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To not give neighbor internet password?

712 replies

NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:21

I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

OP posts:
fizzthecat1 · 30/01/2018 17:03

OP DON'T DO IT!!! It will slow down your internet even if it's "unlimited". It's never really unlimited your provider just slows you down when you're using too much,

DGRossetti · 30/01/2018 17:05

OP DON'T DO IT!!! It will slow down your internet even if it's "unlimited". It's never really unlimited your provider just slows you down when you're using too much,

Not if you're providing BT-FON ....

Worldsworstcook · 30/01/2018 17:09

Avoid answering your door for a while. Don't give them the pleasure of harassing youb

KanyeWesticle · 30/01/2018 17:18

Brilliant. Well played OP. God on you.

KanyeWesticle · 30/01/2018 17:19

*good on you :)

OtterInDisgrace · 30/01/2018 17:20

Well done, op. I know how hard it is to do that when you’ve got anxiety problems. If I need to confront anyone over anything I build it up so much in my head that I get completely tongue tied and my voice shakes when I talk to the person concerned. It’s truly awful.

So VERY well done, you. Flowers

The sheer cheek of these people. I’m guessing they got so used to the other neighbour doing it and are now shocked that everyone else won’t fall into line. Shame you can’t talk to the old neighbours. I wonder if they let them use their Wi-Fi willingly?

80sQueen · 30/01/2018 17:24

Errr why didn't you just say NO for goodness sake. You are dragging it out so much it's turning into a bigger saga than it should have been in the first place.

PhuntSox · 30/01/2018 17:25

Tell the police they are harassing you, they will check to see if they are banned from accessing the internet. You will also have a start if they escalate things.

Idontdowindows · 30/01/2018 17:28

Errr why didn't you just say NO for goodness sake. You are dragging it out so much it's turning into a bigger saga than it should have been in the first place.

Because OP has anxiety and this is already a huge step for her. Not everyone is assertive. OP is not. OP is doing incredibly well.

OtterInDisgrace · 30/01/2018 17:29

Is that a thing? Being banned from accessing the internet?

HouseworkIsASin10 · 30/01/2018 17:30

Good for you OP, you did brill Smile

Hiphopopotamus · 30/01/2018 17:30

80sQueen she did say no! That was the whole point of the update and everything she said to them.

OP I think you’ve done brilliantly - it sucks have anxiety and overthinking everything, especially when you are forced to be assertive to almost strangers. Well done!

nonfatnofoamlatte · 30/01/2018 17:32

If they are so desperate, why can't they go to a coffee shop with wifi or the library? I bet it's something dodgy! Keep saying NO!, Op! You're doing great so far!!

ItsNachoCheese · 30/01/2018 17:32

No hope in hell id share my wifi password with neighbours! My 2 sisters and my best friends have it but thats it

DarkPeakScouter · 30/01/2018 17:52

Well done Op!

FrancisCrawford · 30/01/2018 18:00

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Ellie56 · 30/01/2018 18:16

80sQueen OP did say no. The trouble is the CFs won't accept it and keep hassling her!

StrangeLookingParasite · 30/01/2018 18:35

Errr why didn't you just say NO for goodness sake. You are dragging it out so much it's turning into a bigger saga than it should have been in the first place.

Maybe you should consider actually reading the thread.

LoniceraJaponica · 30/01/2018 18:44

Well done. If they keep bothering you could you find it in you to say that your brother is a police officer and you will ask him to have a word with his colleagues at the station? This could be construed as harrassment.

Rollonweekend · 30/01/2018 18:55

You did really well. They were unbelievably cheeky to outnumber you like that and hassle you on your way out. Anyone would have found that very awkward. Well done !

Doesitgoto11 · 30/01/2018 19:06

Fuck me, now I've heard it all what a pair of cheeky fucking bastards!!

OP you did amazingly. I kinda wish you live near me, I'd happily come over and back you up!!

RibenaMonsoon · 30/01/2018 19:33

Could they possibly not want to get their own internet because they are in the UK illegally? As some companies dont credit check and this couple are prepared to pay, i dont see any other reason why they wouldn't just get their own.

In which case if they get found out, you may be done for collusion for allowing them access to your internet. Please don't give your wifi password out. You've done amazing so far! If it all gets too much tell them to leave you alone or you will call the police and report this as harassment.

I hope you are doing alright Flowers

incywincybitofa · 30/01/2018 19:40

I have read this morning's update, you did really well. Most people struggle to say no.
If there is any trouble tonight then do keep a record and tell your land lord

Appuskidu · 30/01/2018 19:42

They sound bloody awful! Apologies if I’ve missed it but have they said why they can’t just pay to get an internet connection of their own?

midnightmisssuki · 30/01/2018 19:55

80sQueen did you even read the full thread? She did say NO for goodness sake. Hmm