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To not give neighbor internet password?

712 replies

NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:21

I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

OP posts:
justforthisthread101 · 30/01/2018 16:07

I get on very well with my neighbours and there isn't a cat in hell's chance I'd do this.

And I wouldn't even acknowledge the comments about your DD (which are beyond awful).

"No, I'd be violating the terms of my agreement with my provider. I won't share my password."

That's all you need.

Ellie56 · 30/01/2018 16:07

Yes well done OP. I think most people would have felt threatened and intimidated in your position. This is now harassment. I would contact the police if you get any more of this.

What are they up to that they don't want to acquire wifi by the same means as everyone else?

Hmm Hmm

LexieLulu · 30/01/2018 16:11

If they can pay... why don't they?

Sounds dodgey

murmuration · 30/01/2018 16:13

You're amazing OP! You stuck to script and got out the essential info.

I hope they leave you alone, now, but if they don't you've got some excellent advice here about getting their harassment logged.

StoatofDisarray · 30/01/2018 16:17

Well done, OP: you were amazing!

alotalotalot · 30/01/2018 16:22

I'm not particularly anxious and this morning would have upset me. How horrible for you.
They really thought you would agree after all that banging. They must be mad.

OneFlewOverTheDodosNest · 30/01/2018 16:26

Massive props OP - I am generally blasé about everything and even I would have been having huge palpitations and stuttering through my words when faced with that. Although I must admit I'd probably have gone into rage mode and ended up shouting at them that if they wanted a favour then maybe they shouldn't have spent the night harassing me and that I'd be calling the local police line next time they fancied it.

CaMePlaitPas · 30/01/2018 16:30

Well done OP, sounds like a nightmare. If they carry on you can report this behaviour as harassment.

Italiangreyhound · 30/01/2018 16:33

NegansDollFace you are a super star! That was great. The cheeky fucker followed you to your car! How dare she! Hopefully she will now leave you alone.

Please keep us posted and if this occurs again I'd seriously consider just ignoring her. She tried to unpick your argument. That is just so rude!

You are much stronger than you think. Smile

GuardianLions · 30/01/2018 16:35

If you have any shared filing in your home - they could access it. Really bad idea to give your neighbour the password.

Knittedfairies · 30/01/2018 16:38

Well done OP 👏

BitOutOfPractice · 30/01/2018 16:43

OP I tghink that kind of confrontation would have made anyone's heart beat rather faster, anxiety or not. I know that I would have been jittery as hell!

But you did absolutey great! Really well!

If you can take anything from this it's to know you are a strong and capable person who takes no shit! You rock!

BitOutOfPractice · 30/01/2018 16:44

And console yourself with the fact that they'll have had no sleep either, with all the banging. Hosited by their own stupid petard!

ohfourfoxache · 30/01/2018 16:46

Well done, you’ve done brilliantly

Keep a record of everything that happens, no matter how minor you think it is

BMW6 · 30/01/2018 16:46

Well done OP!
If they approach you again just keep saying NO. BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO.

Baffy · 30/01/2018 16:47

Brilliant - well done OP!

LML83 · 30/01/2018 16:53

Well done OP! I have no anxiety issues, not that bothered about awkward conversations either. I would still have found this very daunting, and difficult. You handled it brilliantly. Really hoping that is the end of the matter and they will sort out their own internet.

NewPapaGuinea · 30/01/2018 16:55

You can make your network SSID hidden so you'd need to know the name to join it. This will stop people finding it so easily. I would also change the name and admin password if it's still the default so they can't access even if hidden (they'll already know the name so hiding it would be a moot point)

UpstartCrow · 30/01/2018 16:56

Well done OP, your neighbours sound vile. That would have been extremely unpleasant for anyone to deal with.

ShellyBoobs · 30/01/2018 16:58

Yes well done OP. I think most people would have felt threatened and intimidated in your position.

I agree. It’s awkward for anyone.

Just remember OP, they are in the wrong, not you! As difficult as it may be to focus on that.

BrownTurkey · 30/01/2018 17:00

Bravo OP. I hope they get off your back.

EmpressOfTheTERFingOceans · 30/01/2018 17:00

Good on you, OP!

sirlee66 · 30/01/2018 17:01

Well done OP!!! You did so well!!!

StoorieHoose · 30/01/2018 17:03

Well done OP. Now if she asks you again you know that you can stand up to her. You could even get in a concerned ‘is everything okay as I heard a lot of banging last night?’ And be as much of a madam as she was when she brought up your daughter waking in the night

ObscuredbyFog · 30/01/2018 17:03

Well done Op, you did brilliantly. Flowers