each month?

Bet they reuse their wrapping paper every Christmas as well, the tight bastards

BulletFox · 31/01/2018 01:14

dinosaur unfortunately they won't be able to evaluate or feel embarassed.

They just have a weird mindset, there's no getting through to those sorts of people. I've encountered a few myself.

Main thing is that OP is safe and it doesn't escalate.

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